Confess! Name the main thing that DOES suck in your life.

[Wcross]

Allow me to be the first. My job sucks the life right out of me. Twelve hour shifts on my feet the whole time. Running from machine to machine fixing problems. Bosses that use us as excuses as to why they didn't meet their production goals. Builders (machine operators) blaming us for their failure to meet their production goals. Builders calling us for an excuse to get down time.
Having to wear "safety glasses" which have caused me more head injuries than I can count due to the fact they cut my peripheral vision. Having to wear "safety shoes" that cut into the sides of my feet. Having to attend meaningless "training classes" four times a year on my days off (think Sunday for you mon - fri guys). Safety & security people wandering around trying to catch you in a fire-able offense. To top it all off yearly hair drug tests & random vehicle searches.

I have six months to go until I am debt free. At that point I am going to do my damndest to find some other way to earn a living.

[Fire Walk With Me]

1. Not being able to generate enough love to break through the fear in those around me.

[mzteris]

4. it's not your "lack of love"

it's their fear,

Do NOT blame yourself. If you have done "all you can do" then rest easy in that. Encourage the other to seek counseling, possibly medication.

I'm one of the ones "with fear". While granted, it takes a lot to gain trust, if you've done that, then you canNOT blame yourself anymore.

:hug: for you and :hug: :hug: for the one who is afraid.

[Fire Walk With Me]

6. Hi mzteris, I hope all's well with you.

Basically, I'm a tornado in recovery, and have put fear into the types who ceaselessly attack what they're afraid of, and cannot be reasoned with. =Whatsoever=. I'd let it go if it weren't torrential and founded upon what I was and am no longer (thanks to the tools of recovery). I can find no middle ground or means to communicate, and much of my survival (especially prosperity) depends upon their cooperation. I'm working upon my own higher ground, always. I'm dedicated to it and it works. "The path to 'I', is inside-out." -Tommy Space

Here is a rare truthful example:

http://www.synthtopia.com/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=108&sid=1c1a665c2da775ba1fc514c8d76e740e

Please take a screenshot. It may last longer than this post (such things tend to disappear very quickly). Fear requires deniability and cupidity to prosper, so let this truth be well-known. I am the responder, not the initiator. I despise Republican behaviour such as this.

I've read of your own trouble on DU and I hope that everything is looking up (of course, exactly as you said, regarding the inner work).

Edit to add: :hug:

[Fire Walk With Me]

97. Further..

Edit: Only in a sick society, will telling the truth get you in trouble. Just look at how Reagan, Bush etc. prosper without stops.

[LeftyMom]

2. My schedule

M-w I'm out the door at 7 am and don't get home until 10:30 pm.

[HERVEPA]

3. Not being in a relationship at the moment (nt)

[Q3JR4]

61. Exactly what I was going to post HERVEPA.

That is...assuming you don't count the one guy I "hung out with" with his wife's permission and got closer to than I had wanted or planned to.....

They have a daughter now and are planning to come back into town for a visit around Xmas time. And...they want to hang out again.

*Sigh*, so much complication.

[HERVEPA]

82. Sorry about your situation, Q3JR4

I was married thirty years, and was in an off-and-on relationship for three years after that, which probably precluded me from finding the correct woman.

[mzteris]

5. everything?

Well - I love my kids and all, but their lives aren't sterling at the moment either. And of course I blame myself for most of *that*, too.

[zabet]

7. Hey!!!

I worked there!
Well, under the same hellish conditions compounded by
being the only female mechanical maintenance person out
of over 300. :crazy:

What sucks in my life? Well this sucks sooo bad....
it could draw a vacuum on an onion bag:
I got injured on the job in 2001, almost died, was
awarded total and permanent disability by SS. The
company is still paying me workers comp, refuses to
settle and now is sending me to damn vocational rehab
for a second time, first time failed.
Now my restrictions are many and basically, if someone
will hire me for anything for about 4 hours a week, that
pays a little over $60,000 a year, they can quit paying
me workers comp. Freakin' company is so big, they are
self insured. This amounts to money shuffling in the
divisions to make annual reports look better than they
are

[Wcross]

9. Ouch! What happened? (if you don't mind sharing)

You DID work where I work! One time these two guys were fixing a problem with a curing press. In order to make sure they had it working properly they HAD TO remove the lock-out locks. It cycled but in the opposite direction it was supposed to. One of the guys got hit with the edge of the press & broke his leg. As he was lying on the floor in pain the head of safety & security fired both of them!
The thing that gets me is that if you take the time to do things right & safe you catch hell from the production supervisors for doing things too slow. If you cut corners & get away without an injury all is well. If you cut corners & hurt yourself you get fired. I always choose option #1 when I am working. I have found a way around the "catch hell" part. I started asking the supervisor to request I forgo the safety procedures IN WRITING. For some reason they have never agreed to the terms?

