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Suddenly - as if from nowhere - my youngest kid, whose going to turn 9 is exploding intellectually.
All night long, it's question after question, about the structure of matter - he gave a neat little correct lecture on the structure of protons vs. neutrons last night at bedtime - and this evening I pulled out an old calculus text to show him the geometry of the Mean Value Theorem - and he got it. At bed time it was a discussion of organic chemistry and the nature of aromatic rings and double bonds.
We've talked about Neils Bohr and the structure of the atom, the nature of electromagnetic radiation, all kinds of stuff.
In the last few weeks he's been teaching himself to play the recorder and the guitar.
Two nights ago we went into this big thing about the structure of cells and cell organelles, all questions based on his independent reading - books he took out of the library.
He is suddenly at a point where I don't have to teach him much - it's all self driven.
(They seem not to have noticed any of this at my son's school by the way, which is actually fine by me.)
The problem is his older brother, now 13, who is no intellectual slouch by any means - an Einstein, I might add of ethics who has told not one lie in his life except to spare feelings - who suddenly feels inferior to his little brother.
The kicker is that the little guy wins every game they play together, chess, monopoly, whatever.
My boys are extremely close - best friends - and is very clear that the little guy has benefited and advanced because of his older brother, but frankly, the little guy is intimidating.
There's a part of me that wants to hold back something - the attention I'm giving the little guy because of his interest and his intensity. On the other hand, I don't really want the little guy to feel bad about his intellect. I don't really want him to feel he has to hide it, or be ashamed of it. And I want the older guy to know that I love him and value him as much as his brother.
And the last thing I want - I'm speaking as a guy who will never speak to his own brother again - is to drive any kind of wedge between my boys.
I really don't know what to do in this space.
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