So, whatever happened to the love of your life?

[amitten]

Mine up and moved to San Francisco and that was that.

No, he wasn't gay (for some reason people always ask that).

[slj0101]

1. She's asleep in the other room.

:)

[amitten]

3. You're very lucky. n/t

[slj0101]

7. Thanks. For a guy not known for his luck, I guess I am.

[enigmatic]

13. Mine too!

:hi:

[Ariana Celeste]

2. After years of rarely speaking

we became friends again. He's my buddy :)

[BlackVelvet04]

4. After being divorced from him for 19 years....

I found him again and we remarried. Life is good!

[allinktup]

5. he's working on a script in the closet

[amitten]

8. Um...is his desk in there? n/t

[amitten]

6. Wow...that is highly unusual! A great story. n/t

[BlackVelvet04]

14. We finally grew up....

and I'm very blessed.

But the poor guy has TWO anniversaries to remember. ;-)

[Nicole]

44. WOW!

That is true love! Good for you on finding him again. :toast:

[NanceGreggs]

9. He's downstairs ...

... watching TV.

He showed up one night, and forgot to leave -- probably because I did everything I could to make him extremely forgetful ...

He makes me laugh when I most need it, and knows how to hold me when I need to cry.

And after all these years, knowing that the love of my life is never far away is the best part of life itself.

Happy Valentine's Day, Jeffro.

[amitten]

10. That's sweet. Sounds like a great guy. n/t

[SPKrazy]

11. She Married Someone Else

then divorced him, and I was with someone else, so we missed each other on that fly by.

now she's remarried for many years and has teenaged kids, happy, and I'm happy for her.

:hug:

[MoseyWalker]

12. that person found someone better at the time, so

I moved on, and they moved on, and now I find myself where I am.

What a strange place to be.

[amitten]

15. Not someone better. Someone better for them.

And for someone else, you're the best.

[Shine]

16. I married him.

:loveya: almost 14 yrs ago...

yes, I feel deeply blessed.

[amitten]

19. You are! n/t

[Kali]

17. which one?

[amitten]

21. I dunno...your favorite? n/t

[Kali]

26. no favorites, all are unique

married to the current one

[merh]

18. he married the other girl, the one he got pregnant

I see him around town from time to time.

He is a good dad and a good man.

And he still makes my heart race.

[wildhorses]

20. sent me a dear joan letter a couple of months after i moved

saw him again a couple of years later. he had married (she was pregnant) and divorced. he wanted me back but:shrug;


i was stupid

[haf216]

30. We can all be stupid when it comes to love.

[wildhorses]

32. everyone said it was puppy love

so i thought something better would come along...it never did

[haf216]

35. Or just not yet,

you never know what's going to happen. (or at least that's what I keep trying to tell myself) LOL

[wildhorses]

39. ---never say never

:hug:

i was told by this amazing psychic...(don't laugh--she tripped me out!! spent four hours with me and would not take a dime)

anyway...she said that i had not yet met my soulmate...that the guy i have been talking about was NOT my soulmate...

so--who knows but, i am getting pretty frickin' old:rofl:

[haf216]

40. I hear you!

I turn 39 at the end of the week, but still have hope.

[wildhorses]

42. happy birthday, early and welcome to the lounge--

nice thread you started:hi:

[haf216]

45. Thank You

I should say that I have been here sense May, I just tend to lurk more than anything else. I enjoy keeping up with what is happening to everyone in the Lounge and I enjoy your post.

[wildhorses]

47. it has been nice 'talking' with you also--

going to bed now. nitey nite :hug:

don't be such a lurker:P

[haf216]

48. Good night

I right behind you, I have to be up at 5am.

[haf216]

22. He just disappeared one day.

Stopped returning phone calls and was gone.

[amitten]

23. I'm sorry. That's really the cowardly way out. Probably best that

you didn't end up with a coward!

[haf216]

27. I know it was for the best.

Wasn't the first time he had pulled it, but I had made it clear it would be last, if he ever did it again, I think that's why he never "came back." I still miss him sometimes thought.

[Heidi]

24. He's asleep upstairs

with Call Me Wesley. :P

[enigmatic]

25. Ginger's got the Christopher Walken stare in that pic!

:hug:

[Heidi]

29. Hahahahahah!

Ginger is _THE_ Continental. Christopher Walken is only "the continental." :rofl:

[kedrys]

130. ROFL!!

I read the title of this post and the title of the next post, and I was about to tell Call Me Wesley on you...

...but he evidently already knows. :rofl:

[REP]

28. Marrying Him March 18

On edit - we've been together over 14 years.

