Insight would be appreciated

[Lilith Velkor]

Once upon a time, I met someone. I liked him and he seemed to like me, but he kept losing my number and asking for it again. The two times he did call me, we met somewhere, he got all touchy-feely (but not over the line), and then his girlfriend walked in and he introduced her. The third and fourth time he called, I was "too busy."

Anyhoo...does anybody know guys who do that sort of thing? What do they hope to accomplish by such behavior?

[IndianaJones]

1. a threesome. nt.

[Lilith Velkor]

2. Dammit!

I would have gone for it if only he'd tried for a twosome first. Both of those chicks were hot.

[IndianaJones]

3. you are one of the two chicks right? nt.

[Lilith Velkor]

4. No

He introduced two different girlfriends on separate occasions.

[IndianaJones]

5. oh...how did they react to this whole deal? nt.

[Lilith Velkor]

6. They seemed polite enough

I felt really awkward so I went home.

I even took him aside once and told him that if there's something he wants to tell me, he should say it out loud and in English, but there wasn't.

[IndianaJones]

7. interesting...a shy swinger. nt.

[Lilith Velkor]

8. or perhaps a "let's you and her fight" game

His friend tried that shit with me. :nuke:

[Lydia Leftcoast]

9. Yes

One summer when I was in graduate school, another graduate student (call him "Don Juan") started putting the moves on me, making up nicknames for me, running into me "accidentally on purpose," inviting me to parties, etc. We hadn't gotten intimate, but he was pretty consistently attentive for nearly two weeks.

Then another weekend rolled around and ...nothing. I didn't want to sit at home, so my roommates and I decided to go to the graduate student bar on campus.

There was "Don Juan," sitting with his arm around some woman I'd never seen before, kissing her. Some of his male friends were at the same table.

My roommates and I looked at one another, and in one of those instantaneous bits of communication that can pass among women, we all decided to join that table.

We sat down opposite "Don Juan" and the unfamiliar (to us) woman. DJ got extremely flustered and said, "This is my...uh, friend visiting from Boston."

I just sat there staring at him with what I hoped was a smirk on my face.

He got even more flustered, stammered incoherently and said to his "uh, friend": "Let's go get some pizza or something."

After they left, DJ's male friends, in the obtuse way that a lot of men have of missing emotional undercurrents entirely, kept saying, "I wonder what was wrong with him. He sure was acting weird."

:evilgrin:

[Lilith Velkor]

11. Hmmm

But why would a guy call his girlfriend to come meet his "uh, friend?" What would be the point?

[ThomCat]

10. I lose numbers all the time because I live off of index cards.

But despite that, I'm suspicious of other people who do it. It often means they couldn't program it into their phones for some reason (like they're dating someone who checks their phone).

:shrug:

[Lilith Velkor]

12. That's what he did.

Once he even wrote my number on a card that already had my number on it.

Thanx for insight,y'all. :)

[Kutjara]

13. Sounds like a wanna-be Charles Manson recruiting members for his cult.

Very weird behavior, backed by seemingly no guilt or embarrassment. Sounds like a major-league narcissist to me. Such characters are best avoided. One or two continents of distance is usually enough.

[Lilith Velkor]

14. LOL

What if Charles Manson were too cheap to supply drugs? :rofl: