How were you punished as a kid? By whom?

[ohiosmith]

Usually a beating.

Both parents.

My mother preferred switches, broom sticks,a paddle, and the occasional open hand.

The old man liked a razor strap, web belt, his shillelagh, and frequent closed fists.

[NewJeffCT]

1. Usually my mom

because my dad worked 2 jobs and was not home often enough...

usually spanking or being sent to my room...

[catmandu57]

2. I took some pretty good beatings

from my mom and step dad, if it were today they probably would be charged with child abuse. My mother would get the blood lust when she started I hated getting a beating from her she didn't stop until she wore out. I carry scars from her inside and out, my stepfather was a sadistic s.o.b., one his favorite tricks was making us drink tabasco sauce until someone fessed up to whatever.
I'm glad times have changed.

[CreekDog]

50. I got the tabasco sauce treatment too, not from family though

And they put it on our tongue and made us hold our tongue out for a little while so we could feel it burn.

If my mom knew they did that she would probably have blown a gasket, but we never told (I think) because in telling, we kids would have been admitting we got in trouble.

Wrong, wrong, wrong.

[underpants]

3. Yes

by God

[av8rdave]

4. Spanked by hand. Humiliation was an occasional method as well

[SmokingJacket]

5. Yelled at, though rarely.

Oh, and sent to my room. I was a good kid. My kids are too -- they go to their rooms, but that's it.

[triguy46]

6. Two words: Dad, belt.

I raised two kids and other than the occasional half assed swat to the butt as an attention getter, did not use corporal punishment.

[Inchworm]

9. Same and same

Six words: Wait until your dad gets home!

I never needed to spank my daughter. I just talked mad. The occasional thunk to the hand as a toddler. The rest was easy. I was lucky.

:hi:

[DeposeTheBoyKing]

7. Dad's instrument of choice: His belt

Mom's instrument of destruction: A wooden Oklahoma Sooners paddle (God knows where she got THAT, as we lived in Kansas!)

[Deep13]

8. Constant criticism and verbal degradation by mother.

My father ignored me and I never knew what step-monster was going to do next.

[Taverner]

10. At first it was spankings, but by high school dad had graduated to sucker punches

[ohiosmith]

11. By high school, my old man was scared shitless of me. He knew that if he touched me, my mom or

siblings I'd fuck him up.

[Taverner]

13. I learned early on that my dad wasn't as quick as me, and I could always fake and duck

[One_Life_To_Give]

12. Usually Groundings

But occasionally got the dreaded, "Young man I am very disappointed in you". Damn that hurt.

[LaraMN]

14. When I was little, spanked or yelled at.

When I was older, my mom fancied slapping me. She punched in me in the back of the neck once. She never got a chance to touch me again, after that.

[NewWaveChick1981]

15. Damn.

:hug: :(

I remember getting a swat on the butt at times I acted up, but that was infrequent and never severe. Mom and Dad talked to us sternly when they needed to, and they yelled at us on occasion. In all fairness, though, it was usually deserved.

[QueenOfCalifornia]

16. What you said

except my Dad never hit me - but if you took all the stuff you said and just listed it under "insane mother" that was me.

This is why I do not hit my kids - I was terrified that if I ever had children I would hurt them since I was raised by a crazy woman and a spineless step father.

Hitting children, for me, is not an option.

[Phillycat]

17. My mom, with a yardstick. My stepfather, with his fists.

People are fucked up.

[JitterbugPerfume]

18. spare the rod, and spoil the child

was the rule , and not the exception when I was a child .

Daad always said " this is going to hurt me more than it hurts you"

Mom never laid an angry hand on me .

[mainegreen]

19. The 'disappointed look'.

I was a goody two-shoes nerd and my mom did not have control or violence issues.
The disappointed look worked just fine on me.

[Sequoia]

20. Let's see...a few adults

Mom: Never (I miss and love you)

Dad: Belt, hickory switch

1st grade teacher: hand spank for talking during lunch time which I wasn't but the red-headed boy said so so it must be true.