[allinktup]

31. congrats... long engagement?

[REP]

37. Not Really!

He got a wild hair to make it legal around the end of December, and wanted to do it right away, but March was a soon as it could be done with a wedding dress, caterer, flowers, etc etc. No wonder I have a migraine!

[Heidi]

43. Congratulations, REP!

:hi:

[REP]

46. Thanks!

According to another thread, he's a douchebag for getting me too big a ring and I'm even douchier for accepting it ... so at least the wedding won't have that not-so-fresh feeling...

[Heidi]

49. The size of your ring is nobody else's business.

And I :loveya: you to death for using the term "not-so-fresh feeling." :rofl: :spray:

[REP]

50. My Ring *Can* Be Seen From Space....

Only more 3-dimensional and apoplexy-causing!

[Heidi]

52. I think it's lovely, REP.

I feel the same way criticism of big, ol' honkin' engagement rings as I feel about criticism of the fact that I don't _have_ a wedding set: it's a personal choice, and we ought to respect other people's personal choices, especially when they don't affect us at all. :hug:

[REP]

53. Well, You Know You Can Count On DU To Flame About Anything!

It's not about my ring in particular, but any ring costing more than some people think is proper. One person even said anyone who would spend more than 9K on a ring should not be "allowed to breed" ... so I'm thinking I may need an even LARGER ring since I'm sterilized!

Thanks for compliment on the ring. I am part magpie/part douchebag, so I am drawn to bright, shiny objects. Sorta like the media.

[Heidi]

55. If CMW had

gotten his vasectomy _before_ we got married, I might have bought him a big ol' honkin' ring, too, just to show my gratitude. :rofl:

You sound like my kinda magpie/douchebag, gf. :pals:

[REP]

58. What ,erm, Kind Of Ring ... ?

I'm Shocked!

Oh wait, no that's me with the dirty mind. Sorry 'bout that!

:pals:

[Heidi]

60. Hahahahahahaha!

:rofl: :spray:

(Full-disclosure: I did inherit my mother's first wedding set: a 2 carat solitaire set in platinum, but I just don't wear rings on my left hand, so the wedding set will eventually be passed on to The Wiley and Excellent Boy Cat Named Ginger. :rofl: :P )

[REP]

63. Damn! Wanna Adopt a 42-Year Old?

I'm almost completely housebroken and I have a hyperthyroid Siamese (just dx'd today!) and about 100lbs of Maine Coon. Plus I have an Apple software engineer. I have my own place, cook my own meals, and make an excellent home for Wayward Shiny Objects.

[Heidi]

66. You are TOO funny!

I don't wanna adopt ANY HUMANS!!!! You can be my buddy, though. (And don't tell the anti-materialists, but the reason I have my mom's first wedding set is that my dad bought her an even bigger one for their 30th anniversary. Aren't my parents SERIESLY EVIL?!11)

[REP]

70. ~sulk~

I'm BARELY human, dammit. I've eaten/breathed so much cat hair in my life I'm sure I'm some part feline by now. Probably the butt. I shed, too.

And yes, your parents must seriesly sux0r to spend their money on things they enjoy! No wonder you're so evil yourself, being their spawn and all.

[Kixel]

84. That's really pretty

Classic, not gaudy as some larger rings can get. Congratulations!

[auntAgonist]

51. Congratulations to both of you

:toast: to many MORE happy years.

Do you have plans to travel for a honeymoon?

:)

aA
kesha

[REP]

54. Thanks!

Travel? Yes, and how! Vegas (baby!), KC for a post-wedding thing with our family; maybe overseas next year ...

IF I make it through the wedding!

[Rhythm]

33. she's curled up in the blankets, about 6' from me...

and i am the luckiest person in the world to have found her.

[amitten]

64. You really are. Congrats. n/t

[RFKHumphreyObama]

34. Never had one

:cry:

[Heidi]

38. .

:hug: :pals:

[amitten]

65. You forgot to add the "yet". n/t

[Reverend_Smitty]

36. Haven't met him yet...

I'm not entirely worried about that yet, I've got a lot of years ahead of me to find him

[amitten]

67. You're right. One of my relatives met hers in her 50's. And they

are both very happy, and married for almost 10 years now.

[chknltl]

41. The drugs wore off so she dumped me.

Oh hell, you REALLY don't want to know.

[Hardrada]

56. She is upstairs sound asleep along with our venerable tabby

cat.

We've been married 35 years.

My first fiancee (who rates as an Old Flame) is now a psychologist. We keep in touch.

[Nicole]

57. He found a new love

and moved on.

