Am I missing out on something?

[Droopy]

I'm 35, got a good job, and a nice place. I'm single and have never been married. No kids. I'm cool with that but I do get kind of lonesome sometimes. What do you think?

[LeftyMom]

1. How about a dog or cat?

That'd take care of the lonely sometimes thing, and you should have no trouble finding one that needs a home. :)

[Droopy]

3. Dogs are not possible due to my work situation

and I don't have a good place for a litter box for a cat. I do love both cats and dogs, though. I would have a cat if my place were more suitable. I would go pick up one at the shelter if that were not the case.

[TimeChaser]

16. What about a reptile?

I had a turtle who was a real sweetheart once :)

[CaliforniaPeggy]

2. My dear Droopy...

I can bet you get lonesome sometimes, sweetie...

A happy marriage, or a happy relationship, can add a lot of joy to your life...

Studies have shown that married people live longer...

Something about a built-in support system...

The cynics say it just seems longer, lol!

Are there any nice women at your church?

:hi:

[Droopy]

4. I cut off the church after my first visit there

The people are nice, but they just seemed to have that sort of brain washed feeling that I remembered from back in the days in my youth when I went to church. I can see some advantages of being solitary and some of being together with someone. I really don't know.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

5. Ah, too bad about that...

Every relationship needs both togetherness, and apartness...

Right now, my husband is downstairs, and he's reading...

And I'm up here in my study, DU'ing...

We have quality time together, always...

But we value our privacy and our time apart too...

It's worked for over 42 years!

[Droopy]

7. Excellent, Peggy!

I'm glad that you have a happy marriage. :)

[Critters2]

9. You might want to look for another religious community.

Maybe a church of another tradition, or another faith. I think faith communities can and should step into the role of being family in a culture where so many are alone, and even rootless. You won't find a perfect faith community, but it beats the hell out of loneliness. Most of the time :)

[Droopy]

11. I don't know, critters

The church I was looking at was a UU church. If I can't make it there I don't know of too many churches that would be more accepting.

[auntAgonist]

6. hey ..

How about an organization like "Big Brothers" or something? You could befriend a young boy who doesn't have an older male figure in his life. maybe?

aA

kesha.

[Droopy]

10. I've thought about charity

And I have talked to some people about that, but nothing has come of it. I might make a good big brother if I didn't have to work until noon on Saturday. But to be honest I have never checked out being a big brother and it might be more accomodating than I think. It might be something worth looking in to.

[ismnotwasm]

8. Kids are overrated

But the grandkids are great.

Seriously, though, take your time. Enjoy what you enjoy, and don't let false societal expectations tell you you're doing something wrong.

[Droopy]

12. I like being on my own

but there are times when I wish that wasn't so. There is really no pressure from society or family that I can't handle. It's just that I am alone. See what I mean?

[Omphaloskepsis]

13. Well...

I'm 30, hate my job, and live in a RV in a backyard. I'm attached and have never been married. No kids.

It could be worse.

[LaStrega]

14. anyone who has a peace symbol for an avatar ...

is okay in my book

;-)

[orleans]

15. are you missing out on something? it depends on what you want i guess

my mother says you can't miss something you never had

(i think she might be correct)