[zabet]

15. I will share...

as much as I am legally allowed. The company is a BIG
chemical company, one of the largest in the world. One
of the processes (i worked in/on this unit) suffered
a release during start-up. Now what makes this soo bad,
the vapors that were released, contained a chemical compound
that the company sold the patent to the US for chemical warfare.
The only time the on line analyzers were allowed to show
a reading of this compound was in the waste vent stream of one of
the columns, only during start-up and only allowed for 15 mins.
If it showed up more than the time frame, we shut the whole unit
down and tried again.
Long story short, lazy tech taking a short cut left a cap off
of a manifold line. When I climbed on tower to manually open
the emergency vent, the gases escaped through the manifold.
I was trapped, inhaled massive amounts of multiple toxins.
They have yet to figure out why I did not die as every time
they have simulated the conditions - the rats die.

I am all too familiar with the 'safety be damned - we are losing
production dollars' mindset.
Hee hee - I have used the 'give it to me in writing and I will do
it' ploy myself. It never failed me.

[Wcross]

20. Thank God you survived.

That is terrible. It's always production over safety & if you do get hurt they do their damndest to pin the blame on the injured worker. I DO hope they got rid of the lazy tech that caused the accident. Why didn't they have breathing apparatus available for situations like that? I bet they do now.
I wish you the best in your recovery citizen_jane, nobody should have to go through what you did.

[zabet]

39. Better than that...

Not only is he gone, my boss got canned too.
They also shut the process down and fixed
a 'bottle neck' that caused the problem with
the venting. It had been a problem since
reaming out the front and back end of the
process and DUH leaving the middle the same
size and expecting it to perform the same
way.

Thanks for your kind words. :hi:

[Shakespeare]

8. Living 300 miles away from my boyfriend.

x( x( x(

[skygazer]

10. Living so far away from my kids

Both my daughters are having tough times right now and I'm about 2000 miles away from them. I'd really like to be close enough to hug them. :(

[NewWaveChick1981]

11. My job at present.

:( It also sucks the life out of me. :yoiks: I have two more weeks to go and then I'm free. :bounce: :toast:

[seemunkee]

12. Job hunting

Last friday was my last day at the company I worked at for the last 10 years. I've had two interviews and getting lots of listings sent to me but I hate having to do the interviews and sell myself.

[Connonym]

13. Listening to this song (loud) helps when I'm feeling that way

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L3wMesI8aiw this is actually from the Drew Cary show, it's the only decent version I could find

[Maestro]

14. Debt

Five year plan at least, but on the other side, I can still pay all the bills, my kids have a college fund, we have food and shelter.

[Wcross]

21. Debt is a real drag on happiness.

I have heard the best way is to concentrate on the smallest, knock it out and then apply that payment on the next smallest. Pretty soon you are throwing everything at the biggest one. I hate writing checks to pay off creditors!

[AnneD]

72. WCross......

I was unemployed during the S&L and RE bust in the 80's. Up until that time-I had never known unemployment. I had known poverty in my youth, so I always had a bit of a pantry when I could. Thank God...I used up all my pantry, went through all my savings AND my retirement savings and barely scraped by with a part time job for almost a year.

I finally got into Nursing school and the rest is history. I am working to be debt free and will be within 2 years (this has been an 8 year process and I have been credit card free for 4 years and living on 1/2 of my income too). Slowly but surely I am going in the right direction.

One of the things I swore-when I was at my lowest points-was that I would always be grateful to be able to pay a bill. I remember getting a bill and not being able to pay. I owed the money, and I wanted to pay, but I couldn't even find work to earn a living. I resorted to yard work in the winter just to survive (Had a rake-no car needed to do the neighbour's yards). I never begrudge paying a bill, esp a debt. I am grateful I can pay.