[northofdenali]

59. Mine's just finished folding today's laundry -

my back was hurting. Loved him since 1969. :loveya:

On edit - now petting cats, plural.

[Dastard Stepchild]

61. I've had two... a lovely lass and a great guy...

The lass and I had a rough time making an long distance relationship work (thanks oppressive immigration policies!).

The great guy... I married him. :)

[Crabby Appleton]

62. she moved to Cleveland and married some other dude nt

[idgiehkt]

68. I've had six

they were all very different and very unique in their own ways. The last one hit me the hardest when it ended, I'd have been happy to have spent the rest of my life with her but we just weren't compatible. To this day sometimes I still miss what we had together and wish it could have been her.

[quiet.american]

69. Well, first -- which one -- secondly -- I have no idea.

Even Google doesn't give me a clue!

[SeattleGirl]

71. He's alive and well, and crazy about me, like I am about him.

:loveya:

[Maine-ah]

72. I married him.

together for 12 years now, just had our first baby 3 months ago!

[ScreamingMeemie]

73. We broke up, went our separate ways, ran into each other at age

22 and have been together ever since. I made the biggest mistake; I'm grateful I got a chance to correct it.

[Arkansas Granny]

74. The last I heard he had divorced the woman he dumped me for.

[lizziegrace]

75. I've had two

one I married and he decided he would rather be with someone younger after we were married over 18 years.

The second, too much baggage for both of us. Doubt I'll get another chance, but it was nice to feel something so strong for someone again. :)

[Qanisqineq]

76. I wish I knew

I last talked to him 6 years ago. I'd just like to know he's alive and happy. I'm married to someone else now but would like to know what he's doing with his life.

[Katherine Brengle]

77. He snores, so he's out on the futon...

:D

[bicentennial_baby]

78. One's on the phone with her mom, and the other

is brushing his teeth :)

[NC_Nurse]

79. He's on the other computer.

Sipping coffee and working on GarageBand. The usual. :-)

[xchrom]

80. s & b have both gone onto paradise.

my lovers died young.

hmmmm -- i wonder if i should put a warning sign?

[hippywife]

81. He just

got out of bed. :)

Ten years and going strong!

[William769]

82. He became an angel last year.

:cry:

[Katherine Brengle]

85. I'm so sorry for your loss.

:hug:

[William769]

87. Thank you for your words.

They mean alot.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

89. my condolences

:hug:

[William769]

100. Thank you sweetie.

[Dulcinea]

83. Married & living in Florida, last I heard.

I lost track of him a couple of years ago. No one has ever made me laugh like he did!

[ChickMagic]

86. He died

I was stupid and didn't realize he was gay.
But he was just practice for the real love
of my life. :hi: derby!

[Lumily]

88. I'm very lucky. I have two.

One is at work right now. We've been together for 18 years, and married for 15.

The other love of my life is at school right now. She'll be 9 years old, in October.

[crim son]

90. I'm going to say I haven't seen him yet.

There was one man when I was 23... I fell for him the moment I saw him but he was from Norway and when I realized we weren't going to be together forever I moved across the country to get away from the sadness. The next guy, I fell in love with him when I first heard the sound of his voice, on speakerphone! But since it ended the way it did I don't count him as a true love. The STBE, he is not my true love nor am I his and we've made each other unhappy for many years. At this point I'm not interested. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, I won't have to iron any men's dress shirts. :D

[schmuls]

91. Died almost a year ago at 57 - it is a sad Valentine's day

[Redbear]

102. Im so sorry for your loss

I hope you have postitive V-Day memories to help you through

[schmuls]

104. Thanks for your kind reply. I do have many good memories after

23 years.

[Mad_Dem_X]

92. I married him. n/t

[Chan790]

93. I have no clue...

I stopped keeping track after about 3 months...the break-up had been terrible and swift. Long-term friendships were destroyed as people ran to take sides, criminally-mean things were said, etc.

[KG]

94. making some other guys life a hell.

[azmouse]

95. He's celebrating his 20th wedding anniversary with me

this April! :)

[GalleryGod]

96. I MARRIED her,Silly.

:loveya: :pals: :loveya: *















*Of course I had to go thru Bad Marriage #1, to get here. Sort of like an Exit on the North Jersey Turnpike.:puke:

[GenDem]

97. Been married to him for 28 years

Not without a few bumps in the road along the way, but we are very happily content, now.

[raccoon]

98. I've always wondered if I never met him because he was killed in Nam.

Sort of half-serious here.

I never met him, I know that much is true.

[Burma Jones]

99. She's playing with our Kids

I am a VERY fortunate guy.......

