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If I were your ex, I'd want to have a pic of my dog when I was a kid if I didn't have it.
Over the last few months I've been sorting out and giving away and putting aside all sorts of things - I really have to get my life organized to move before I actually move. And I came across all these pix from my ex, books that were his, and also books that were mine (new for my bookstore site) that I knew he'd like, and a book that I knew his now wife would like... (please don't take this to mean that I've been all sweetness and light to this woman who started seeing my then-husband when we were separated and in counseling... but that's not her problem, it's mine.)
- the situation is different because we talk or see each other weekly, but there's still that sort of awkwardness... you aren't married anymore, you have all this history... what do you do with it?
so I just gave stuff to him and told him that, if he didn't want it, he could pass it along or return it and I'd give things to goodwill or whatever. (I even found some of his old soccer jerseys and the flag for his favorite team in his euro-birthplace.)
You don't have to go into any "history." Just do it as a kindness.
If you're worried that he'll take it the wrong way if you contact him... three guys that were my b.f.s in the past found and contacted me years later. With one I was happy to hear from him. With the others, it was no big deal to me, even tho one was trying to tell me how he was so successful and I should really regret that I was not still his g.f. (which, right there, tells you why he was a former and why I never wanted to hear from him again.)
--btw, that's the only negative I ever came up with for keeping your maiden name...
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