Are you married????

[lost-in-nj]

Poll question: Are you married????

me, married 30 years, seperated for one.....
filing for divorce.... together...
amicable ... whatever the fuck that means...



:shrug:

lost

[supernova]

1. Happily divorced for 10 years

:bounce:

[NightWatcher]

2. woo hoo divorced here too

[AlCzervik]

3. yup, married for 16 years.

[opiate69]

4. Married for a year and 8 months.

So far so good.

[VenusRising]

9. Awww.

You're still newlyweds. :)

[opiate69]

12. lol.. yep.. kinda weird to be "starting out" at 38 though.

:-)

[VenusRising]

20. You did it in your own time.

That's what will make it work for you.

:)

[opiate69]

29. That's what I figure too..

waited until I figured I was finally able to know for sure.. and thank Zeus I did.. i think back on some of my previous girlfriends, and holy shit! I'm soooooo glad I didn't marry any of them.. yikes.

[VenusRising]

34. I know those thoughts.

My husband and I thank our lucky stars all the time we didn't marry our previous SOs.

[Tikki]

5. Yes, we have been married for....

40 years.



The Tikkis

[NMDemDist2]

8. how cool is that??

and you still like each other?

what a great gift!

[VenusRising]

10. That's inspiring.

Congratulations. :toast:

[lost-in-nj]

11. WOW

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!


AWESOME!!!!!!!



lost

[China_cat]

97. We're close...34 years.

[NMDemDist2]

6. yup, 15 years next February

third time's a charm (for both of us)

[VenusRising]

7. Happily married to another DUer.

7 years and 3 months. :loveya:

[lost-in-nj]

39. I know

and hes to fucking cute....

:hi: :hug:

lost

[VenusRising]

40. He is, isn't he?

I don't know what I did to get so lucky, but I'm glad I did it. :)

:hi::hug:

[Cabcere]

13. No.

A lot of my friends and acquaintances are getting engaged, but I'm not ready for that yet (especially considering I'm not even dating anyone at the moment!). :shrug: I suppose I've still got some time, though - my parents were 27 when they got married (I'll be 22 next month), and I want to have some time to live on my own for a while before I "settle down" with somebody. :hi:

[lost-in-nj]

23. excuse me....

22????
you could be my daughter..... she's 24

oh hon your still growing :hug: :hug:

22 I was a mother and wife.....
25 I had my second baby....no I DO NOT regret a minute...
I'm still young enough to enjoy my freedom!!!!!

:bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:


:hug: :hug:


lost

[hisownpetard]

25. Good for you, for being as politically involved as you are! At your age,

I barely had a clue.

i think that's terrific.

[bicentennial_baby]

14. Very happily married...

:)

[sniffa]

95. he must be a lucky guy

:loveya:

[LeftyMom]

15. I'm a marriage survivor.

Sorta like cancer except with more trying to kill me. It didn't go well.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

16. Happily divorced for a long time now.

And not looking.

[lizziegrace]

17. Divorced almost 6 years

Separated almost 7.

I was married almost 18 years.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

18. Married, yes for 42 years now...

Not always easy, not always happy...

But we belong to each other, and we will be married till one of us dies...

[hisownpetard]

28. Wow. That's pretty amazing, and very honest.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

33. My dear hisownpetard!

Thank you...

That's how it is...

We do love each other...

[lost-in-nj]

32. ....

Peggy

I have no doubt you belong together.....


hey we have Skittles to kick his ass.......
(yanno if he needs it)

:rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:


lost


(((((hug))))))

[CaliforniaPeggy]

37. My dear lost!

Nah, he doesn't need his ass kicked, sweetie, lol!

We do belong together, though it took a crisis to figure that one out...

He is my foundation...bedrock...

And I love him, and he loves me...

:hug:

[Amerigo Vespucci]

54. Congratulations, CaliforniaPeggy...

...the same was true for my parents. I've got to say that I witnessed some EPIC battles growing up. But at the end of every single one of them they were the "people who belonged to each other." There are times to walk away and times to work it out, and my parents came from a generation where you worked it out. It was the second marriage for both of them and they were determined to make it work, no matter what. They did.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

70. My dear Amerigo Vespucci!

We have never had any really big fights...

Our crisis was more subtle...

I would not want to be without him, nor he without me...

We both feel as though we don't deserve each other...

But we do, at the end of the day...

[unsavedtrash]

19. no longer a couple but still living together

We were partners for twelve years.

[BarenakedLady]

21. Trixy question

But I'll answer yes.

:shrug:

[GreenPartyVoter]

22. Happily married for 14 years :^)

[achtung_circus]

24. Divorced

and looking for the love of my life. No luck, so far.

[SPKrazy]

26. Separated

separate residences now for 3 months

not slept in the same room for a year now

:shrug:

edit: married 18 years

[hisownpetard]

27. Married for 34 yrs., divorced for 4. BTW - my divorce took place in NJ. Do you

have a good atty?

[lost-in-nj]

36. Oh yeah

my cousin is a divorce atty.
she didn't want to represent me cause me and H were a huge part of her life for years...and I understand
BUT

she gave me the name of an Atty....
said she would help me that way!!!!!''


lost

[hisownpetard]

42. Sounds like you're in good hands. If you have any questions, though (since I've been there

already), please feel free to ask!

[lost-in-nj]

44. Thank you

:hug: :hug:

lost

[Wapsie B]

30. Going through divorce at this moment.

Physically separated 6 months. Emotionally separated for much longer than that.

[SPKrazy]

31. understand that sentiment

"emotionally separated much longer than that"

:hug:

[Wapsie B]

45. oh yeah,

that's not uncommon at all.........

thanks

:hug:

[Turbineguy]

35. 29 years

Tomorrow

[cloudbase]

43. Happy anniversary.

29 for me my bride, too.

[stuntcat]

38. 13 years

:headbang:

[triguy46]

41. 31 years. We're lifers.

[hfojvt]

46. no man

but you can do the job when you're in town. :evilgrin:

[femmocrat]

47. Yes.... very....

39 years! Ups and downs, but the happy times far outweigh the rough ones.

[BuddhaGirl]

48. very happily married

just celebrated our ninth anniversary.

Both of us had practice spouses. This is THE ONE! :bounce: :bounce:

[WritingIsMyReligion]

49. Fucking fuck NO.

:P

[Breeze54]

50. Exceedingly happily divorced after being married for 10 years!

So... Fuck NO!! :P

[eyesroll]

51. Happily living together.

My marital status is technically "divorced" (hi Hedges :hi:), but happily repartnered.

[lizerdbits]

52. No

Happily destroying America by not getting married!

I never wanted kids and since most of my dating experiences in my 20's were wife/mother auditions I figure I might be interested in dating again when it's physically obvious I'm not getting pregnant- that will eliminate me 'wasting his time' since I'm not having kids. Or I can get more cats. :)

[DarkTirade]

53. I dodged that bullet, thank the gods.

Not that I have anything against being married... but the person I was thinking about marrying would have been a HUGE mistake.

[Inchworm]

55. Nope- and YEEEEHAW!! I might add

17+ years of misery.

:hug:

[sakabatou]

56. Engaged

[bikebloke]

57. Came close once.

Whew! It turned out that she felt terribly guilty after feeling good sensually.

It'll probably never happen. I've grown so used to not dating, that I'm content with my own company. Though there's a lass in our London office that recently made my heart thud when she was over here...and she's coming back this week! So a couple more thuds to feel human again for a bit.

[RiffRandell]

58. Happily. n/t

[From The Ashes]

59. I don't know...

Separated, I suppose. Divorcing at some point. Married 21 years.

[alarimer]

60. Can't even get a date lately

Of course it would help to leave the house sometime for something other than work, right??

But nothing ever seems to work out. I got burned 7 years ago almost and I am sure I don't want to repeat that experience. So I am torn between loneliness and fear.

[graywarrior]

61. We both need to check occasionally.

[fortyfeetunder]

62. twenty-something...

I lost track.

[bluedigger]

63. Divorced

19 years ago. Hmmm... Maybe it's time to start dating again... :scared: :rofl:

[zingaro]

64. I chose "other"

though technically I am married, "other" feels like the only right answer for reasons far too complex to mention.

[Bonhomme Richard]

65. Married at 21 and 32 years later we are still together.

Actually it has gotten even better.

[seemunkee]

66. 25 years and insanely in love

We've known each other since high school and I can't imagine life without her.

[Roon]

67. When I was 19-years-old, I got married

I thought that if I got married, I wouldn't be gay anymore.......didn't work....

[CaliforniaPeggy]

73. ....

:hug:

[Roon]

74. oh, thanks Peggy

:hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

77. You're welcome, my dear Roon...

When I saw what you said, it just hurt so damn much, sweetie...

I couldn't stand it...

I hope your life is much better now...:hug:

[Roon]

85. My life is so much better now..

I don't have a partner, but things are a lot easier now. I am completely out to my whole family..even my Grandparents. My poor Grandparents..they found out that I was gay and HIV+ at the same time.My Grandmother cried and cried but she eventually got over it. I think she has bigger fish to fry! :-)

[GenDem]

68. 30 years next month.

Got married when I was 18 years old. Even I didn't think it would ever last.

