I never knew my heart was breaking, but today I found out.

[MiniMandaRuth]

I just wanna die.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

1. ......

I'm so sorry, sweetie......

I know it hurts.......

You will live, and love again, believe me.........

Take care of yourself, be good to yourself.......heal.......:hug: :loveya:

[LadyoftheRabbits]

2. ...

:hug: I'm sorry... trust me, as badly as it hurts now, it really does get better over time. :hug:

[gemdem]

3. Many of us have been there

It hurts like hell now, but give it time. Sorry that you're going through this.

:hug:

[WritingIsMyReligion]

4. Ouch.

On V-Day, too? Who broke it? Numbskulls. :grr:

:hug:

[MiniMandaRuth]

8. What really sucks is that it wasn't just one group of people.

It was a bunch that I thought were my good friends.... They all decided to hang out, not invite me, and call me up to prank me.

[Gormy Cuss]

15. Sorry that you went through this, but now you know.

They aren't your friends. They're losers. You're a good kid and they're probably jealous.
At least that's the way it worked when I was your age.

We appreciate you here, MMR.
:hug:

[Cabcere]

17. Aww...

I'm sorry sweetie. :( :hug: That's not cool at all. We love ya, though! :grouphug:

[SeattleGirl]

23. I'm sorry, MMR

I know how that feels, as it happened to me when I was your age. Unfortunately, at that age, lots of kids don't realize (or sometimes don't care) how their actions affect another.

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[Pushed To The Left]

26. Sounds like you're better off without them! n/t

[idgiehkt]

31. I'm so sorry.

I can relate, having been on the receiving end of some pointlessly cruel behavior myself lately. I know how it feels to be hurt, especially when it is a group of people behind it. Alot of times there is a rather charismatic ringleader, and the others may be playing up to that person. Sometimes it has more to do with what they want for themselves in the group dynamic than it has anything at all to do with you. You were just the target, but it could have been anyone. I know it hurts now, and those feelings you are having are hard to deal with. What I did when it happened to me is, and I know this sounds sappy, but I just tried to reframe it as the universe giving me an opportunity to look through a window and see some true colors; because even though it hurts temporarily, the truth is that I do not want mean people in my life. And the universe hates a void; you will make new, better friends, once you let go of the old ones that were not good enough for you anyway. This says NOTHING about you, and everything about them. :hug: :loveya:

[mulsh]

32. living well is the best revenge

I mostly lurk but I've been on DU a long time.
your posts always shine.
and the above subject line is one of the best pieces of advice I've ever received.

[Bassic]

37. Oh god, that's even worse than being dumped....

I've also been there. You'll find real friends soon enough, mini. :hug:

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

38. I am so sorry MMR. You did not deserve that.

If I lived in your town I would seriously tell them off. You are smart and much more mature than you are. You remind me of myself , especially the CP that I was in high school. You are smart, politically aware and you are just too cool for school. I was the same way that you are and I never changed. One day your coolness will pay off in the real world, its paying off for me in a lot of ways. Hang in there.

[Fran Kubelik]

39. Oh no.

They are small minded jerks. You are a wonderful, smart, compassionate person who would never do that. You win.

:hug:

[WolverineDG]

42. Hard way to find out they were not your friends

:hug: :loveya:

I hope you feel better soon. High school, in some ways, sucks.

Don't ever let these people back into your circle of "trusted friends." Be cordial with them, but keep them at arms' length.

dg

[LaraMN]

43. What a bunch of losers.

I'm sorry, sweetie.
Onward and upward, with a better class of people, baby.
:hug:

[HEyHEY]

46. Holy fuck! You HAVE to kick someone's ass for that

Don't let em fuck with ya like that.

[riona]

48. May you soon find new friends

who who treat your heart gently.
:hug:

[grace0418]

53. Oh my god, the *same* thing happened to me freshman year of high school.

I remember it so well. I had a best friend who moved out of state when I was in 7th grade. I was really sad (I didn't have a lot of friends) but eventually met another girl who became my best friend. Then I found out my old friend was moving back to Illinois and I was so excited to have my two friends meet. She moved back towards the end of 8th grade and I was really looking forward to having two really good friends to hang out with in high school. I thought we'd be like the three muskateers or something.

