Eleven months to the day since I was dumped by email.

[crim son]

But who's counting? :shrug:

[Starbucks Anarchist]

1. ...

:hug:

[crim son]

4. Thanks.

I only miss being loved, not the man himself. :hug:

[raccoon]

2. Sorry that happened to you.

That was a tacky way for the other person to behave.

[crim son]

6. I thought so.

We wouldn't have been happy if he'd stayed.

[gemdem]

3. So sorry.

:hug:

[crim son]

7. It only bothers me at these monthly anniversaries. Okay, I lie.

HOWEVER, next month I'm going to have some sort of celebration in honor of his departure. My thought is that, after that point I will never, ever refer to him again. This celebration will naturally involve quarts and quarts of alcohol.

[gemdem]

10. Can't say as I blame you

I know the feeling well. :hug:

[WCGreen]

17. Burn something....

Out in the backyard...

An effigy, perhaps...

[crim son]

21. Somebody did give me a voodoo doll.

If I can find it I am going to do as you suggest. Thanks, Mr. Green! :hi:

[kmla]

5. Wow. That's harsh...

I'm sorry to hear that.

Hope I'm not offending you when I say it, but whoever did that has no class at all. And no hope of ever acquiring any.

My best to you, though.

[crim son]

9. You are right.

He came from a difference... social sphere... than I do. It wouldn't have worked out anyway.

[Hugin]

8. That's almost a year...

A year is a long time.

Almost long enough for it to be in the past.

You'll get there crim son!

You've already made it almost a year!

[crim son]

12. I married while recovering from my first love.

The entire recovery took about ten years. The man who dumped me was, I believe, my second love so I'm anticipating another nine years of regrets. It's pathetic but that's the way I'm built.

[Hugin]

19. I'm sorry to hear about how the cad went about it...

and I'm sorry you're heart broken.

:hugs:

[crim son]

20. Thank you very much.

I'm greatly improved over what I was even four months ago and I am lucky in this circumstance that the ex treated me so shabbily and with such contempt that it colors my memory of our entire relationship. It is easier because I can say truthfully that I was lied to and probably used to make another woman jealous. He was a fine actor! (seriously... on the stage too, haha) but now that I understand what happened what is left is confusion and the fear that I'll be fooled again by somebody else.

[Hugin]

23. I especially dislike this person of whom we speak...

for robbing you of your innocence.

[Cabcere]

45. I'm sorry you were treated that way.

:hug: I've had something very similar happen to me - not being dumped by e-mail (that is really low! :grr: ), but I have been lied to, manipulated, and used by a guy I thought was sincere. (He was an actor, too...hmmm.) It's no fun, and although it happened several years ago, the feeling of betrayal and being afraid to trust anybody still lingers. :cry: Luckily, I've found someone who is beginning to help me overcome those feelings - someone who was a very good friend throughout all this, so that helps. It's taking a lot of work on his part, but he has been wonderful, kind and patient, and I'm beginning to have some faith in love again. :) I hope things work out for you, too - you seem like a really nice person who deserves better than the type of person your ex sounds like. :hug: Sending good vibes your way! :hi:

[crim son]

48. Yeah, actors. There may be a connection. But you give me hope

because the worst part of what has happened is how I was lied to, I guess for months, and how stupid I was to believe him. Tears come to my eyes just thinking about it because I don't trust anybody any more and cannot imagine doing so again. You know the feeling yet you have found someone who cares enough about you to work through it. I'm glad for you. :hug: Thank you for your response and for your good vibes! :hi:

[Cabcere]

50. Glad I could help

even if only a little. :hi: It really hurts at first - I felt like a complete fool for a while, and like you, I was unwilling to trust anyone at all for a long time. But it does (slowly) get better over time. :hug: I hope you will find someone who can help you through these hard times like my friend helped me, and in the meantime, I'll be thinking about you. :hug: Peace!

[idgiehkt]

11. I lurves you baby.

What a p*ssy he was to do it that way. Wow. I know that he was not worthy of you and few people are. You have been right about every piece of advice you've given me and had I taken even half of it I would not be in the weirdness I sit in today. You are just an amazing person, and I know I have just tapped the surface of the miracle that you are. Sorry to sound sappy and corny, but you continue to amaze me. It infuriates me that someone would be so mercenary with your heart, but I know in mine that no one ever gets away with anything in this life, even if they appear to, and that he will meet his suck-ass karma when the universe sees fit. You are much loved and respected around here, probably by people you don't even know about.

:hug: :loveya:

I Will Survive - Gloria Gaynor
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KZV8w3KpNpg

[crim son]

14. Dearest idg!

I'm weeping over your post while I was dry eyed thinking about MJC. I lurves you back, sweetie. You are always on my side. And now, I will listen to one of my all-time favorite songs, "I Will Survive." :loveya: :hug: :loveya:

[mainegreen]

13. So sorry.

Your love life really sounds more complicated than a person should have to endure.

:(

[crim son]

15. It is my fault.

Certain mistakes I've made I will not repeat.

[NewWaveChick1981]

16. That sucks.

:hug: :pals: I'm really sorry, crim son.

[crim son]

22. Thank you NWC.

Whenever I post about it on this board, and you know I do, so many people are kind to me and it makes me feel better. Like I'm not horrible, you know?

[NewWaveChick1981]

29. You are definitely NOT horrible!

:hug: Geez, getting dumped by a lying bastard in no way makes you a bad person. He's the horrible one

[av8rdave]

18. Wow...what a way to have someone end a relationship...so sorry

[crim son]

24. Oh, he dragged it on for a while, managing to dump me two

more times over the following months - by email - until he showed up here pretending not to be himself but conversing with me. There is something not right with him. Anyhow, he's no longer a DUer, if you get my drift. He disrupted poorly. :eyes:

[kay1864]

25. What a complete and utter dork

No.class.at.all. You're better off without him.

:hug:








Would it help if I flirted with you outrageously by email?

"You're HOT. And smart too."
:loveya:

[crim son]

27. "Would it help if I flirted with you outrageously by email? "

It couldn't hurt! :P :loveya:

[Haole Girl]

26. By email?

What a coward.

You deserve much better, anyway! :hug:

[crim son]

28. By email while I was on vacation.

Coward is the one thing I have called him. I believe he is afraid of everything, especially happiness and being loved. I know people will say things like that when they're dumped, to make themselves feel better, but in this case it is true. As I've said before on DU, I was the best thing that ever happened to him. Period. It's cold comfort however.

[Haole Girl]

30. Even if you call him that partly out of anger, it is TRUE!

That was an extremely cowardly thing to do.

:hug:

[sleepyhead]

31. Hope you are feeling better by now.

I just found this thread and sympathize. I was dumped years ago via a message on my answering machine and have never forgotten. There are many cowardly people in the world. Sorry you were/are hurting.

[crim son]

46. I'm sorry you've never forgotten your experience.

I guess we all have one or two injuries that, though they be many years old, still ache now and again. :hug:

[Guava Jelly]

32. Im Sorry Crimmy

He was an Idiot for letting you get away :hug:

[crim son]

40. He doesn't think so!

I was a means to an end, that's all. I'm responding to you in the evening and now I'm getting all mushy. If I hadn't given up weekday drinking I'd be pouring a tall one right now. :pals: Thanks, GoPsUx.

[Guava Jelly]

42. Well he is stupid!

And you are better off with out him!
:pals:
:hug:

[Maine-ah]

33. ooooh, ouchie

what kind of peckerhead dumps by e-mail? sheesh, someone had no balls, eh?

:hi: :hug: :beer: (on me)

[crim son]

41. Thank you my dear.

I don't mind if I do!

[SPKrazy]

34. Hey Crimmie!

you are loved!

:loveya:

:hug:

can e-mail dump you? :shrug:

[crim son]

43. Anybody/anything can and has dumped me at one time or another.

Badly worded post and it's too late to correct it now! I PMd you.

[SPKrazy]

58. ...

:hug:

I got it

and per my compulsive self

have replied already

:hi:

[Shine]

35. This is how lame I am:

My first read of your subject line had me thinking: "What? She couldn't get email for 11 damn months? What the hell kinda DHL service does she have?!" :rofl: Duh me. It's weird how my brain sometimes works...or doesn't, in this case.

Now, of course, I get it. Sorry that happened. Onward and upward, baby. Onward and UPward...:hug:

[crim son]

37. LOL!

Well, that would have been a tragedy... no email for eleven months! The effect on my life would have been less dramatic but still, no email, what a painful thought :7

[The Traveler]

36. Count instead

the vast horde of DU naughty boys held relentlessly under the sway of your wit and considerable charms.

We luv ya, crim.

[crim son]

39. Well, no you don't!

Not really. However as I've said many, many times, the friendship and support and yes, friendly flirting I've found on DU has often made bearable days and nights I thought I'd go mad with sadness and loneliness. People like you and a few others who have been unusually kind, of course I count myself lucky to have captured your attention. Very lucky, am I.

[The Traveler]

51. Well, yes I do

in that I care about what happens next and how you feel about it and I doubt seriously I am either alone or exceptional in that matter.

So there. :P

[crim son]

53. I'm not about to argue

because you're making me happy. :)

[The Traveler]

55. I like it when yer happy.

Just 'cause.
:hug:

[crim son]

56. ...

:hug:

[wildhorses]

38. what a fuckwad--

lets get skittles to kick his ass!!!:hug:

[crim son]

44. Yeah!

Where's skittles? :P
You know how it is: I don't want him to be physically hurt or to suffer in any way, unless it's over the loss of me! hehe. That's the kind of pain I could support!

[wildhorses]

47. truly i am a pacifist but, for your sake i will make an allowance

:rofl: hang in there chicka, better days are coming:headbang:

[Danger Mouse]

49. That's pretty harsh.

If I had you, I wouldn't even think of giving you up, for anything.
:hug:

[crim son]

52. ...

Thank you, that's just too, too dear of you.

[Danger Mouse]

64. Oh, I'm RATHER dear. Rather. Really

:)
But how are YOU?

[crim son]

66. I'm doing RATHER well, all things considered.

You are utterly dear. :hug:

[Danger Mouse]

70. As are you.

:hug:
Always glad to get a smile out of you!
:hi:

[gemdem]

54. Hope the day is getting better

as it comes to a close, and that in time this day will be just another day. (I say this and look at my calendar and wonder which dates will haunt me down the road.)

:hug:

[crim son]

57. No dates, I hope.

:hug:

[gemdem]

59. There are always some (even now)

But going forward, here's hoping that they're fewer in number than they otherwise could be.

:hug:

[crim son]

60. Here's hoping.

:toast: A toast to moving forward!

And now I'm going to bed REALLY REALLY early. Goodnight gemdem. :hug:

[gemdem]

62. A good way to finish the day

G'nite! Sleep well, be well my friend.

:hug:

[Deja Q]

61. .

:hug::hug:

[TOhioLiberal]

63. Oh Crim son

that sucketh mightly. :hug: Take comfort in the fact that we love you. We appreciate you. And, speaking for just myself, I think you're pretty nifty. :) :hug::pals:

[BarenakedLady]

65. Hey baby...

Sorry I missed this thread yesterday. :hug: :loveya: :hug:

You are an amazing well-loved, well-respected person. Remember that.

[crim son]

68. I'm remembering that there are wonderful people who say so.

Today is a good day. I look forward to the year anniversary after which I will not look back. Got to tend to the rubble remains of my life after the MJC hurricane, and once I'm rebuilt I'm replacing MJC with an actual man, as you say. :loveya: :pals: :loveya:

[Redstone]

67. Stop counting. Just stop. And stop NOW. I'm begging you.

OK?

Redstone

[crim son]

69. If it makes you feel better, this is yesterday's post.

Redstone, I am going to stop counting when one year has passed. I promise, dear friend. And yes, you are invited to the naked bowling anniversary celebration. :hug: :hug:

[Redstone]

71. I'll be there. With bells (though apprantly not much else) on.

Redstone