"Create a Drama" Issue of the Day

[IdaBriggs]

So, my beloved husband has a beautiful cross-stitched eagle that was a gift from an Old Girlfriend 15 or so years ago. She is a very nice person (altho I wasn't too fond of her for a while Back Then, as she was going after him while he was dating me, lo those many years ago, but we're all over that now, and everyone is happily married, so whatever), and we don't see each other very often. I don't think she's ever been to our current house (we've lived here eleven years), and I've visited hers (maybe?) once in that time. Like I said, she is a very nice person, and we communicate via e-mail and periodic phone calls -- and frankly, the husband has only talked to her a handful of times (MAYBE) in the last ten years, whereas I communicate pseudo regularly on some mutual interests -- babies and quilting, mainly!

The Eagle is a very nice one (my husband was an Eagle Scout 20 years ago), but honestly, it hasn't been on display in our home for A Long Time. It was up in the attic, where it got banged around, and the frame (professionally done!) is now kind of on the "beat up" side. He tried to throw it away during my summer "ALL OF OUR JUNK MUST BE PROCESSED/THROWN AWAY/GIVEN AWAY/SOLD AT A GARAGE SALE" binge (when no one purchased it at the garage sale), but I rescued it from the trash heap out of pure guilt, and just couldn't bring myself to put it in the "donation" pile as it represents A LOT OF WORK. But I really don't want it myself, and neither does he (Ex Girl Friend Gift Aside).

So, do I offer it back to her? (Its been 15 years.) Or will that hurt her feelings unnecessarily? Or do I give it to charity? Or put it in the trash heap? As I said, its a very nice piece of work, but it doesn't really "go" with what we want displayed in our home. It just feels WRONG to discard it, if you know what I mean....

Opinions? :P

[IndianaJones]

1. throw it up on ebay. Sell it no reserve and be done with it. nt.

[MrScorpio]

2. What ever you do, DO NOT GIVE IT BACK!

Find some other way to dump it

[IdaBriggs]

4. Care to expound a little? My gut says you are right, but I'd love

for someone to put some words that MAKE SENSE as to WHY "its just not right"!!! :)

[MrScorpio]

5. It would be like an insult

After all these years, you're shoving this thing in her face.


It's best to dump the thing and never be the first to bring it up.

[skygazer]

3. I'd have tossed it when your husband tried

A gift is something someone gives to you. That means its yours to do with as you please. He wanted to toss it. Simple solution.

After 15 years of carting the thing around, I don't see any reason for guilt feelings. Toss it.

[johnnie]

6. My thoughts

I think maybe you and your husband could look at it more as a "trophy" for him being an Eagle scout rather than a gift from a girlfriend. I can't see it taking up that much room really. I say keep it as a remembrance of something he accomplished while he was younger.

[AlCzervik]

7. how about donating to some veteran's org?

[IdaBriggs]

8. Any suggestions as to which one would most prefer an Eagle? nt

[billyskank]

9. If he wanted to throw it out, throw it out.

No biggie.

[yellowdogintexas]

10. know anyone who has an Eagle Scout about to get his awards?

It would be a great gift! Or donate it to a Scout Troop, or Veterans Org, or a nursing home, to be moved around to rooms of veterans who live there? Nursing homes love handwork/craft type art

I agree, something with that much work should notjust be tossed. We have an embroidered cat which was given to my husband by the Last Girlfriend Before Me and it hung in our bathroom along with other cute kitty things for a long time. My daughter put it in her room for a while, and I am not quite sure where it is at the moment. But I wouldn't toss it because it is hand made, and because it accidentally looks just like a cat we acquired AFTER we were married who was a real sweetie.

Don't give it back to the lady though, she might see it as an indication you don't want to be cordial any more.....we women are weird that way sometimes.

[mockmonkey]

11. GIVE IT BACK

if you want to create some drama.:evilgrin: