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veganwitch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-17-04 11:59 AM
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Poll question: When should i tell my parents??
My parents absolutely went nuts the last time i got pregnant therefore i have right reservations to tell them this time. So... help me out.


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brainwashed_youth Donating Member (640 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-17-04 12:03 PM
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1. After your first appointment
Hey, these are your parents and I think they deserve to be told what's going on. I know if it was my kid, I'd want them to tell me. So hey, do the right thing and I'll pray for ya, how's that sound:bounce:
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HawkerHurricane Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-17-04 12:30 PM
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2. I need more information...
Like, what's your maritial status; financial status; age of self; age of parents...

I made a mistake; I didn't tell my parents my girlfriend was pregnant until the day she delivered... (we are now married, and have 3 kids)... the estrangement was not worth it even though it only lasted 2 days.
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veganwitch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-17-04 11:32 PM
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17. info
23, partnered - age 25, full time job, financially independent from parents, have health insurance, 53 dad and 51 mom.
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HawkerHurricane Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-18-04 12:37 AM
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18. Whelp...
Unless there are other factors, I think after your first ob/gyn appointment (when it's official) would be a good time.

I hope congratulations are in order, and may you and your child be well.
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hlthe2b Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-17-04 12:32 PM
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3. Congrats to you...
I don't mean to lay a guilt trip on you, but I only wish I had my parents still living to share this kind of good news with. Life is short. Include them in your life when you can. Once they are gone, you'll dearly wish that you COULD.
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Maeve Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-17-04 12:33 PM
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4. After the first trimester and before you start to show
Unless they're going to find out from someone else first...
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beawr Donating Member (358 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-17-04 01:46 PM
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12. Maeve is wisdom itself
Wait until things are rolling and let the chips fall where they may....
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NightTrain Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-17-04 12:36 PM
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5. May I ask how old you are?

Just curious....
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bleedingheart Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-17-04 12:36 PM
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6. why are you afraid to tell them?
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veganwitch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-17-04 11:30 PM
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16. they essentially forced me to have an abortion.
thats why.
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Rabrrrrrr Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-17-04 12:41 PM
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7. Wheever you feel comfortable wit it
Though waiting until the baby is born could have it's own form of cool excitement. "Hey - mom - wondering if I could come over and show you something..."

:-)
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bleedingheart Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-17-04 12:43 PM
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8. My mom's coworker had that happen to her
and it wasn't well received.
To this day she is hurt that her daughter didn't confide in her.
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sybylla Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-17-04 12:46 PM
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9. Before you go home for your graduation party
You might be tempted to do it at that time when they will be too busy to spend much time going nuts. But it will wreck your party if you wait until then and all you will have to remember your graduation by is pissing your parents off.

Considering their reaction last time, I think you have every right to see your doctor first and take some time to plan for your future. Whatever their reaction, some thoughtfulness and preparation on your part for the future will make you feel more confident and might calm some of their fears. After all, they only went nuts because they want you to be all you can be.

Take care of yourself and best wishes on the pregnancy.
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Sperk Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-17-04 01:26 PM
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10. Are you saying this is your SECOND unplanned pregnancy?
Honey, you are using the WRONG birth control (I'm assuming that this wasn't planned). either way, you have to tell them.
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veganwitch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-17-04 11:30 PM
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15. first im going to disregard the judgmental nature of your subject line
and second, this one was somewhat planned. we knew what we were doing when he had unprotected sex. I was prepared for whatever the results were.
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Deja Q Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-17-04 01:31 PM
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11. If I got pregnant, I'd tell my parents right away...
Of course, I'm a guy...

Wait a moment here, why should your parents go nuts?
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Skittles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-17-04 02:54 PM
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13. LEAVE A NOTE ON THE FRIDGE
It will make a great story for the grandkids. :7
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gate of the sun Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-17-04 08:34 PM
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14. tell them when you feel like it
it's your life and not really there business and if they are going to give you grief I'd email them and then tell them you don't want to hear anything negative about it. Well that's just me.....good luck and most importantly listen to yourself . That's the most important thing be true to yourself. good luck!
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