I'm depressed about Valentine's Day this year

[Connonym]

Normally I don't give a rat's ass about such things but this year I'm feeling sorry for myself. It's been years since I've been in a good relationship and I'm starting to feel like maybe that part of my life is over :(

[fizzgig]

1. i'm in the same boat myself

that part of your life is not over, it just feels like that sometimes

:hug:

edit cuz i forgot some letters

[SPKrazy]

21. ...

We could paddle together in that boat?

[SPKrazy]

2. Me Too.

just

me

too.



:shrug:

[wildhorses]

3. give me an oar--cos i am in the same boat--

might as well help row:P:hi:

[SPKrazy]

25. Hang On!

There's a bunch of us in here!

:hug:

[JoDog]

37. I'll bring

The outboard motor.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

43. I'll bring a sail.

That boat has another passenger.

[alarimer]

4. Me too

And I would bet there are a lot of us. Do something nice for yourself.

[EFerrari]

9. And / for someone else. Bobbolink had a great idea about sending

Valentines to real public servants. A nice hijacking of a day that can make a lot of people feel left out, I thought.

:hug:

[Whoa_Nelly]

5. Don't let a Hallmark Moment get in the way of who you are

And know this:
Valentines Day also has regional traditions in the UK. In Norfolk a character called 'Jack' Valentine knocks on the rear door of houses leaving sweets and presents for children. Although leavings treats, many children were scared of this mystical person.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Valentine's_Day

Love yourself, enjoy yourself...It ain't about Valentines's Day,,,the sun shines, or doesn't, for you each and every day...make a choice :loveya:

And don't let Jack Valentine fool ya...if you do get some candy, by hook or by crook, on Valentine's Day, it's stil you that comes shining through. ;)

[SPKrazy]

20. Interesting Post

and true...

and Valentines day is also for kids in the US too.

:hi:

[SeattleGirl]

6. Aw, no it's not, Connonym.

Yeah, it may seem like it, and it can be a difficult time to get through, but don't give up hope. The right person is out there for you.

And as for Valentine's Day, well, may I suggest being your own Valentine this year? Take yourself on a date, or do something at home that you enjoy, like reading a "gulty pleasure" book, watching a movie, whatever.

Being loved by another starts with loving yourself.

[SPKrazy]

10. Sis...

shiddap!

we're moping here dammit

:hug:

I have no idea what this valentines day will bring

not looking forward to it particularly, but not dreading it either.

:shrug:

[SeattleGirl]

22. Bro!

Don't be a meanie! :P

Maybe you should take my advice -- treat yourself well, not only on Valentine's Day, but EVERY DAY! :hug:

[SPKrazy]

24. Mebbe

I will.

I'm not a meanie.

:hug:

[TOhioLiberal]

7. Me too...

...guess I'll just have to log onto DU and flirt the hell out of the lounge!

[SPKrazy]

12. Well....

flirt baby flirt!

:evilgrin:

:hug:

[Nicole]

8. I'm with you

No valentine for me either, for several years. :(

On the bright side, I don't have to try to pick out the perfect gift for someone. I will treat myself to a lovely consolation prize. :rofl:

[SPKrazy]

11. Good Idea!

the consolation prize that is! :rofl:

:hug:

[Nicole]

13. Yes it is!

You should do the same. :hug:

At least when I buy myself a consolation prize, it always fits & is the right color. I know my taste very well.:rofl:

[SPKrazy]

14. I Should Do The Same

should I buy something to wear?


no dog collars and leashes though.

:rofl:


I'll get an OU Sweatshirt!

:yoiks:

:hug:

[Nicole]

18. Of course you should!

Everyone should.

The OU sweatshirt is a great idea & the perfect color for a valentine's gift. :loveya:

[SPKrazy]

19. Well Of Course You Are Right

it is the perfect color

crimson and creme as you said would make a lovely valentines gift.

:hug:

[EFerrari]

27. I bought myself a pair of great earrings and may just order up

some flowers. "Dear me, you rock."

:rofl:

Geeze, really. If whatshisname were still here, it would be another anxious day that we had to get through.

I'm really beginning to appreciate this being single thing. :)

[latebloomer]

33. Sending flowers to yourself is a beautiful idea!

Love, love, love yourself and get it through your head how loveable you truly are!

Everyone else will soon get the message too!

[Nicole]

40. Good for you!

"Dear me, you rock." :rofl:

I don't know yet what I will buy myself but I'm sure I will love it. :loveya:

[idgiehkt]

15. when is it?

I'm feeling kind of the other way. I can't say that I've been deprived, I've had 6 serious relationships, but haven't had one in a while. I'm not sure I'm capable of handling the strong emotions that accompany that kind of thing. I don't know, I'm just in a weird place about it. Sorry you are sad. I hate it but I am happier alone. That sucks, but it's the truth. I'm way passionate when I'm with someone, but relationships are so damn painful. Catch 22.

:hug: :loveya:

I don't think that part of my life is over, I just am wondering if I am one of those people that won't meet her true love until she's 50 or 60, if I live that long. That's okay, I guess.

[SPKrazy]

16. Hey Sweetie!

:hug:

:loveya:

:shrug: you are right, life ain't over because of a day

[RFKHumphreyObama]

17. Welcome to how I feel this time every year

At least you've been in a good relationship -I've never experienced one. Valentine's Day is typically very depressing

:hug: :hug: to you

[SPKrazy]

23. Sorry

sounds sad...

mebbe there will be one coming your way soon.

:hug:

[LoveMyCali]

26. Don't let a made up holiday get you down

Celebrate love, give a flower to a dear friend, give a card to a sibling, let the people in your life that you care about know it.

Here's my Valentine this year :-)

[deepthought42]

39. It sucks never having a relationship...

It's one of those things in life I'd like to experience...just once...

:hug:

[Oeditpus Rex]

28. You're my valentine

all year 'round. :loveya:

[Connonym]

34. you are Such a flirt

[Ghost in the Machine]

29. ...

:hug:

[leftofthedial]

30. no love in my life either

just the unrelenting empty ache of my pathetic grinding loneliness

[reyd reid reed]

31. Shit.

That's in a week, isn't it? Hell, less than a week.

Damn.

[Crabby Appleton]

32. ...no words

:cry: :hug:

[Connonym]

35. How are you Reyd?

I've been thinking about you and your family but, as Crabby Appleton said, I have "no words":hug:

[deepthought42]

36. *hugs*

Try never being in a relationship. It sucks too. You start wondering if you'll ever meet anyone, ANYONE AT ALL. Just once I'd like to go on a date...or whatever. Valentine's Day sucks. And the commercialism of the day just pisses me off. Working in retail I've cultivated a dislike for holidays, and right after Xmas is over, out comes all the tacky red/white/pink hearts and cuddly teddy bears, heart-shaped boxes of chocolate, and heart-shaped jewelry. Bleh.

I have no desire to celebrate the holiday, I just wish I had somebody...


:hug:

[MissMillie]

38. maybe we should ask Skinner for a "lonely hearts" forum

Seems you and I are in the same boat, and I'm betting it a big one w/ a lot of passengers.

[blockhead]

51. looks like you need a heart

from a random DUer. :)

[Cabcere]

54. Maybe we could book Sgt. Pepper's Band?

:P (Sorry, that was bad. I apologize.) ;)

[Jimbo S]

41. You're a pretty cool person

I bet next year at this time you'll a special someone in your life!

[Connonym]

42. Aw, thanks

I suspect I'll have to look beyond Waukesha as there are only about 15 liberal men in Waukesha and I've already dated all the single straight ones. :shudder: or I may have to reconsider my position on dating republikanners

[Jimbo S]

48. Waukesha County has the third largest number of Democrats

Only behind Milwaukee and Dane Counties.

Something to keep in mind.

[Lydia Leftcoast]

44. It's been a long time for me, too

Last year at this time, I was at the gym, and a bunch of women, all married or in relationships, were talking about their Valentine's Day plan, and one of them turned to me and said in a chipper voice, "And what plans do you have?"

I hate it when people assume that every adult is paired off.

[Connonym]

45. it does feel like the world is designed for couples doesn't it?

I read something recently that now there are more unmarried adult women than married women. Maybe things will change. I'm not going to hold my breath though.

[Lydia Leftcoast]

46. I have choir practice on Valentine's Day night

I think I'm going to bring some candies or cookies that are marked "just for the non-paired." (There are several of us in the group.)

[u4ic]

47. .

:hug:

Life can have some interesting twists. One never knows what's around the corner...perhaps true love will be for you. I hope so. :)


I'm going to do something special for myself this Valentine's. Either I'm going to pamper myself (long bath, pedicure, facial) or I'll call up a single friend and invite her over for dinner.


It's worked out that with the exception of about 7 or 8 years, most of my Valentines Days have been spent alone. :-(

[Cabcere]

49. Can I join in?

My Valentines this year are going to be Coke Blak and chocolate. :loveya: It's going to be AWESOME.