After 8th grade graduation I went on a long trip with my parents and when I returned I found out my two friends had been hanging out. Great right? The only problem was they decided they didn't need me anymore. One of them invited me to her birthday party and purposely left notes all over her room where the two of them were talking about how they wished I would leave them alone and how they only invited me to the party because they didn't know how to get out of it. I was horrified, embarrassed and utterly crushed. Instead of staying overnight, I left immediately and was never friends with either of them again. My freshman year was a nightmare as a result, because the mean girls circle friendless girls like sharks who smell blood.

The good news is that I survived high school, learned a bit about myself and what I did to drive my friends away, and met truly wonderful friends in college who have been my friends ever since. But I know how hard it is when you are in the middle of it.

Lots of :hug: from me!

[Mad_Dem_X]

56. That's terrible!

What a shitty thing to do. They are clearly *not* your friends.

[lizziegrace]

5. ...

:hug:

[redwitch]

6. oh no! what happened?

:hug:

[Blue-Jay]

7. Please understand, Mini, that I don't mean to make light of your feelings..

However, you'll recover quickly. Yes, you'll always remember the emotions of today, but you'll be OK.

[Brewman_Jax]

9. I can appreciate your pain

I've just been there. It will get better. :hi:

P.S. I'm not getting a Valentine's Day card, either. :P

[EFerrari]

10. Sometimes holidays stress people out a LOT. Give it a few days.

My rule is: Never make a decision or TAKE one on a holiday.

Love you MiniMandaRuth.

[Left Is Write]

11. Ohh...

:hug:

I'm sorry.

[TimeChaser]

12. ...

:hug: :grouphug: :hug: :grouphug: :hug:

I know the feeling. I had my heart broken badly in 8th grade, and I honestly couldn't get over the rejection for another three years

[HEyHEY]

13. I wish I could tell you it gets better - but I'd be lying

[VenusRising]

14. It's their loss entirely.

You are such a thoughtful and sincere person that it's sometimes easier to mess with people who have their stuff together. It actually says a lot more about them as people than it does about you. I had the same thing happen to me and it felt like I was going to die. Just remember living happy is the best revenge.

:hugs: Feel better, honey & Happy Valentine's Day!

[Nicole]

16. I'm sorry your "friends" broke your heart.

Mean people suck.

:hug:

[SPKrazy]

18. Love Ya Kiddo!

sometimes people are dickheads

sounds like they were today.


:hug:

:loveya:


;)

what comes around, goes around, in other words, they'll find their Karma

[MichiganVote]

19. Guess it hasn't been done to them yet hon'. Cold and cruel.

[crim son]

20. People are cruel without always understanding how much

pain they cause. I hope this was just a misunderstanding. :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

[otherlander]

21. They're idiots.

They don't know how close we all stand to the edge of the abyss. It's a worldwide blindness.

[graywarrior]

22. They're dopes and I hate them.

[prolesunited]

24. I know you feel bad now

and that it's like the end of the world, but you has soooooo many brighter tomorrows ahead of you.

I absolutely HATED high school and was completely miserable (probably needed psychiatric intervention, but instead self-medicated, which is not anything I would recommend.)

But, my point is that these things pass, and as you grow older and wiser, you're able to better put them in perspective. Just hang in there and try to find better friends or spend more time developing your own interests. You don't need all that drama in your life. Cast off the people who cause it, even if it means spending some time alone.

It wasn't until I went away to college that things got better. I started with a blank slate and was able to redefine myself.

[BlueJazz]

25. I wish for your pain to go away.......

[northofdenali]

27. I'm sending you a ton of good karma -

:hug::hug::hug:

And a sincere wish that each one of 'em develops some hideous disease on their faces.

[Oeditpus Rex]

28. Where are they?

Let's go kick their asses. :grr:

[JVS]

29. that's life

[Rhythm]

30. *hugz* at least you know that you have good friends here...

people who treat others so disgracefully are a waste of our precious oxygen.