[Wcross]

76. I've been right there myself.

I have been broke for months & months on end, even sold my plasma for about a year. While I too am thankful I can pay my bills now, I am better off not having any.

[azmouse]

16. My weight.

I would so like to lose 20 lbs so my clothes fit better.

[Wcross]

26. I have a simple solution for ya azmouse!

NEW CLOTHES! I too sometimes gain a little weight and I blame it all on Oreo cookies. Damn you Nabisco!

[annabanana]

78. ditto, but

(x10). . .sigh.

[BarenakedLady]

17. Right at the moment...

My anxiety level is making my body ache.

x(

[billyskank]

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[Wcross]

44. WELL- when can we breathe in again?????????

I followed your instructions and am awaiting the breathe in part. Seriously turning blue here......Aaack.

[Jeff In Milwaukee]

18. My Vacuum Cleaner

What?! You were all thinking it! I'm just the one pathetic enough to post it!

[MissMillie]

19. It'd be nice to just once feel like someone wanted to share their life w/ me

and wanted to be a part of mine.

[Wcross]

22. Throwing you a long distance hug MissMillie.

You seem like a wonderful woman judging from your posts. Hang in there!

[MissMillie]

25. It's just something I'd like to feel from someone else... just once

I have a pretty good life. It baffles me that whenever I've made room for someone in it, I've always been rejected.

[Marrah_G]

24. I can completely relate

Sometimes it really sucks when you feel like everyone has that but you.

You are not alone!

:hug:

[Omphaloskepsis]

23. My boy parts got cut into a few days ago..

I'm still getting some blood on the gauze. I have to go back to Urgent Care this afternoon to have it looked at.



And yeah, the tape covers pubic hair and it hurts to remove.

[Wcross]

28. While that sucks, it is only temporary.

Um, did it hurt? Lol

[redqueen]

27. Not living overseas?

Can that count?

Ooooh... or not having gotten started on my nursing degree. My laziness / cowardice / being broke and/or stuck for time... all of that sucks. :)

[guitar man]

29. my job

same thing, job sucks life force right out of me. Thing is, it doesn't have to. It has me sitting doing next to nothing monday and tuesday, pace of work is about right wednesday, then thursday and friday every week is a mad scramble to get everything done because people screwed around about getting the stuff to me I needed to get the job done earlier in the week. x(

So, I hit the weekend just completely drained :(

[Deep13]

30. Vague but persistent health problems. n/t

[RFKHumphreyObama]

31. I've never been in a relationship at 26

Never experienced true love, never even had a first kiss. It really, really hurts

My employment situation is bleak. I'd love to have permanent and secure employment

I wish my mother was still with us -I still feel her loss immensely and am disappointed that she will never be able to see me succeed in life or to be a grandmother when my sister has kids

These are just some of the things:cry:

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

52. I had no idea you were you only 26 years old.

I am 27 years old and about 2 months. Anyways... I have experienced true love - it did'nt last long due to other reasons but oh how I miss that feeling... the next time I get it I promised myself to hold on to it tight. Its a beautiful thing (to be in love). The feelings in the beginning are the sweetest. Sigh ...

I wish you the best with your employment situation. I started out at my current company by working as a temp. I was just happy to have a couple of dollars back then ... sigh.I have a steady income now but I am looking for part time work to supplement my income. The grass is not always greener on the other side ...

Your mother is still with you ... I am sorry you lost your mom. If you lived in my city I would seriously take you out for some cheesecake and coffee. You need a break my friend :hug:

[Maraya1969]

32. I'm glad you are going to be dept free in 6 months. Maybe if you go onto

the frugal living forum or check on the net you can figure out ways to cut your spending down a lot and then find another easy job.

Remember American beauty where the guy quits his job in advertising and gets a job at a fast food place? He said he wanted "the least stress job I can find"

[LSK]

33. no main things

Just minor annoyances.

[Lydia Leftcoast]

34. It's a toss-up between

1) The "feast or famine" nature of self-employment (income fluctuates wildly month to month) coupled with the fact that I most likely couldn't get a regular job that paid as much as this on an annual basis

2) The long-term drought in my love life

I particularly mind 2) when 1) is going badly.