...okay, yeah, I kind of wish I had somebody, too. :( Chocolate? *offers DU Loungers some leftover Death By Chocolate cake* :pals:

[Brewman_Jax]

50. I can appreciate your pain

I got "the talk" earlier today. :cry: She couldn't duck and dodge anymore, so she had to talk to me. That explains the unemotional cards and unreturned messages, but it's my fault for not seeing that earlier. :eyes: If she had said that I wasn't what she wanted for dating material weeks ago, it wouldn't have come to this. :(

She left the door open, but why? I don't need any more "just friends", and I'm NOT taking on any long-distance "just friends".

You're right, it isn't fair. :thumbsdown:

[idgiehkt]

52. I'm so sorry

:hug:

[Brewman_Jax]

53. Thanks

but don't hug too hard, you might squeeze the tears out.

[crim son]

55. I was feeling pretty philosophical about it but today I started

remembering how happy I was last year and this year he's making somebody else happy & they're going to have a passionate night etc. etc.

Everything I post tonight is self-pitying so beware.

[Norwood]

56. Mind if I duck in and join you all

I never really cared much about valentines day either, but this year I find myself getting more and more depressed the closer it gets. Mostly because last years was so good, had a girl that I was in love with and she loved me.

In any case the relationship turned sour late last summer and after spending months trying to somehow keep it alive we broke it off in December. I've moved on past that relationship but I guess I cant help but be kinda bummed out this VDay.

[Q3JR4]

57. Me too.

I haven't been in a real relationship with someone for over 5 years, it's getting old. To compound that I'm not currently employed (even with a degree) and my supply of fundage is slowly wearing out. I may not be able to make rent this month, or buy food, or any of that other stuff without borrowing money from family and/or friends.

In fact I was informed today that the reason I wasn't hired at the last place I applied was because of my degree, I was told that I'm "overqualified". My degree is in a hard science. Aside from the tech industries in Idaho (which mostly hire engineers--which I'm not), the only other jobs I can work are those that I'm "overqualified" for. If you're willing to work the job and you're a little more intelligent than those who usually work the position you're applying for, why is that a bad thing?

Wasn't getting a B.S. from a university supposed to alleviate these kinds of troubles?

*Sigh*, you just can't win for loosing.

:cry:

[Deja Q]

58. Pretend it's like a Star Trek convention, only you never got into Star Trek...

Stick with your hobbies and likes and love will come.

I know how you feel and I've never yet had a Valentines' Day when I wasn't single.

But my hobbies and interests will never think I'm not good enough. So it's all good.


:hug: :hug:

[Catfight]

59. I have horror stories about Valentines day, and that's when I was

with someone. I'd rather be alone on Valentines a million times than go through the disappointment and humiliation for love. The news said people spend an average of $120 bucks on valentines, take that money and totally buy yourself something frivolous, like a great bottle of wine and toast to your great life and the fact you don't have any distractions right now in love. By the way...hug...if I could, I'd have a bunch of single DU people at my place for a single valentine party.

[Left Is Write]

60. ...

:hug:

[DainBramaged]

61. You and me both my friend

:cry:

[SPKrazy]

62. ...

As the day gets closer


the day gets closer :cry:


:hug:

[Patiod]

63. reassuring story:

One of my friends is cranky and negative about EVERYTHING. She is separated from her evil husband, who was president of his class at B school, but who quit his first post-MBA job and hasn't really had a steady job in 15 years since. He spends a lot of his spare time trying to destroy her self-esteem.

On the plus side, she has a great kid and an awesome job (which she hates and thinks would have been much better if she hadn't gone to our mutual "crappy old" alma mater - but that's how she views everything - as half empty)

So Miss Negative hasn't had a date since she and her husband separated about 5 years ago. She goes on Craig's list, and sees an ad which basically reads: "fat, bald, and no money - I'm a triple threat." She figures anyone who posts that must actually be an interesting person, and decides to email the guy, and then meet him. He ends up being fascinating, interesting job, well-traveled, self-confident, smart, thoughtful, funny, and kind --- everything her husband wasn't. Only downsides is he's not good-looking, and who the hell cares when you have everything else going for you? She thinks he's cute in his own way, and that's what matters. And he thinks she's the greatest thing since the iPod.

No happy ending yet, but I can't believe somebody for whom life just constantly disappoints was absolutely delighted with the VERY FIRST online date she ever had (hell, the first DATE she had in 15 years).

It's a crap shoot, but you can't win if you don't play. Not suggesting on-line dating, just letting you know that you don't know who is around the next corner.

[zingaro]

64. Valentine's Day is a made up holiday anyway so

who'd WANT a bunch of lovey dovey shit saying you make me all smushy-wushy-gooey anyway, right?




At least that's what I'm telling myself. I'll let you know if it works.

:)