[HoneyBee]

101. After 17 years of not knowing... we reconnected last fall.

We've rekindled the "flames" :)

[cmd]

103. The puppy or the man?

They are both napping in the next room. It's hard work being awake for two hours.

[Norwood]

105. I haven't met her yet

Hopefully I will sooner than later huh

[havocmom]

106. He gave me a kiss and went to work

He will be home when I get home tonight.

More kisses for me :loveya:

The bozo-of-my-life is probably still trying to please wife #2 and falling short

[NMDemDist2]

107. i worked on my co-dependency issues and gave him up

:rofl:

[1gobluedem]

108. That question reminds me of this Christine Lavin song

One of my favorites:

The Kind of Love You Never Recover From
© 1990 Christine Lavin

I know a couple
She sits in a rocking chair working puzzles
He watches TV upstairs
She has a secret she has never let out
A man she thinks he never knew about.
She hasn't seen him in 30 years
The mention of his name doesn't brings on tears
If you ask her "Are there any regrets?"
She'll tell you "No"
But she never forgets.

It was The Kind of Love You Never Recover From
Even though she found another one to take his place
She never will escape the truth
At times like this
When the moon is bright
When the air is foggy like it is tonight
She'll think about what might have been
If she had just held on to him.

I know a man who has done it all
He sailed the oceans
Climbed the mountains of Nepal
He lives high up on the Avenue
With a beautiful wife
Lovely children too.
But there's a woman he still dreams about
Certian thing's he's learned to live without
If you ask him "Are there any regrets?"
He'll tell you "No"
But he never forgets.

It was The Kind of Love You Never Recover From
Even though he found another one to take her place
He never will escape the truth
At times like this
When the moon is bright
When the air is foggy like it is tonight
He'll think about what might have been
If had not let her
Slip away from him.

I read about a woman who said
She never regretted
Anything she's ever done
Such arrogant words always seem to be spoken by those
Who then die young.

So here am I
Looking at you
Oh tell me
What are we gonna do?
Am I destined to be your regret
Are you that one I will never forget?
Years from now will we curse the day
You let me let you walk away
Isn't this too dear a price to pay
For the freedom
Of going seperate ways?

This is The Kind of Love You Never Recover From
Don't tell me that I'm gonna find another one to take your place
I never will escape the truth
At times like this
When the moon is bright
When the air is foggy like it is tonight
I'll think how sweet life could be
If you would stay with me
Oh stay with me
This is The Kind of Love You Never Recover From
Don't tell me that I'm gonna find another one to take your place
And try to face the truth
Let me hold you close tonight
The fog has lifted
And the moon is so bright
Think how sweet life could be
If you would stay with me
Oh stay with me
This is The Kind of Love You Never Recover From.
This is The Kind of Love You Never Recover From.

[Critters2]

109. He joined the Peace Corps, went to Thailand

fell in love with one of his students (who was 12 at the time), waited till she was of age, and married her. Then he went to grad school, and she did her undergrad at the same time. She met and fell in love with a prof, and left Mr. Right. Who then started calling me. By that time, I was involved with someone else--who is still in my life, and much more stable. I don't see her falling for any 12 year olds. So, I'm happier this way.

[WritingIsMyReligion]

110. Haven't found it yet.

'Sides from my kitty-kitty. :P

[bikebloke]

111. I can't think of anyone in that category.

Maybe at the time, I thought they might be the "Big Love". No one rates that now, even in memory. I guess I got over them.

Funny, the other night I dreamed of a sheila I had a crush on in high school. I had 't thought of er since then. My subconscious must have been cleaning house.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

112. i thinks shes building a guitar/bass right about now.

[Broken_Hero]

113. The love of my life,

is currently at work, and won't be home until late tonight...I miss her all ready.

[DrZeeLit]

114. A series of missed opportunities and then, heartbreak...

We were high school sweethearts.
He went off to war.
I wrote very day.
He got honorably discharged.
And was seriously changed by the war experience.
He broke up with me.
I married someone else.
My husband left me when I was 8 months pregnant.
Love of my life had just gotten married himself.
But came to my aid with a shoulder to cry on.
Then five years later, I got married and... love of my life got divorced.
Ugh.
We just were never "available" again at the same time.
Then, tragedy struck my life, and he was so THERE for me.
We began an affair.
Silly now to think of it, both of us married.
And we broke off, never to see each other again.
Never.
But we both got divorced.
And now I live far away. I remarried. I am happy.
But part of my heart will always belong to him.
I hope he's happy.
I hope part of his heart will always belong to me.

Yes, I know, that sounds odd, and I'm being honest.
My heart has lots of room.
A time it was, quite a time.

