Boyfriend's ex-wife is coming to stay with him and the kids for two weeks.

[crim son]

I'm being cool about it. STBE may be joining me and my (male)friend Maineiac for drinks for an hour after work tomorrow: should the boyfriend take issue? STBE knows about boyfriend; boyfriend paranoid.

Ex-wife, with, as his sister points out, "The face of an angel," will be staying in his tiny little apartment where there is NO spare bedroom. Ahem. Maybe she'll be at the Bangor Motor Inn... I guess I don't know.

[some guy]

1. Are you taking good notes?

I'm pretty sure you have a blockbuster romance novel going on in your life. All you have to do is write it up, and it'll sell a million copies.

:)

[crim son]

4. Blockbuster romance.

Heh. It's always interesting, I admit. But we're only in month seven. :)

[some guy]

13. Interesting is good.

:bounce:

I hope it all works out the way you want it to, in the end. :hug:

[lost-in-nj]

2. Crim son

don't know what to say....

I will give you hugs



I will say

if it was me.... I would ask him to put her up in a motel/hotel......

there is no reason he shouldn't...

but thats me......

this fucking sucks...
o BTW

drinks for an hour or so
WAY different.... "k????



lost

[crim son]

9. On the one hand, it sucks.

On the other hand, his teenage daughters get to spend time with their mother, who normally lives in the Southwest.

I don't know... I'm feeling philosophical but talk to me on the sixteenth of November when she arrives, well coiffed and botoxed (as he tells me). Oh nooooooo....!

Thanks, lost!

[lost-in-nj]

19. can the daughters

stay with her for a few???
maybe get manies and pedies???
slumber party in the hotel????


(((hugs hon))))

Maybe you should call Skittles....

just saying.....




lost

[rug]

3. Bangor Motot Inn?

[petronius]

6. It's an unfortunate name, isn't it?

I'm glad I wasn't the only one to raise an eyebrow...

[crim son]

12. Motor!

Motor! :rofl:

[petronius]

30. Motot is a good word, but it was the "bang 'er" part that I was noticing

I wonder what a motot would be - some kind of noisemaking robotic child's toy that shoots its hands off like little rockets would be my guess...

[crim son]

33. It's pronounced

BAN gore. Bang'er is better. :D

[petronius]

35. Did you actually just type the phrase "Ban Gore" on DU!? What are you,

some kind of frothing GD zealot? :rofl:

(That aside, you've made me realize why people from Maine look at me funny when I pronounce the names of their cities... oops!)

[crim son]

38. Whoa. I take it back!!!

:blush:

[Marrah_G]

43. OFF WITH HER HEAD ! ! ! ! ! ! !

[GreenPartyVoter]

40. Yeah. I laugh at those "As seen on tv" commercials that say Banger

teehee

[crim son]

10. You've never stayed at the Motot Inn?

Laughing. MotoR Inn!

Motot. It has a ring to it.

[Habibi]

5. Wow, that sounds tough.

Stay cool, calm, collected. Do the kids belong to him and ex-wife? (Sorry if that's a dumb q.) What will happen will happen. You'll be okay.

[crim son]

16. He has the kids. She lives across the country.

This is the one who, when she heard he was dating somebody for more than a couple months, did the unheard-of and called to ask him if he was okay.

Que sera, sera.

[Deja Q]

7. 'Bangor'? Oh dear...

:hide:

[crim son]

17. ...

:spank:

Bangor Motot Inn. Got a problem with that?

[quiet.american]

37. You are not alone, I had exactly the same thought. n/t

[ThomCat]

8. You're smart and alert.

If anything fishy is going on I'm sure you'll know about it.

If he's getting too close to her he'll probably avoid you. If he's stressed out by having her stay there then he's going to want your help to stay sane.

Maybe I'm just overly generous about this, but I'd give him the benefit of the doubt until there's a sign of trouble. Of course, that's also giving him rope to hang himself. If he does hang himself then you don't want him as a boyfriend anyway.
:shrug:

I definitely suggest being alert, but I'd see this as an opportunity (however inconvenient it may be) to see how things are going between you.

[crim son]

20. That is exactly how I'm looking at the situation.

We've had many ups and downs and he has been very explicit about how he feels about me (it is good!) so I am prepared to trust him. If he screws up, he's just another man who loves me more than anything but not really. It appears that I am "soulmate" to many, many men. :sarcasm:

[lizziegrace]

11. You should write for the soaps

Nah...it's too over-the-top for them. ;)

:hug:

Stay calm and remember to breathe.

:)

[crim son]

21. Laughing.

I know from reading my DU that my life is pretty par for the course.

Breathing...

[BarenakedLady]

14. That would make me feel ookie.

But they divorced for a reason, no? Still I would perhaps have a talk with your beau and see why other arrangements can't be made.

[crim son]

23. Yes.

I don't know... there's the dynamic with the kids that I don't want to mess up. So far, it's just great that "Dad's in love." But if the girlfriend causes problems with Mom, I could find myself in trouble. Having kids of my own, I don't want to make myself any kind of obstacle. You know?

Also, I guess I trust him.

[SPKrazy]

15. the Bangor Motor Inn

would be the best place for her to stay wouldn't it???

:shrug:

i would think so

[crim son]

24. Maybe she can stay with you.

She's supposed to be really beautiful. :eyes:

[SPKrazy]

26. oh thanks but.....

i got other priorities

:hi:

[crim son]

28. Sigh.

You're no friend of mine! :P

[some guy]

31. Maybe she can stay with you.

:D

You could find out all the good dirt, then.

Heck, maybe she'd decide she wants to buy your house. Twofer! :bounce:

[crim son]

34. You know, I offered.

I have seven freaking bedrooms in this old house, although a number of them are empty.

As long as I don't have to cook for her, it'd be fine. Apparently she likes to drink, and he joked that we'd get up to no good. That may be true! :evilgrin:

[some guy]

36. That was kind of you.

Good idea if you got her a bit tipsy, so she'd be more willing to spill details. :evilgrin:

Face like and angel?
Lives in the sowuthwest?

Hmm, maybe you could send her my way...

wait, what? Botox? Um check closely on that first, please.

[crim son]

39. My youngest sister botoxed her forehead.

If she hadn't told me, I'd have never known. Of course, she tried to claim the injection was for anti-inflammatory purposes (she has rosacea). I don't believe her!

I told the boyfriend that if she'd pay for the botox, I'd go do it with her (she's quite well off whereas we are... poor.)

[some guy]

41. Which she?

If your youngest sister paid for the botox, you'd go do it with?
If the ex-wife paid for the botox, you'd go do it with?

If the ex-wife is well off, I might be able to learn to like the idea of a face like a (botoxed) angel. :)

[crim son]

44. Ex-wife is well off.

Come and get her!

[bluethruandthru]

18. Is this a new boyfriend?

Or is the the repuke? :)

I'm just more inclined to expect bad things from republics!

[crim son]

25. Still the repuke.

There is just no sign of his being republican, other than his willingness to vote for Susan Collins. Fuck. I wonder if that's true.

[bluethruandthru]

29. For your sake, I hope not!

After reading about how he's treated you...I'm not inclined to give him a break.

[crim son]

32. I understand.

You have to know him, and know me. I thank you, truly, for being a friend. :pals:

[RetroLounge]

22. Bangor Motor Inn

There's the title of your romance novel...

RL

[crim son]

27. Sadly, I have no imagination.

We could combine life stories. You write, I'll edit, compassionately. :P

[Mz Pip]

42. Speaking from experience

Ugh. Maybe he's ok but you are taking on two kids and and ex wife. They will always be part of the mix. Been there and it did not turn out well so I'm a bit jaded and cynical in that respect. Seems like more drama than I'd want to deal with. But love is weird and you've got to go with your heart.

Maybe she can stay at his place and he can stay with you. Then he would have to share cramped quarters with the face of an angel.

Mz Pip
:dem:

[crim son]

45. :)

You are too kind.

Love is weird and this relationship beats anything I've ever experienced in terms of the good and the bizarre. I SPIT in the face of drama! :pal:

[libodem]

46. He should get the motel

and you stay with him. leave her with the kids.