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First, I want to say that most cats will come out of that kind of a snit, but others won't. There is a trait that some cats just don't do "affectionate" as we hope they would. My babygirl Jessica was never one to be pattable or affectionate--when we went past a certain tolerance level with her, she would retaliate by striking at us or biting. You might be able to google it, but i can't recall what the condition is supposed to be.
Another thing, my sister and her ex husband had a cat that they incessantly teased and had mock fights with. The kitten grew up with the mistaken impression that it was okay to bite, scratch or otherwise play rough. Once he was a bit older, this had stuck, and there was no way to change his nature. If you know the people who you adopted the kitten from, see if they did this, and if they did, there are often few ways of changing the personality completely. One thing you might try is letting them take the initiative and coming to you and if you pat them and they start scratching or biting, you would need to back off and leave them alone until they approach you again. Seeing that they aren't going to be able to pull your strings might help them to develop new traits.
Another thing, if an animal has feral roots, some of this behavior can be attributable to instinct. Two of my kits were from a feral father and partially feral mother, and were still "wild" in personality. Even though they were beloved housecats, they never came home when they managed to escape from the house. Looked for them for a long time, but deep inside I knew I would never see either of them again. One was almost 10, and his sister was 10 1/2 when she got out. So instinctual behavior can account for some of that "angry" behavior.
Regardless, cats are more sociable than most people give them credit for, and you might be surprised that the kit will eventually come to you for company. You just have to give them the sense that you're there for them when they need you.
Another thing you might try: if you're having just a couple of people visiting and it's a low level of noise, you can try keeping them from running and hiding, and kind of force them to be around the guests for a little while, at least. The most mellow cats usually have a lot of noise at home--I call it shell-shock, but it's true that those least fazed by kids, dogs, noise, etc. do tend to be able to stand more. My own were raised without a lot of noise, and often ran away from anyone other than myself. In essence, they were not as tame because their living conditions were quieter, and they never had the opportunity to become more laid-back.
Good luck--hope kit finds you way too cuddly to ignore soon!
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