[LynneSin]

36. People who copy my threads and steal my trademark CONFESS!!! posts

:popcorn:

[Wcross]

40. Sorry bout that- how much do I owe you on the trademark infringement? n/t

[LynneSin]

41. I have my rates at $25,000 but for DUers....

..usually it's a beer and a shot of good tequila

[Wcross]

68. How about a couple of puppies?

Word has it you you are lacking the companionship of a good dog. I have been informed you are being held captive by some demanding cat overlords that force you to do their bidding. The only way to break free is a puppy!

[billyskank]

37. It is a two way tie

between my frustrating job and my lonely life. :(

[sakabatou]

38. My encephlo-mialitis

[flamingyouth]

42. My health.

Cancer and some other equally not-fun things.

[Wcross]

43. My problems suddenly don't seem so big......

I feel like an ass whining about some piddly job issues compared to your situation. I wish you all the strength needed to beat the cancer flamingyouth. I will be pulling for you.

[flamingyouth]

67. It's all relative, trust me.

Your job sounds awful and I hope you can find something better soon. Thanks for the good wishes; I appreciate them.

[Erva]

94. Cancer really is terrible

I have a check up next week and it never fails to scare the stuffing out of me. I hope you are feeling better soon.

[Throd]

45. Artificial deadlines

I really do like my job (graphic design) But why is everything due tomorrow? The f*ckin' RFP is a few weeks old, so that means it has been fermenting somewhere.

[SteppingRazor]

46. For some reason, I immediately thought of the Baldwin scene in the South Park movie.

Billy: Hey, Alec, you know what sucks about being a Baldwin?

Alec: No, what?

Billy: Nothing!

All Baldwins: Hahahaha!!

[Fox Mulder]

47. My job.

I work overnight at the worst possible place anyone could work at, doing mindless and repetitive labor. It requires no skill and the people I work with are all assholes.

I'll be done there in about a month, month and a half. Thank God.

[ghostsofgiants]

48. My luck with the opposite sex.

And my sleep habits.

[WCGreen]

49. My health....

I can't run anymore and I remember running and feeling the wind on my skin and my hair banging on the back of my neck...

[LaurenG]

50. My attitude, since my family moved in and I started my super stressful new job.

The stress has been more than I imagined and so it's taught me that I am not reacting to other circumstances in the best way, it's my attitude that sucks right now. :(

[cobalt1999]

51. Nothing, but it sucks that it can't last.

Job is pretty good and the money is great.
Marriage is great.
Kids are healthy, straight A, well behaved, and (from my obviously biased viewpoint as their dad) the best looking little girls in the world.
Home is gorgeous.
Location is fantastic.
Personal health is very good.
Life is fun.
Lots of enjoyable friends.

The only thing that sucks is that this window of good times can't possibly continue forever.

[SPKrazy]

53. Probably

being lonely

but I deal with that

I dunno

sadness

anxiety

depression

should i keep going ??? :P

[Dukkha]

54. this awful fucked up real estate market!

10 months listed and not one offer :(

[abq e streeter]

55. my life

[Wcross]

57. Ah, come on now......

It sure beats the alternative.

[abq e streeter]

63. Maybe....just had a cancer scare, looks like I'm ok, so glad I'm not dying

( probably not anyway) but can't pretend to not have mostly been a waste of perfectly good oxygen so far. Its OK , I'm still better off than 99.9% of the wretches on this planet.

[Inchworm]

56. Dealing with a lifetime of poor decisions

I'm dealing better these days mind you. It still sucks when I have an emotional day, and I bring these decisions to the forefront. Today basically sucked rocks.

:hi:

[Wcross]

58. You can't change the past, only learn from it.

I find myself thinking of the mistakes I have made in my life and it really is depressing. I just say "F*** it" and try to make tommorow better. It's all I can do.

[Inchworm]

60. Yup- tomorrow will be better for sure

Today still sucked hehe. Thanks, Wcross :)

:hug:

[GOPisEvil]

59. The love of my life is 2000 miles away.

x(

[Shakespeare]

64. Yikes. And I was whining about a 5-hour drive.

You win! :-(

[GOPisEvil]

66. I have a 5-hour flight...followed by a 90-120 minute drive/ride.

There's a shuttle to her town, but still...

It sucks, but it's the worst thing. The rest of the relationship is great!

[KitchenWitch]

62. Chronic health conditions, both mine and my daughter's

[SarahB]

65. My work schedule.

Bullshit with our exes.