[Pendrench]

69. Yes - celebrated our 12th anniversary on October 28. n/t

[quip]

71. High school sweethearts.... together 31 years, married for the past 24

:hi:

[Roon]

76. You remind me of my sister..

She got pregnant at 17-years-old and had 3 babies after that. She pulled it off though, married and raised 4 kids.Now she is a principal of a high school. Her husband is doing well at his job too. They sure defeated the odds!!!

[quip]

80. Okay, I was wondering where that was going

"defeating the odds" :hi:

Well, it hasn't ALWAYS been roses, but then again, what is?

Next year we will have the proverbial "empty nest". :D :(

[Roon]

87. Three of her babies are now in college

my sister and brother in law bought a house in the town where they are going to college. It's a lot cheaper than paying rental fees, and it's an investment!!! When the kids are finished with school they will either sell the house or rent it out to other students.

[quip]

91. That's a good investment strategy--

Hope it doesn't turn into an "Animal House" :scared: :rofl:

We have a little financial strategy of our own-- my wife is a professor at our alma mater where my daughter is a sophomore and where our son hopes to attend next year (tuition discount, wink, wink) :thumbsup:

[Digit]

72. Happily divorced 2X, thankyewverymuch

The first was like my best friend, but had a bad habit of sleeping around. To this day, I suspect he was bi, but that is a story in itself.
The second was a Repuke of the worst sort, controlling, abusive, and anti-social. I was sure he was going to murder me someday.
A day in my life: he would come home with 2 sick horror flicks per night. The type where the females are being murdered, but to hear it in another room, it sounded like they were having orgasms. He would replay those scenes over and over.
I left with our daughter while he was at work...I was that scared of him. Actually, some dear friends had an intervention with me of sorts as he was keeping me homebound and afraid. They gave me the strength to leave.

My daughter was only 1 1/2 years old, but she bears the scars of her dad's anti-social ways.
She keeps hooking up with abusive boyfriends trying to earn their approval.

I managed to get out, but it breaks my heart that my daughter lacks the self-esteem to stand up for herself.

Happily divorced, hell yeah!

[Breeze54]

75. Glad you had the courage to bail out!

That is scary but you did it! Good for you!

I bailed out too. Same sort of abusive controlling BS!

I fled... literally, across the country.

Teach her to stand up for herself and/or get her in a women's self esteem support group.

[Digit]

78. I am working on it

I am glad you were able to get away, too! It is scary, and to move across country must have compounded the stress you already had!

I am working on my daughter to just move on home and continue her nursing career. Her partner just purchased a home out of state and told her, "if you leave after I purchase this home, you will have hell to pay".

This home was all his idea for his two daughters from a previous marriage. I advised her NOT to sign any documents, but he will need her income to help pay for it. You know how lenders are and they loaned him way too much money. He is trying to entrap her, basically.

She is 23, he is 34. I am just trying at this point to be a safe haven to come home to.

[Breeze54]

81. "if you leave '*********', you will have hell to pay".

Boy, does THAT sound familiar!!

I hope she takes your advice, doesn't sign a damn thing and flee's asap!!

[Richard Steele]

79. As far as She, I, and my dear and omniprescient Lord G*D are concerned: yes. Yes I am.

The Government is another story. The less they know
about my private life, the better.

[SarahB]

82. Next month is our first anniversary!

This year has been an amazing adventure. There's no one I'd want to spend the rest of my life with besides him.

[Heidi]

83. Yep.

He is the cute one. I am the smart one. ;)

[Adsos Letter]

84. yup...29 years this month...

...Mrs. Adso's letter says it seems like it has been longer than that...

:D

[Tuesday Afternoon]

86. two-time loser here.

was not in the cards for me.

[sarge43]

88. In September 25 action packed, fun filled, another glorious day

in the Corps years. We'll probably re-up.

[MissMillie]

89. no.. nobody wants me

at least, that's what it feels like.

[RFKHumphreyObama]

92. Same here

:cry:

[Redbear]

94. How could no one want someone as cute as you?

that doesnt compute.

[Callalily]

90. Single . . . n/t

[riderinthestorm]

93. 22 years married (24 years together total) and better than ever

He invited me to his house for dinner on our first date, I moved in that night and never left. We both knew we were the ones for each other immediately. I'll qualify that story though with advice: finding your "true" love doesn't mean marriage is any easier or smoother. We've had some epic battles and really low YEARS together but through it all, getting divorced or separated was never an issue.

And now that we're so far into this relationship and we've gone through so much together, I can honestly say it's still a wild love affair for both of us.

[dropkickpa]

96. Not just no, but HELL NO!!!

Single, never married. Almost sorta came close once :scared: to Baron von Dickhorn, common-sense kicked in, though.

I HATE sharing my "space", and having a kid, much as I love the little shit, is MORE than enough of that for me.