If your spouse died, would you get married again? nt

[raccoon]

[mondo joe]

1. Not likely. Not at my age or older. I'd be too focused on my kids, and I'm too set

in my ways.

I like to think I'd find someone, but I wouldn't do it in the same way. I wouldn't merge our assets or debts.

(Note: I am not technically married because I'm gay, but still...)

[MotorCityMan]

8. I did not think I would, but I did

I am gay, also, and my late partner passed away 5 years ago. I did not think I would ever get involved with anyone again.

A little over a year after Mike died, I started venturing out into the dating scene. It didn't take very long until I met Steve. It turns out we went to the same high school and grew up in the same neighborhood. He ended up moving in with me a couple of months after we met.

It's not the same at all, and Steve has been great as far as respecting the fact that I lost someone I loved very much. I still miss Mike a lot, and always will; he respects that. I do love Steve, but not like I loved Mike.

[mondo joe]

12. Interesting. Thanks for sharing your story.

Part of my feeling about myself is based on having kids. It's very hard for me to imagine fitting someone else into my family in that way - and harder to imagine anyone wanting to.

I do think when the kids are older, if my patrner died, I could have a... companion. But I can't imagine sharing our debts and income the way my partner and I do. We started out young and broke together and made whatever we have together. I can't see starting that over again.

[graywarrior]

2. No.

Never.

Ever.

[northzax]

3. well sure

i wouldn't knock her off for the life insurance until I had a replacement in the wings. sheesh.

[BarenakedLady]

4. I'm never getting married again.

Legally anyway.

[miss_american_pie]

18. Ditto

Any which way. :hug:

[youthere]

5. Nope.

I wouldn't even live with someone...although I would date.

[spinbaby]

6. Probably not

Although I'd probably wind up living with a man because I just plain like them.

[AngryAmish]

7. Probably

I would want her to do the same if I died.

[LynzM]

9. How can anyone know that?

I mean, personally, I hope to never, ever need to know. But I also refuse to make any assumptions about who I would be or what my mental state would look like after something that terribly happening to me.

[NMDemDist2]

10. probably

if an old broad like me could fine another hubby

but not very quickly I'm sure

but who knows??

[grannylib]

29. My 85 year old mom just remarried in August; the groom is 91

They married in the chapel of the nursing home attached to the assisted living facility where they live.
It was kind of cute. He fell asleep in his wheel chair partway through the ceremony, but was awake for the "I dos" so it's all legal *lol* :-)

[MonkeyFunk]

38. Good for them!

That's so cute!

[KansDem]

11. Probably not...

I'm just not up to going through all that again.

But then, if the right person came along...who knows? :shrug:

[Jamastiene]

13. If I had a spouse and she died,

I would try to keep her memory alive and at the same time, live the rest of my life to the fullest. In other words, yes, I would, after a reasonable amount of time for the grieving process.

[pitohui]

14. it seems very unlikely

first i am older and the ratio of older women to older men is not attractive

second i have the example of many of my older relatives being drained by greedy male gold diggers

i would not even consider a second marriage unless the man could pass a full financial screen and maybe not even then, since pre-nups are not worth the paper they're written on (in our extended family's experience)

so the dude would have to be substantially wealthier than i am, as well as easy going and no addictions, and in that case, he would prob. go for somebody younger

i don't have very strong social needs so i don't see this as a terrible tragedy, to be honest

certainly don't plan to be one of those older women whose "golden" years are spent wiping some old man's ass

[CaliforniaPeggy]

15. My dear raccoon...

I've thought about this, and I think I would at least entertain the idea...

I love my husband, and I'm not looking to replace him, but...

If he dies (and this isn't unlikely, since he is four years older than I am), I would be terribly lonely.

IF the right man came along

IF...

I would most likely marry again...

I love men, and I love being around them...

It would seem natural to me.

[zingaro]

16. ohhellsno never not a chance no way huh-UH

And that's just a much nicer way to say what I'm thinking, which is peppered with many of the words one should not say in polite company.

Is this polite company? :)

[miss_american_pie]

19. "Polite company"

is an insult to the lounge, methinks. :hi:

[zingaro]

23. but you

you are polite company.

:rofl: riiiiiiiiiiight. Just like me. :rofl:

[guitar man]

17. no, I don't think so

I'd be too busy blowing the life insurance on strippers :evilgrin:

[GreenPartyVoter]

20. I doubt anyone else would want me.

[SarahB]

21. Loving people are generally open to love again.

Even when their hearts are broken.

I hope I never have to find out though. I'd rather die first.

[pokerfan]

22. Standard trap question for husbands

One of those damned if you say yes or no types. And if you hesitate, you are equally screwn. The only proper answer and it must be delivered without thought or hesitation is that you would be so distraught that you would immediately commit suicide in the most grotesque manner available.

[hippywife]

24. Nope.

I love my husband and he's definitely one of a kind. I can't imagine anyone else living up to his memory. Plus, I like quiet, simple, solitude more and more as I age. I really don't like dealing with people IRL anymore. I'd be the cranky old lady on the road.

[ashling]

25. No

[seemunkee]

26. I doubt it

After 35 years I can't see having the same feelings for anyone else.

Life sometimes has a way of getting in your plans.

[av8rdave]

27. Nope.

[grannylib]

28. I guess one should never say "never," but I certainly wouldn't be

inclined to.
Marriage is hard. It's hard work. I understand that. It's hard.

(It's my best Chimpy imitation) :-)

[Missy Vixen]

30. No. n/t

[femmocrat]

31. No. Never. n/t

[MorningGlow]

32. I doubt it

I mean, I wouldn't actively go looking for another guy--that concept doesn't interest me at all. (Dating again? Eeewwwww.) I'm notoriously independent and self-sufficient, so I don't "neeeeeed" someone in my life.

But if someone came along and we hit it off...who knows? :shrug:

[Saphire]

33. I don't know...but i don't think so. I would want my spouse to re-marry

though. I'd hate to see him live out the rest of his life alone. Even if I'm gone, I'd want him to still have love and laughter in his life.

[triguy46]

34. Nope. 31 excellent years, would not want to compete with that....

might fool around, and certainly like the company, but this successful marriage has been enough.

[x-g.o.p.er]

35. Nope, I doubt it.

It would be tough to replace the best thing that ever happened to me.

[NNadir]

36. I'd rather not consider the point.

I am hoping to die first.

I most likely will do so too.

I hope she will remarry when I am gone. I would hate to see all that love wasted.

[Haole Girl]

37. No

[astonamous]

39. NO!!!!!!! n/t

[Thurston Howell III]

40. Never.

I would count the days until I would join her again.

[fortyfeetunder]

41. Highly unlikely.

I enjoyed being single and will enjoy it if I were single again.

[Blue_In_AK]

42. Not this time.

My husband (#4) is so good to me, no one could ever compare. I had pretty bad luck with men most of my life, so I don't want to go down that road again if anything happens to HullBoss. I don't need the aggravation.

[xchrom]

43. i haven't -- now i prefer affairs

to that kind of commitment.