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I don't know if this is the place for this but....
I have been carrying this around for too long. I know it's not healthy. I am so angry, actually more hurt and sad. Growing up we lived on a beautiful 400-acre plus dairy farm. I have 2 sisters and a younger brother. My dad died suddenly 20 years ago. The weeks before he passed he had thrown my brother out and told him NOT to come back until he was a man and responsible. (He had been thrown out of 3 colleges, too much partying, burning up someone’s car, arrested etc (he was a real fuck up). Couldn’t or (wouldn’t) hold a job. Us 3 girls were educated and successful and on our own. Anyway, when my dad died guess who showed up immediately? He was “Johnny on the spot” to be there for my Mom. He moved right back home…age 26.
Within a year my brother owned a LARGE boat, corvette, put in a swimming pool, mercedes…this list is long and within that same year the farm was a MESS….let it all go to hell He married and had children(3 girls) He went from every get rich quick scheme he could think of…sludge farming till the EPA shut him down for pollution of a local river from runoff…a trucking business until one of the drivers killed someone in an accident…involved in 2 lawsuits over God knows what and WON!
Mind you all…he still has never had a “job”.
In the meantime my Mom met this really sweet man 3 years later. After “dating “ for 12 years she built a house in one of the fields next to the farmhouse and she and her friend lived there. She “sold” the farm to my brother for 400K…(under pressure) when she went to sign the agreement the note was for 200K. She was AFRAID to say anything to him! Why you may all ask? My brother is a hot head, loves to hunt and has lots of guns and is a repug…(he doesn’t know how to even spell the word but nonetheless he loves George Bush …and tells anyone who will listen that he is the only president who makes the poor people want to “pull themselves up by their bootstraps”). He can be very intimidating and violent. Well…he agreed to pay $2000/ mo to her for the farm.
I am going to really try to make this short…My mom has been in her new home since 2000….under the watchful eye of assmunch down the road.
She got diagnosed with breast cancer in 2003. (There is zero cancer history in my family…I believe the “sludge” he spread around her home to plant a lawn had a hell of a lot to do with her well water going bad)
Her “friend” has been awesome. (This is a man who was one of the many who stormed the beaches of Normandy) He is so good to her…. He is in his eighties and does EVERYTHING for her and keeps the house impeccable. He can’t stand my brother, as he knows he’s nothing more than a bum but keeps his mouth closed. He weighs 90 lbs soaking wet and is timid.
Well in 2006 my mom’s cancer spread to her liver and brain. Well, we were all together July 2006 for her birthday and a few days later my brother called me and told my sisters and I to stay away. NEVER to come see her again…we called my Mom and she wouldn’t talk to us. We couldn’t go there, as no one would answer the door as my brother stands guard. My sister wanted to call the police but she was threatened to have her house burned down.
Well, to make a long story short, we found out Mom died June 26th of this year…on the INTERNET. The obit was published in August. Her friend called us (finally) and three weeks before she died my brother and his wife “pushed” him around and forced him out of the house. He was so scared and nervous he barely made any sense. He told us that my brother stopped making the payments to my mom after only ten were made. She died penniless. We went to see him and he refuses to call for help, as he was terrified. He is living in a small run down apartment and wants to be left alone.(BTW, he developed cancer as well)
My sister went to the town hall just this week and the will was there and my mom had a NEW will drawn up in 2006 omitting us girls from getting the house or getting anything! (She had told us years ago that us girls would split the new home AFTER her friend had passed as he was to stay there until he died) My mom wanted to be buried next to my dad and the plot was already paid for. He had her cremated instead. To cheap to pay for her a burial.
I know this probably isn’t the place to vent, but I am so hurt. It isn't about $$, we were close and yet I never got to say goodbye to her.
I wanted to get an attorney but my sisters are terrified to cross my brother and I simply can’t afford it alone.
Now I know first hand how “fear” is a useful tool to control people. Boy, talk about life throwing you a curve. I am just beside myself. I feel so sad.
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