Female adults at fundie boarding school: Hands, twice on Sunday because I supposedly was making fun of Jesus, paddles, both arms raised in air for long periods of time for whispering during lights out (all us little girls were lined up in the hall), in-the-corner standing for saying the cuss word "gosh" (you hate Jesus I was told), no desert, forced to eat liver every Wednesday at dinner before church that night, denied weekend camping trip for not moving to the center of the church pew, etc. etc.

Childhood was crappy really I guess. I hate religion.

[_testify_]

21. Mom usually. Wooden spoons or heat seeking slippers.

My dad has never laid a hand on me, ever. Not sure why...I definitely deserved it sometimes.

Once my grandfather whooped me with 'the stick', but only because I cut down all his tomato plants.

What the hell was wrong with me? LOL.

[Zoigal]

37. Grandmother gave me "the look"

and that worked. Mother switched me once
because i was stubborn. Nothing in school.
Wow, some of you people had is rough...sorry.
I don't believe in hitting, period.

[KG]

22. the Bailiff whacked my pee-pee

[Haole Girl]

23. Spanked with the belt..

..by my father. My mother would decide when the punishment needed to be handed down and then watch.

Yeah, I know, it explains a lot. :blush:

[JuniperLea]

24. Mom got me with the switch a couple of times

No biggie.

[MrCoffee]

25. the best was when dad was too drunk to realize he was hitting me with the belt buckle

ahhh, skull fractures are fun

[ohiosmith]

27. Fists were the weapons of choice when my old man was drunk.

Or shit he could pick up and throw when he was too fucked up to get out of his chair: ash trays, coffee cups, beer bottles, etc.

[MrCoffee]

38. anything in arm's reach was fair game

if he was just cruising past, he'd take a swing

[raccoon]

26. Same as you.

My father died when me and my sibs were little so I don't remember beatings from him.

My mother preferred switches, yardsticks, occasionally a coat hanger.

Needless to say, I learned a lot from those beatings. :sarcasm:

[graywarrior]

28. Cat o' nine tails

That was when I was a kid. After that, verbal lashings and then abandonment--like, no one would talk to me because I was "bad."

[ohiosmith]

29. And you still are bad. But we'll talk to you anyway.

[graywarrior]

32. Thank you. And if I need to feel back home, I go to GD.

[Colorado Progressive]

30. Mom would get the wooden spoon out. When we heard her open the drawer we

scattered like cockroaches and rarely got hit. (You have to be pretty dumb to stand there when you knew all she really wanted was everyone out of the house!) My dad hit each of my sisters one time for saying Fuck you to him. I was never that dumb!

[_testify_]

31. One time

I knew I was gonna get the spoon, so I ran to the kitchen and grabbed the wooden spoons and locked myself in the bathroom. My mom popped the lock with a butterknife, so the next time I took the whole silverware drawer with me.

I don't exaclty remember how that fiasco ended, but I assure you I did not escape the wrath.

[Colorado Progressive]

33. LOL! I had a hiding place behind the neighbor's woodpile!

I would just wait and make up stories til I knew she had probably calmed down.

[_testify_]

34. That was my mistake.

My hiding place was too obvious! :)

[ohiosmith]

39. If we ran, we would get it in spades when we were caught.

My mother would send us to cut the switch she would use. We'd be bawling our asses off for half an hour before the whipping started. It's funny now, kinda.

[Colorado Progressive]

42. How sad! nt

[redqueen]

35. Beating, by dad.

Used whatever he had in his hand when he got upset... or just his hands.

[Midlodemocrat]

36. This thread makes me very sad.

:cry:

I have never hit any of my kids and never will. They're pretty well behaved so far.

[_testify_]

40. me too

because when I posted mine I did so remembering my childhood fondly. Looking back, I've never felt like it should have been any different. After reading some of these responses, I feel like I'm in the minority and it makes me sad for all of us that kids should have to go through such things.

[MilesColtrane]

41. Whippings.

Dad used his belt.

Mom made us get our own instrument of punishment. Usually a switch off the weeping willow in the back yard.

Of course there were milder punishments as well.

Solitary in your room without supper...


I was also locked in a dark closet for an hour and a half when I was 7. I can't remember what I did to deserve that.

That one fucked me up.

[Arger68]

43. Lets see,

Dad: belt (a few times)
Mom: hand, belt (a few times)
Kindergarten teacher: locked in dark closet for long stretches, including bathroom breaks. Yes, had wet pants a few times.

[ElsewheresDaughter]

44. stinging nettle switch on the legs,,,very european grandma

[QMPMom]

45. Both parents, but Dad's spankings were easier to get through.

I think that was because he was usually doing it only because my bio-so-called-mother made him. They used a yardstick.

Grandparents, maternal: Both spanked us. Grandma varied in what she used: a paddle-ball paddle, a paint stirrer or a switch we'd have to cut ourselves. She always kept a paint stirrer within reaching distance. Grandpa used his hand and would occasionally switch our legs with a horse whip or use a belt. I got my last spankng from my grandfather when I was 18. I *dared* to talk back to him. I was the first one in the family that had ever had guts enough to do it. When he spanked me that last time I walked out of their house (Where we were staying because so-called-bio-mother was at the Mayo Clinic.) walked to *my* house and called my parents at the Mayo Clinic in Minnesota. The next day I was on a plane to Minnesota. My grandfather never tried to spank me again.

Grandparents, paternal: Never had a harsh word to say to us and we were never punished by them at all.

[TK421]

46. My mom dished out the discipline with a collection of suede belts

and there was a wooden paddle that hung in the kitchen with all my brothers and sisters names etched into it...

At the bottom, it said "Watch when this swings"

[conscious evolution]

47. Rake or mow the lawn----uphill.

[Spirochete]

48. Mostly my mother

and I got whipped a lot with belts and switches. Once my mother sent me out to cut a switch to whip me with, and I came back with this skinny reed. She said "Wrong! Come along - I'll show you how to cut switches" So she just rips a whole limb off a tree, and then grabbed a six-pack to go, because she knew I'd act up again.
When I got a little older, she switched over to taking away privileges, and grounding - much to my dismay. I complained "that's not fair! I'm supposed to just get hit a certain number of times for doing such-and-such a thing. That's the way the game goes. I don't like this grounding business!". She, of course, said "Good! I'm not doing it as a favor to you". so the whippings stopped, and the more diabolical punishments began. I missed the whippings - they were quick.

[CreekDog]

49. Babysitter punished with tabasco sauce on the tongue

If you said something bad, as far as I can remember, when we were like 4 or 5.

Yeah, that was pretty wicked and pretty wrong.

[Adsos Letter]

51. Ah, yes...punishment...

...my mom liked the willow switch; my dad liked a wide leather belt cut into 12' strips, or his open hand.

That belt hurt like hell...until I got bigger...

[astral]

52. My mom used weapons -- my dad used his hand only

I was as big as my mom from a pretty young age as she is small. She'd lose it on me and go after me with a broom and I would protect myself from any bodily harm. I would also sit in a dark closed closet for long periods of time in the hallway -- and I can't remember if she put me there or if I went there myself or both, it didn't have a lock on it or anything. The two things I can't forgive are things she did to me when I was four or so -- locked me outside the door where I was actually scared for my safety, and dragged me into a cold shower when I was still too small to escape the punishment -- I hate showers to this day but had to adjust.

My dad, when he was around, well, it seemed things didn't get out of control very often and I think he spanked me with his bare hand about five times in my whole life --- the last time when I was a teenager, and that one I found hard to get over.

When I was about old enough to leave home I ran away and stayed away.

But I didn't have it bad at all, really, I just didn't feel I got any more love and affection than I did punishment, and people who have happy, well-adjusted memories of their childhoods are lucky and IMHO in the minority.