Ugh, I hate asking certain people for favors...

[bicentennial_baby]

I have to ask my Ex for a big one...I *think* he'll say yes, but I still hate doing it. It's partially for me, mostly for my Mom. Sigh...

I'll be calling him at 6 tomorrow night. He knows that I'll be calling for a favor, so that's something. Here's to hoping it goes well. *fingers crossed*

:)

[Pierre.Suave]

1. Why do you have to ask your ex for a favor involving your mom?

whatever it is, I hope it works out for you.

:hug:

[bicentennial_baby]

2. Because....

Next Friday, she has an appt with her ALS team at 11:45 am. My Ex lives a couple miles from Mom. He's practically a member of the family, and has been for...17 years. The Dr is 85 miles from them. Approximately 54 from me. I have class Friday morning at 8:30. I need him to drive her to the Dr and I will meet them there. The other alternative is me missing class (bad) and driving approx. 140 + 85 + 85 + 140 = 400+ miles in one day to get her, take her, drive her home and drive home. No way I can manage that, after a rough week of classes.

I'm optimistic.

PS- My brother can't do it b/c he's already missed too much work taking her to appts, and can't afford to lose his good job.

[Pierre.Suave]

5. That sucks...

If I could I would help.

I hope he helps you out.

[bicentennial_baby]

6. Awwww, thanks babe

I'm pretty sure he'll do it. He's not working right now, and he can use my Mom's car and she'll pay for gas. Plus, he and I can hang out at the hospital, and I could use the support. These appointments are never emotionally easy for me.

:hug:

[Shakespeare]

3. Whatever it is, I've got my fingers crossed for you, too.

I know that feeling, and it can be VERY icky. But it's for your mom, so ignore the ickiness. ;-)

:hug: :hug:

:loveya:

[bicentennial_baby]

4. See above, explained.

Not so icky, he's my platonic soulmate, and always will be. We love each other muchly, even if we don't always get along. We've been best friends for 17 years.

Thanks love :hug:

:loveya:

[Shakespeare]

9. Oh, I bet he's more than happy to help, then.

That's WAY too far for you to drive in one day, especially with the addition of the stress factor.

[bicentennial_baby]

10. I agree...I did it the day before my honeymoon, the day she was diagnosed.

Can't do it again. No way, no how. x(

I'm counting on his good soul for this one. He loves Mom.

:hug:

[bigwillq]

7. Good Luck.

Hope everything works out ok.

:hi:

[bicentennial_baby]

8. Thanks!

:hi:

[flvegan]

11. Interconnectedness

He'll do it. Funny how you're eternally linked with some folks.

My ex-wife could call me tomorrow for a favor, and I'd do it were it in my power. Haven't spoken to her in years. Still...that interconnectedness is still there.

If he knows you're calling for a favor, yet hasn't said "hey, don't call me" lends to the idea that he'll do it.

[bicentennial_baby]

12. True dat...

He and I are bonded like nothing else. No matter how pissy we get from time to time. We've gone a couple years without speaking (many years ago), and we always pick up right where we left off. Sigh...it's so weird.

You get it. :hug:

[Ellen Forradalom]

13. Tell me about that eternal link

I've had a pretty powerful experience with it myself in recent years.

So fear not. It'll go fine.

[bicentennial_baby]

14. It's indescribable, non?

as an Econ major, I'd say it's irrational, but...It's there and in many ways, unbreakable. And I'm ok with that. I actually appreciate and value him more now...I can't explain it. But that's ok. :)

Pourquoi? Pourquoi pas? :D

[Ellen Forradalom]

15. Oh, it is absolutely unbreakable

Try as we might. And thank God. Imagine life without it. No one would give a shit.

[bicentennial_baby]

17. Yes! And frankly, I value him and our bond more as time proceeds...

It really is priceless. Just because you can't be together or live together...that never breaks the bond, once it is solidified. I cherish it. I just need to nurture it more. He's hard to pin down, in more ways than one. I'm persistent though. :P

:pals:

[JVS]

16. Isn't this the hellraiser who went to jail and threatens your family?

[bicentennial_baby]

18. Nope! The one after that...

No worries, I'd NEVER go back to that.

This is the wonderful bff that I couldn't be with any longer. He's still wonderful, and now were bffs again. :)

[applegrove]

19. Good luck.

[fight4my3sons]

20. good luck

I have and ex like that. We haven't seen each other in years, but we email from time to time to check in with each other and if he ever needed anything I would be there in an instant. I know he would do the same. Amazing bond isn't it? Hope your mom's appointment goes well. :hug: