Why do successful people make me feel like a piece of shit?

[gmoney]

I tell you, I land on the wrong webpage or read the wrong thing, and i just feel worthless...

[some guy]

1. Because you let them?

:shrug:

I think it was Dear Abby who said, "No one can make you feel inferior without your permission."

:hug:

[gmoney]

4. I'm pretty sure it was Eleanor Roosevelt...

it's a reflex

[Generic Brad]

7. Eleanor Roosevelt was Dear Abbey?

Really?

[gmoney]

8. The truth is out there...

and Amelia Earhardt was Ann Landers

[some guy]

15. oh

Well, Abbey (thanks Brad) or Eleanor - it's still a good way to think about things. :D

[Ellen Forradalom]

2. Time to redefine success

I have my health, my friends, my home and my dog. I'm successful.

[gmoney]

5. self-pitying crap deleted

"My advice to you is to start drinking heavily." (advice to myself...)

[Ellen Forradalom]

10. Then I'll be a successful drunk

[ThomCat]

3. Comparing yourself to others can only make you sore.

People tell me that they envy me, and I can't imagine why. I compare myself to others and all I see are my weak spots and flaws and disability.

You're probably seeing only your downside too. That's probably not how others see you.

Please judge yourself based on how your friends see you, not how you think you should compare to others. :)

:hug:

[GoddessOfGuinness]

17. What excellent advice!

Will you send e a copy of this every day, until I get it in my head? :loveya:

[ThomCat]

18. Only if you're remind me of the same advice

periodically. :hug:

[GoddessOfGuinness]

21. ...

Very Good Advice
From "Alice in Wonderland"
Music and Lyrics by Sammy Fain and Bob Hilliard

I give myself very good advice
But I very seldom follow it
That explains the trouble that I'm always in
Be patient, is very good advice
But the waiting makes me curious
And I'd love the change
Should something strange begin

Well I went along my merry way
And I never stopped to reason
I should have know there'd be a price to pay
Someday...someday

I give myself very good advice
But I very seldom follow it
Will I ever learn to do the things I should?
Will I ever learn to do the things I should?

[Swede]

6. There will always be greater and lesser men then you.

It's not good to compare. Focus on the good,change what you can,accept what you can't. All cliches but all true.

[porphyrian]

9. How do you define success?

If you succeeded at nothing, you wouldn't be reading this.

[gmoney]

13. yeah, my last big hurrah was 4th grade, when I was reading at a 6th grade level

...peaked WAY too soon.

[porphyrian]

16. What I meant was that you shouldn't allow others to define success for you.

If you were totally content, there would be no reason to do anything. Maybe you need to spend some time with people whose lives are completely shitty for perspective (yours may be, I don't know, but I'm willing to bet there are others who have it worse).

[gmoney]

30. Rationally, I have that perspective.

my mind knows that, on a global scale, I have it pretty sweet at the moment. place to live, car, reasonably steady income, no horrendous diseases that I know of...

but my rational mind never seems to control my moods or state of mind.

[porphyrian]

35. Yeah. Luckily, emotions are biochemical and can be altered.

It sounds like you need some un-bumming ones.

[flvegan]

11. And you're not successful?

I beg to differ, bro.

My dad used to say, "money ain't worth shit until you spend it"

Well, I was 8, so he didn't really say "shit"

[gmoney]

14. Not sure I get your dad's point...

I'm not saying there aren't people worse off than me. I know that, rationally, but there seem to just be so many ways I'm not measuring up.

[flvegan]

27. IOW, money isn't a yardstick.

I've seen your work. You're damn good. Successful as a mf.

How are YOU not measuring up? Second question, measuring up to what specifically?

[Prisoner_Number_Six]

12. You mean you're NOT?

Hmmm. Go figure.

(Before you go off and have a panic attack, let me just say this post was offered up as light-hearted, good-natured derogatory commentary, and thus may be taken with however many grains of salt that you deem sufficient to get past it and move on. You worthless shit, you.)

[gmoney]

19. Yeah, I'm the one.

...bringing down the average...

[VenusRising]

20. I feel that way sometimes.

For me, it comes from knowing that I had much higher expectations of myself as I was growing up, and I don't feel like I worked hard enough to try to accomplish those expectations. When you hold yourself to such high standards you're bound to fail. I feel like I could offer so much, but I waffle in indecision not knowing if that's really what I'm going to be successful doing, so I don't.


I started thinking of things in terms of happiness. If I'm happy, then I'm successful. There is too much pressure to be and to do. Be bigger and better than the next guy. Be stronger. Faster. Smarter. I'm content being an honest caring person not competing with anyone, instead being everyone's cheerleader.

[Shine]

22. Snap out of it, gmoney!!!! Right now, stop everything and do this:

think of something in your life that you are GRATEFUL for.

Remembering to be in Gratitude is a great remedy for when we are feeling inadequate.

There are gifts YOU bring to the planet that nobody else has. Be grateful for the gift of who you are. :hug:

[SPKrazy]

23. I agree with Shine

be grateful for the gifts you bring

success is not measured only by material things

you are a great photographer

you bring other gifts im sure as well


way to say it shine!!! :hug:

[gmoney]

32. Reminds me of a great sermon

Brian: You're ALL individuals!
The Crowd: Yes! We're all individuals!
Brian: You're all different!
The Crowd: Yes, we ARE all different!

Man in crowd: I'm not.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qANMjwLmo6Y

[hisownpetard]

24. I dunno. Do shitty people make you feel successful?

[Robeson]

25. Define what you consider successful.

[Wapsie B]

26. You're talking to the King of self-flagellation here.

This does you no good at all. What makes you feel unsuccessful? Everyone's life is different. Comparing yourself to others gets you nowhere at all. For me,I'm all alone and have nothing at all going on this weekend, socially or otherwise. I'm volunteering at a community Xmas dinner to not spend Xmas Day by myself. But overall I still feel good. Does life frustrate me? Oh hell yes. Somedays I wish I could find my place in the world and someone with whom to enjoy it. As aggravating as it is I can't force it to happen. So I figure as long as they're not shoveling dirt over me I've still got a chance to have what I want outta life. It may be a small chance, but a chance nonetheless.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

28. My dear gmoney...

Welcome to the club!

I normally feel happy and confident in my abilities...

Not tonight...

:-(

[gmoney]

29. Wow, I've even managed to bum out California Peggy

I guess I'm a success as a downer...

Sorry you have the blues, Peggy... you're everyone's favorite DUer at least! :)

[CaliforniaPeggy]

31. Awww, sweetie...

You didn't bum me out...

Someone else did...not a DU'er...

You are not a success as a downer!

I think your photos are wonderful!

I know you all love me, and it comforts me like you wouldn't believe...

:hug:

[Heidi]

33. g,

you were one of my earliest DU friends. Thank you for always being kind to me. :hug: :hug:

Please know that feelings are mostly just that, _feelings_, and while they often _feel_ very real, they're not necessarily an accurate gauge of reality. :hug:

[gmoney]

39. Thanks Heidi

Perhaps there's been a shortage of your sage counsel... you and CMW have always been very supportive, and I appreciate it.

But it's more than the photography stuff... nothing feels good or right these days.

[TrogL]

34. It's how they function

Authoritarians believe only their kind are allowed to get ahead.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

36. I have moments of self doubt as well. I think it is meant to keep us

humble and striving to be a better human being...Don't let it persist. The valleys have their appeal, but the peaks have a better view. :hug:

[MissHoneychurch]

37. I don't know

but I know that you an awesome photgrapher and a wonderful friend :hug:

[gmoney]

38. Thanks sweetie...

Doesn't feel like it most of the time, either one...

your support means a lot to me though. :) :hug: