I'm moving out of my mom's house in a couple weeks.

[lightningandsnow]

I'm living with my dad, once he gets an actual permanent apartment.

Can't say I'll be back to visit much, although, who knows. She just called me "One of the most negative people she has ever met", and I doubt she's all that sad to see me go. I mean I told her, and she was just like "fine."

I don't know why she seems to dislike me so much. But I have to move forward with my life.

[lost-in-nj]

1. I hope its a more nurturing environment for you

and that it turns out great


:hi: :hug:


lost

[lightningandsnow]

19. Thank you.

:hug:

[coffeenap]

2. Oh sweetie. I wish you peace.

:hug: There are lots of us thinking of you.

[lightningandsnow]

17. Thank you.

:hug:

[TZ]

3. Good for you.

It sounds like you live in a toxic environment right now.
Maybe once you and your mother get some space from each other, you will get along better.
My younger sister was the same way with my mom. Fought like hell with each other but once my sis moved out..they got along much better.
:hug:

[lightningandsnow]

18. I hope you're right.

And thank you for the hugs.

[Redstone]

4. Christ. kiddo, it's not easy to go through what you're experiencing. I'm not going to lie to you,

or offer you any bullshit platitudes.

Being in the situation you're in just absolutely (and I'm an old fart so I have to add the qualifier that I'm putting in younger-people terms) sucks.

There's NOTHIING you can do to make it any better for anyone except yourself. And you can only do THAT by waiting your parents out (let them beat each other silly without getting into anyone's fight yourself), and hunkering down until the storm is over.

But you have DU, right?

Redstone

[lightningandsnow]

16. Thank you.

Yeah, it is nice to have DU... hope I'm not turning people off with all my ranting.

[Midlodemocrat]

5. Honey, she doesn't dislike you. She just doesn't get you right now.

I have two teenagers of my own and sometimes they seem as though they are from another planet. I remember being the same way when I was a teenager.

Your mom doesn't dislike you. Trust me. She doesn't. She's just confused right now.

[lightningandsnow]

9. I suppose...

You might very well be right. Thank you.

[redwitch]

6. mother /daughter, especially teen daughter relationships can be brutal.

I speak from experience. As a grown up, my mom and I finally had it out. And then became quite close until her death in 2004. I am so grateful for that. Hang in there kiddo, glad you will be with your dad at this point. :hug:

[malta blue]

7. I hope you and your mom can find a peaceful place in

your relationship.

:hug:

[Bucky]

8. I've been there (on the parents' side, that is)

My kid's mom said some real ugly stuff to her when she, at 11, started insisting that she move in with me. I'm really sorry that your mom's venting, trying to push your buttons and all. She's just not in her right mind cause some of her dreams are dying and she hasn't figured out how to build new ones for her new life.

You have a right not to be parentified--you don't have to be the mature one here cause you're the teenager and you won't even have a developed cerebral cortex for a few more years. But if you luck onto a moment, it won't hurt to toss an unconditional validation her way.

You're probably about only knee deep in the shit now--I promise you worse stuff will happen before it gets better. But it does get better. I'm just sorry you have to go thru all this. Checking in here and checking in with friends--taking the time to develop new interests and new ideas is a smart way to keep your batteries recharged. And above everything else, you deserve to have your batteries recharged.

Thanks for keeping us posted, kiddo.

[SKKY]

10. Sometimes, you just have to cut your losses and move forward...

...be thankful you have your Dad to lean on. I had neither, which is why I joined the Navy. I'm not saying I have many regrets, but I would very much have liked to have taken a different path to where I am now. I do wish you the best because, knowing from experience, it's sucks when parents do this.

[x-g.o.p.er]

11. Your Mom loves you very much

She just can't relate to you right no. Moms and daughters go through this, for many different reasons, and even in ideal situations it's difficult for moms to watch their little girls grow up (Dads too).

My wife went through it with our oldest two girls, and is going through it now with our final fifteen year old. She's very close to the first two, and there has been a detente in the latest Cold War, and eventually Mom will be as close to daughter #3 as she is to #1 and #2.

Hang in there. There's a lot of people thinking about you and hoping everything turns out for the best. It may not seem like it, but it will get better. Maybe not tomorrow, but it will. Just give it some time, and be glad you've got your Dad to help you weather the storm.

Godspeed, kiddo.

[Chovexani]

12. Any sane person would be proud to have you for a kid.

:hug:

[lightningandsnow]

15. Thanks.

:hug: for you too.

[lildreamer316]

13. You? Negative??

Um....yeah. Okey dokey.
Best of luck, dear. I'll be thinking about you.

[lightningandsnow]

14. Aww...thanks.

Sometimes I worry if I am a little too negative. So thank you for that.