Forgiveness

[shanine]

The Top 10 Misconceptions about Forgiveness


1. Withholding forgiveness hurts the other person.
The truth is: Withholding forgiveness hurts yourself.


2. Forgiveness is a passive endeavor.
The truth is: Forgiveness is a very active endeavor, where you can ultimately reach out in love and compassion to the other person.


3. Forgiveness lets people off the hook, so they aren't accountable to their actions.
The truth is: Forgiveness and accountability are not the same topic. You can have both. Forgive another by offering empathy and unity; yet still uphold the process of accountability within the social structure.


4. Forgiving someone tells that person that whatever he or she did was acceptable with you.
The truth is: Accepting their actions and accepting their true nature underneath it all are two very different things. You can make that clear.


5. Forgiveness is for the other person.
The truth is: Forgiving another is an act we do for ourselves, to free ourselves from the pain or bitterness.


6. When you are forgiving, you are "pardoning" someone's bad behavior.
The truth is: There is no "pardoning," just a clearer perception on who that other person truly is, and what they can still provide to your life, to a community and to a society.


7. Forgiveness is done by saying the words "I forgive you."
The truth is: Forgiveness resides not only in words but also in thought, feeling and action.


8. Forgiving another person doesn't do any good really.
The truth is: It not only uplifts you AND that person in ways unseen, but it brings that much more light to a world in need.


9. Forgiveness is only for religious people.
The truth is: It's for all of us walking the planet.


10. It's too hard to forgive.
The truth is: It can be hard, but not too hard, not when you have the right support and perspective.

[OPERATIONMINDCRIME]

1. I Always Forgive.

I learned a long time ago, that each of us walk down our own path, in our own ways, for our own reasons, and in our own time. We don't learn at the same rate, we don't perceive in the same ways, and we are all in different places along that path. Sometimes, as human nature, we all too often view others with the same expectations and convictions we have for ourselves, but that isn't quite fair. Even the person that fucks up the most, does so because they simply have not yet learned the lessons or wisdom in which they would've required to not have made the mistake.

Forgiveness is always just simply the right thing to do, and is merely a statement of "you are not perfect. You do the best you can with what you know, feel and have, and we are all on a journey to achieve a higher state of wisdom. I don't agree with what you did, but it is my hopes that nothing but good things come for you and that you someday acquire the wisdom necessary along your path to right your wrongs and be enlightened to why that's not something you should do again".

We are all human and inherently flawed. Some more than others. But all we can do is the best we can, and sometimes that best falls far short of what someone in our lives expects and needs. But it doesn't make us truly bad people. It just makes us journeyers down our paths like everyone else.

[shanine]

2. You know, OMC, from the way you usually post

I never would have expected this from you. . . . Wow!!
Thanks for responding and thanks for your perspective.
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[OPERATIONMINDCRIME]

3. LOL

Well, truth be told, I'm actually quite a deep and sensitive guy.

I just happen to have a real wiseass component to my personality, coupled with a bit of an impulse control disorder, that turns me into a total prick at times lol

But what you see above, is actually far more indicative of how people in real life know me and how I am at the core, than the persona of mine you're generally used to on here :)