Help me out, if you can: Why would someone feel anxiety when life goes WELL?

[Writer]

Anyone? Anyone? Bueller? Buuueller?

:shrug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

1. My dear Writer...

I'd say perhaps the person doesn't feel as though they deserve to be happy...

:shrug:

[Madrone]

2. One reason ...

Because sometimes people don't believe things can really go well for *them* - so when things are good they are just waiting for the HORRIBLE thing they know that's coming in spades.

[mitchum]

16. I think that is indeed the answer

[mitchum]

17. delete: posted in wrong place

[ScreamingMeemie]

3. The "waiting for the shoe to drop" syndrome.

I felt that way my entire marriage...and then it came true. I suggest not wasting time on anxiety. You'll miss out on so much that is beautiful and be left with the hurt.

[Boojatta]

4. If it APPEARS that things are going well, then

obviously things have been arranged to get the person to relax and become vulnerable to a sudden attack that is being planned.

[TZ]

5. Brain chemistry, simple as that

Some people just have chemical imbalances with dopamine, seratonin ect which can cause depression and anxiety disorders in people even if their life is good.

[Orsino]

25. There you have it.

There are all sorts of neuroses, clinical and sub-, which can prevent someone from feeling good even when all else is well. I suppose there's sheer cussedness, too, though that may not be a separate thing.

[theredpen]

6. There are a lot of reasons

Perhaps they are afraid they are an "impostor" or somehow otherwise undeserving of their good fate.

Perhaps there is a subconscious issue that is being tweaked causing anxiety that isn't directly related to any obvious circumstances.

Happiness is the time-rate derivative of well-being. Maybe they're at a "well-ness plateau" and feeling like their not going anywhere.

Perhaps they are chemically depressed and need to be on medication (overused, yes, but true for many people).

[karmaqueen]

7. I have had that off & on my whole life.

I call it free floating anxiety. Something inside my soul just waiting for the phone call telling me something bad happened to ruin my otherwise happy life. I hate when I am like that, it is miserable, and I am lucky that I don't feel like that most of the time. When I am like that it seems as if other things are going on with me too,I can't sleep & I can't drink coffee, just feel different in general. I have been through this several times in my life & know it will eventually pass, I don't drink or take any kind of anti depressants so I rely on my spiritual beliefs & put everything in the hands of who ever is in charge. Good luck & hope your anxiety passes soon.

[Adsos Letter]

8. ...what turtlnsue said...

this stuff can often be ameliorated with regular exercise...30 minutes a day of fast walking, get those dopamines going...it does have a cumulative effect.

[Adsos Letter]

9. ...what turtlnsue said...

this stuff can often be ameliorated with regular exercise...30 minutes a day of fast walking, get those dopamines going...it does have a cumulative effect.

[Lethe]

10. if you figure this out lemme know

i would love to hear the answer.

[CorpGovActivist]

11. First...

... give yourself a great big hug. You deserve to be happy.

Second, if your good fortune includes good medical insurance, treat yourself to a few sessions with a good counselor. Don't consider it therapy. Consider it brainstorming with a stranger. I've seen this work wonders for friends, and both siblings are in the field; the stigma is diminishing, if you have any hang-ups.

Third, do things that make you feel more deserving of your good fortune. Volunteer. Practice a random act of anonymous kindness.

Finally, mentor someone who is not as far along in your field, your artistic passion, or whatever else you know you're good at - ahem - Writer.

: )

FWIW.

- Dave

[BlueIris]

12. People who have had to deal with chronic, long-term abuse often feel anxiety about security.

And success. This "someone" might want to invest in major therapy, as well as begin doing the hard work involved in developing self-worth and self-respect. Then security and success won't feel so intimidating.

[Lorien]

13. Because if life usually sucks then a change for the better is still a change

and change of any kind can really scare some people.

That's just one of several dozen possible answers.

[Scout]

14. because of their brain chemistry n/t

[ElboRuum]

15. Waiting for the other shoe to drop?

:shrug:

[mitchum]

18. . "Count no man happy until his death"

[Tikki]

19. Might be PTSS...

Some times things go haywire for awhile....and then things go better and
we think...Wow, everything is going fine now...but, why am I so anxious all the time.

The ole past in the present thing.


Good luck with this Writer....many of us here know from
where you are now.....remember to pat yourself on the back,
and I mean literally and take deep breaths...it helps.


Tikki

[Deja Q]

20. Dunno. I'm used to it so often, it's just second nature.

Think of it as a gift, for gifted people.

:hug:

[Westegg]

21. The line between fear of failure...

...and fear of success can be a thin one.

[DarkTirade]

22. A firm believer in Murphy's Laws?

:shrug:

[zanne]

23. Writer; Let Paul Simon explain it...

http://youtube.com/watch?v=Wvl7PpwGgC0&feature=related

One of my favorites and, as usual, right on target.

[hunter]

24. My brain is always looking for something to be anxious about.

Meds keep me functional.

I think a certain number of us were meant to be the lookouts.

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