[BlueIris]

69. My mother.

Health is not good. I keep having nightmares about her death. The biggest problem is that despite having the money and the access to treat her serious issues, she refuses to make her health a top priority.

[Wcross]

71. Unfortunately you can't force her to help herself.

I think its called "powdered buttocks syndrome". Once someone has changed your diapers they tend not to want any "advice" from you.

[BlueIris]

75. Wow, no kidding? Geeze, I had no idea.

[Wcross]

77. Yep, no kidding!

I suppose you knew all about that though, don't know why I mentioned it.

[ThatsMyBarack]

70. RepubliCONS mucking up my otherwise liberal neighborhood!

:grr:

[Wcross]

73. Geez, I thought having that chicken barn nearby was bad!

I have a couple of commercial chicken barns in the bottom of the hollow I overlook. They are about 1/2 mile down the hill. They STINK whenever they clean out the poop and the wind is right! STILL, it sure beats your neighborhood:evilgrin:

[Mike03]

74. Abandoned By Inspiration

Although my troubles are very insignificant compared to most, the greatest disappointment for me, over about the past two or three years (or, approximately after Bush was re-elected) is the recurrence of major depression coinciding with a near total loss of belief in or motivation to write, paint or be a creative human being. I used to do this sixteen hours a day, but the love or passion for creating just left me. Where did it go? Will it come back?

But reading these posts has made me enormously grateful for what is right in my life, and it's very hard to complain.

[skyblue]

83. Creativity is a huge outlet. I wouldn't make that the only outlet. 16 hrs seems a bit ott.

How do you have a life (short enough as it is) if you spend 16 hrs/day being creative? Moderation - do other things and it will come.

[applegrove]

79. Being harrassed years ago and sufferiing from PTSD as a result.

[NorthernSpy]

80. my Dad

My Dad died recently.


I'm upset about it.

[Erva]

93. I'm sorry about your dad.

It can take a while to get perspective back. Hang in there.

[NorthernSpy]

96. I'll try...

Hope the job situation improves for you, Erva.


:hug:

[Tafiti]

81. I'm pretty fortunate, it's really just one thing, and it's temporary.

First semester of law school - last 6 weeks and finals. The worst part about finals is that they constitute 100% of your final grade - no pressure or anything!

I cannot wait to walk out of that last final. I'll be heading straight for the bar...

[laylah]

84. Having to work in

a freaking sweatshop because I cannot find anyone that wants a good Social Worker! Being 56 doesn't help any. As for the sweatshop, it is MANDATORY 10 hour days, 58 hour weeks, for $8 an hour. And I thought those hellholes were a thing of the past! :cry:

[skyblue]

85. Surgery and my shitty vulnerable mental state towards it.

If my personal hell doesn't quit the recovery won't go well. Period.
I need one huge mf punching bag at this point. And a paper bag to breathe into.

[DesEtoiles]

86. I am missing someone

And I have for a long time, and there is really no getting over it.

[BlueIris]

87. Right now, it's a certain someone whose carelessness has hurt me.

Bad.

Why does stupidity proliferate in this allegedly advanced age? Whyyyyyy?

[Fox Mulder]

88. I want to change my answer...

to "everything".

[Sweet Freedom]

89. My STBE

Get out of my life!!!! Leave me alone! It's over! Find a new woman to belittle and bully! Aaaaaaurrrgghhhhhh!!!!!! Get a life.

(otherwise, can't complain :P )

[Erva]

90. I can't get a job

I spent the last year getting a master's degree that I thought would help support my family better and I can't get a job. I put my family through a really rotten year and racked up a ton of DEBT. We may have to move. It really sucks.

[graywarrior]

91. One word: FLORIDA

It's like having a life threatening disease living here.

[In_The_Wind]

92. I'm giving up my apartment in south florida,

my honda goldwing 1800CC trike is somewhere down there SNAFU!



You'll make through the next 6 months. :thumbsup: Hang in there!

[graywarrior]

95. Where are you going?

Can I come along?

[In_The_Wind]

98. Ultimately ~ I think I'll become a drifter for a few years.

All of my Rooms To Go are going to be delivered to a place in the woods near Woodstock, NY.


Yep ~ come on along, come on along
The new Jeep is here and begging roam.