(I'm at least smiling)

[xmas74]

115. He married someone else

and became a lawyer.

[Guava Jelly]

116. She wants a flat in paris ,some horses,a new wardrobe, a cute little

sport scar with a chauffeur and a house in the country.

Canadians :mad: :rofl:

[sakabatou]

117. Found someone who wasn't "a geek"

[MedleyMisty]

118. Mine's at work

But will be home in about an hour and we're going to go eat at Lupie's (yay three vegetable plate) and we need groceries and some toiletries so we'll probably go buy them. And probably go to a bookstore, because that's what we do mostly. Go to bookstores. All the time.

I'm wondering if he has a surprise Valentine's gift for me, but if he doesn't it's cool. Just being able to look at him and hug him and talk to him is a gift.

We've been together seven and a bit years, since we were 18. :) Been married four and a bit.

[alarimer]

119. He lied about being divorced

Well, maybe not so much the love of my life, after all.

Haven't really even come close otherwise. It's so depressing. I have gotten to an age where I don't even get responses on my Yahoo ad. I am guessing it's my age (38) but I guess I am not good-looking enough or whatever.

[VelmaD]

120. I have no idea...

but he really needs to get his ass in gear.

Sometimes I think I probably already met him and just fucked things up. Other times I think I already know who it is and despair of ever being in the same time zone, much less zip code. But usually I just try not to think about it because it's too damn depressing.

[Cabcere]

121. My first love

(or, at least, the one I *thought* was going to be the love of my life)...kind of betrayed me, I guess. :cry: I thought he was my best friend, I thought I loved him...and worse, I honestly thought he loved me, too. Turns out he didn't and had just been playing with me all that time. It's too bad...ours would've made a great story to tell our kids, if we had gotten married and decided to have children. We met at age ten in the county spelling bee. His number was right beside mine and we really hit it off, becoming good friends right away. We kept running into each other here and there, even though we didn't go to the same school, and every time it was really great to see him and we had a good time talking, hanging out, etc. I'm not sure when exactly I "fell in love" with him...maybe it was just a gradual progression of feelings over the years, I don't know. Our junior year of high school, we were both accepted to the Governor's School, so we finally could see each other on a daily basis. Senior year, we finally ended up dating...for about two weeks. During that time, he treated me like total crap, and yet I still thought I loved him even after we broke up. He was one of those guys I thought I could change, you know...make him love me through being there for him no matter what, but it didn't work out that way. I finally realized he didn't care about me when I asked him to be my date for senior prom, he accepted, and then two weeks later dumped me - his friend of eight years and (I thought) possible love interest - to go with some other girl he wasn't all that interested in (either). :cry: It's been almost four years now and I keep thinking I'm over it, I'm over him, but it still hurts pretty badly, you know? Maybe iife, and although I didn't think it was possible for me to fall in love again, I think I may have with him. :loveya: He has been a wonderful friend to me for the four years we've known each other, and although we're not officially dating any more (the long-distance thing makes it pretty tough), we're still very close. If things are still the same between us in two years, he said he'll propose to me then. :loveya: And, although I'm a classic example of a commitment-phobe, I'm totally okay with that - I could do a hell of a lot worse than spend the rest of my life with this man. (I know, that sounds horrible, lol, but I mean it in the best way possible!) A lot may change in two years, but I hope whatever happens, we will still at least be friends, because he is wonderful. :)

[femmocrat]

122. I wish I could find out.

I have searched on Google, but have not been able to find any trace of him.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

123. He dumped me.

[DainBramaged]

124. She fell in love with a truck driver 30 years ago

And then I met my beloved ex who was the mother of my beautiful daughter, so now I know why she left.


I think it was a good move on her part in retrospect.:woohoo:

[treestar]

125. I dunno

I never got to meet the guy, and sometimes toy with the idea he was killed in Vietnam or something.

[Xipe Totec]

126. Dark Compass

Compass of my life,

love that was never meant to be.

Dark beacon defined by absence,

lightning rod of powerless rage.

Guide of my life,

and focus of frustrated fury.

Absence that defines me,

background that marks,

a place I never was.

[rug]

127. She's single and miserable in Brooklyn.

[amitten]

129. That's a bad way to be. n/t

[XemaSab]

128. I decided we weren't right for each other

A few months later he met some chick, knocked her up, and married her, but they're totally done now. I still don't think he's the right person. :P

[RetroLounge]

131. I have two...

They are both upstairs asleep in their room, on the floor, in sleeping bags, with lots of pillows and blankets and stuffed animals strewn about.

Why I ever bothered to get those kids each a bed I will never know...

RL