[emmajane67]

33. That shit always happened to me at high school.

I hated high school and a good proportion of the people there.

Then, I left high school and realised it really didn't matter. I am now a normal, successful, well-travelled, well-educated, well-liked person. I don't really talk to people from high schoool anymore, I have no interest, lots of them still hang out and pretent they are still there bacuase it was the best time of their lives. I actually feel bad when I see these people now because they have nothing to contribute to the conversation and I don't like to stoop to their level and sound like I'm gloating about having a good job, lovely partner, travelling the world.

These people are silly. I know it hurts now but try to remember 'its only high school' you have the rest of your life to live and it'll be a goodie.

[Midlodemocrat]

34. Kids can really be cruel, sometimes Mini.

Sorry you had to find out. :hug:

[Danger Mouse]

35. Oh, I'm lonely....wanna die...

uhm, a little 'yer blues' there for ya.
everything okay?

[Bassic]

36. I've been there...

a few times...


Trust me it does get much better than this ;) :hug:

[Beer Snob-50]

40. high school kids can be real sh*theads sometimes

Don't mean to trivialize but you will get over it and hopefully be stronger for it.

:grouphug:

[QMPMom]

41. I'm so sorry that they treated you that way, MMR.

:hug:

[satya]

44. I once had the extraordinary pleasure of meeting you IRL.

It was at a protest march (I think around Inauguration Day?) Anyway, you gave quite an impressive speech there. I'm at least 3 times your age and I have yet to acquire the confidence you showed on that day. I was convinced then that you were destined for great things.

Unfortunately, teens can be incredibly mean and it doesn't surprise me (although it deeply saddens me) that they would target you, given that they probably realize that they are not nearly as wise and wonderful you are. No wonder films like Mean Girls and books like Queen Bees and Wannabes sell so well--those of us who made it thru our teen years still remember what hell it can be. So though it may sound trite when we old folks tell you that it does get better, it really does, because eventually most (though not all) of those kids finally mature enough to appreciate your unique gifts instead of trying to put you down. And the rest turn into Republicans and vote for @$$holes like duhbya instead of Al Gore.

p.s. I hope you've talked to your mom about this...she too, was once a girl your age and I'll bet she remembers those anguished teen years.

[NC_Nurse]

45. They've shown their true colors

and they're not very attractive are they?

Rise above, you will find better people my dear! :hug:

[BreweryYardRat]

47. High school kids are fucking dickweeds, for the most part.

I had shit similar to that (and worse) pulled on me. Nothing like thinking "Finally, someone likes me for me!" only to discover it was all a setup.

[reyd reid reed]

49. ....

it'll heal. That's the thing about hearts, they're resilient. I speak from experience.

Hang in there, hon.

:hug::hug::hug:

[Fleshdancer]

50. I'm so sorry

Looking back on my life, my heart was always broken by so called "friends", not by my boyfriends. You grow up believing that your friends are the ones who are loyal and that they are the ones you go to when your SO is being a jerk but that's not always the case. It doesn't make any sense.

[HughBeaumont]

51. High school is a burp in your universe.

Take it from someone who slogged through four years of bullying, derision, snobs and just general "I'm better than you" bullshit.

Start listening to Isis and some old Gong. You'll feel much better without going on a shooting rampage.

A wise man once said "Know Thyself". That man . .. was TATER NUTS!

[av8rdave]

52. So sorry...been there, done that...it does get better

[maveric]

54. I know how that goes. Last year at this time...

I was so lonely, hopeless and suicidal. Then, suddenly, someone came into my life and it changed everything.
You are young and good things will come your way. I know it hurts now. But dont kick yourself around.

MAveRiC

[flamingyouth]

55. Mini - you're such a sweet and smart young woman

People who do stuff like that grow up to do horrible things like throw their garbage out their car windows. And vote Republican. You're better than them by a mile. We love you. :hug:

[Madspirit]

57. Remember...you are better than they are.

You don't want cruel people as friends. You're a much better person than they are.
Lee