So today some guy was flirting with me...

[redqueen]

and at one point I asked him, "Haven't you ever liked someone so much that you weren't interested in doing anything sexy with anyone else?" And he said, "No, I'm a guy. All guys are like this, but some can keep it in check."

Anyone wanna tell me he was full of shit?

Cause honestly... people keep harassing me about not putting myself "out there"... well if that's reality, I'd rather be alone. Really.

[MrCoffee]

1. you couldn't just tell me to back off in pm?

real friggin' nice. :rofl:

i'm sorry you met an asshat.

[Inchworm]

2. Didn't sound like flirting to me

so much as being rude.

Have a hug

:hug:

and a flirt.

:loveya:

:hi:

[Iris]

3. yes, he sounds like a creep.

Why would he think that would be appealing to you? What did he think he'd get from that line?

[redqueen]

5. I have no idea.

I didn't think he was being a creep. I thought maybe he was just being honest.

[Iris]

29. well, than he's just dumb.

No man can speak for 'all guys' just like no woman can speak for all women.


but I'll go with what Iggo said further down the thread

[La Lioness Priyanka]

4. the truth is a lot of people are like him and a lot of people are not.

applicable to both genders.

[redqueen]

6. "and a lot of people are not"

That's what I was hoping. I asked a few guys after I heard this, and to my dismay, none of them disagreed. Kinda depressing.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

7. so is it that you want someone to not think about anyone sexually at all

or to not act on it?

[redqueen]

8. Not to even WANT to act on it.

Is that unrealistic?

It's one thing to think sexy things... but to do sexy things is quite another, IMO. And no, I'm not talking about flirting... I'm talking about doing more than flirting.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

10. to not want to do it is somewaht like saying to not think it.

and to not think it is unreasonable.

i love lisa and dont want to fuck anyone else but i will think angelina jolie is hot.

[redqueen]

11. Yeah but would you have phone sex with Angelina?

See... that's the sort of thing I mean. Of course you're going to think people are hot... and even think about doing things.

It's the leap from thinking about it and keeping it just fantasy... and actually wishing you could do those things... that's what I'm talking about.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

16. no but then again i dont like phone sex.

and i would have any kind of sex with anyone else

[redqueen]

18. Yeah... bad example.

I meant not just fantasizing... but wishing that you could... really wanting to, you know?

[Beer Snob-50]

34. I think he was saying the same as you really

I think most men think of sex on a regular basis (I have at least once while posting this!!:P ) I think 99.9% of those men are able to keep those urges in check however. Those that cannot end up on the news for rape and all.

An example, I was flirting with a women in Starbucks this morning. I may fantasize having sex with her, but know that it cannot be because a) I am married and don't do that sort of thing, and b)I am married and my wife will cut off my testicles if I did that sort of thing.

[redqueen]

35. "a) I am married and don't do that sort of thing"

No... I don't think it's the same thing.

Why isn't that "I am married and I don't WANT to do that sort of thing"?

[Beer Snob-50]

40. Sorry..

I don't want to do that sort of thing and I don't do that sort of thing is the same in my mind.

[Solon]

9. He's full of shit.

not all guys are like this. I don't understand why he would say that.

[redqueen]

12. Just a guess... but...

he was trying to get me to be interested in him, and I was telling him I'm interested in someone else, to the exclusion of anyone else... so maybe he was trying some angle or somethin. Who knows.

[Iggo]

13. The man's never been in love.

Cut the asshat some slack.

[redqueen]

14. Yay.

:)

I mean... I'm not glad he's never been in love... well, I guess a little... since if he had this attitude after being in love... well, that's sad.

But yay for that response. That makes sense... and now I feel less depressed.

Thank you.

[Parche]

15. I didnt flirt with you today......????

:hi: :hug: :hi:

[redqueen]

21. ..

:hi:

[Wapsie B]

17. No not all guys are like that.

But that one's a douchebag.

[lost-in-nj]

19. Was Parche bothering you again ???

I got your back....

:silly:


lost

:hi:

[IronLionZion]

20. Are some guys loyal? Of course we are

I'm loyal.

But to never think sexy thoughts is a bit of a stretch. Surely, you can find many men who would never want to act on it. But if someone tells you they would never think about it, then they are probably being dishonest. I have had this conversation with my girlfriend and she admit to the same. We both are very confident in the other one's loyalty...because we can be honest with each other about these things.

[redqueen]

22. Was I misleading somewhere? I said "weren't interested in doing "

Doing, not thinking.

[IronLionZion]

23. I misunderstood, of course there are many men who aren't interested in doing.

Hope this makes you feel better! :hi:

Happy V day! :loveya:

[redqueen]

24. Yes... it helps.

Thank you. :)

I'm STILL not putting myself "out there" though.

[texas1928]

25. I am not like that.

[redqueen]

26. ...

Thanks. :)

[texas1928]

27. You're welcome.

YOU SEXY THANG!!!


Was that me...


Excuse me.


:P

I am not that outgoing in person. I am really shy.

[styersc]

28. As an example...

...since reading your post I have thought of no one but you.

See, we're not all bad.

[Taverner]

30. Redqueen - I love you but...

We guys are like that

Our lizard brain does not have an on off switch like womens' does.

[redqueen]

33. Aw...

you forgot the winky smiley, right? Or the little sarcasm thing? Yes?

[MichiganVote]

31. That's not flirting. That's just being obnoxious. Ditch em'/nt

[redqueen]

36. It's just a casual acquaintance. No 'ditching' required. (nt)

[DarkTirade]

32. I can't understand the idea of NOT being able to feel that way about someone...

but then again, I'm not exactly in the 'normal' box by anyone's definition.

I think that's also why I've never tried the poly thing. I'm cool with it, I just don't see myself as being able to pull it off. :P

[redqueen]

37. Same here.

:hi:

[Rambis]

38. Bastard!

I don't cheat on my wife because I couldn't face her- Even if I could get away with it the guilt would cut me up. That withstanding I still think about sex -sorry had a thought there...I mean... well really.... what was a saying? Sod it!

Probabley a Gooner:evilgrin:

[redqueen]

39. Hahahaha... no! He's a hockey fan. Bleh.

And see but no... why "even if I could... the guilt would cut me up"... is guilt all that stops most men? That fucking sucks!