Mrs. V. is probably going home for a month to help with her dad (Alzheimer's)

[bertha katzenengel]

Fucking god damned piece of shit disease.

He's now so delusional, he thinks that his faithful wife of almost sixty years is cheating on him. Nothing could hurt Mom more, not even if he didn't recognize her - which may very well be coming. It seems that he's even ripped up their marriage license.

Mrs. V. is talking to her boss today about working from Tennessee. She'll have to buy one of those card thingies for her work PC and subscribe to a service (I don't know what all of that's called).

She's beside herself, my beloved: she is at a total loss for what to do. Mom so far refuses to think about even home health, let alone finding a new place for Dad. It's one of the reasons my baby wants to go home, I think: to handle everything.

To handle everything. My baby's been so very stressed... I know she can handle this, and that her mom seriously needs the help, the input, the direction, and honestly for someone else to take the reins (if only she'll relinquish them). But I do worry about Mrs. V. She internalizes everything and seldom talks about her feelings. I don't have a problem with that; I only wish I could help her.

Please pray for or send your best wishes to Mrs. Venation. She's the light of my life, and it hurts to see her in such a state. I love her family too, and this whole thing is just seriously fucked up.

Thanks.

[Droopy]

1. kick

I don't have anything wise to say so I'll just give you a kick. :hug:

[bertha katzenengel]

4. Droopy

I need all the :hug:s I can get. I can't tell you what a shit year this has been.

:hug:

[BarenakedLady]

2. I'm so sorry

I agree, it is a absolutely heartwrenching shit disease.

:hug:

[bertha katzenengel]

5. BNL

:hug: thank you

[Flying Dream Blues]

3. Hugs to all of you. I'm experiencing something like that with my dad, and I

know it is hard on all of you. It seems there are no perfect solutions, and it changes daily; and being separated from your partner makes it all even harder to bear, I know. Wishing all the best to all of you.
:hug:

[bertha katzenengel]

6. thank you, Looking Glass

I appreciate your thoughts. :hug:

[auntAgonist]

7. Prayers and best wishes to ALL of you ..

this insidious disease has touched my family also and the stress and worry it causes is hell on earth.

:loveya: :grouphug:

I will keep you in my thoughts !

aA
kesha

[bertha katzenengel]

8. you're faithful as the day is long, Kesha

and i appreciate you. :hug:

thank you

[Tuesday Afternoon]

9. My Grandmother had Alzheimer's.

It was so sad.

All my best wishes to you all :hug:

[bertha katzenengel]

14. Mine, too.

Unfortunately, I wasn't around to help my sisters bear the burden. I'd moved away from home before her dementia became pronounced.

:hug:

[Pale Blue Dot]

10. I just watched the movie "Away From Her".

It was excellent; a really good portrait of that disease and what it does to the victims and their families. I had no idea that people with Alzheimer's go through a stage when they actually understand what's happening to them - before, finally, that knowledge is gone too. The movie also deals with the choice of caring for a loved one at home or putting them in a special facility.

I feel for you. Give Mrs. V our best. :hug:

[bertha katzenengel]

15. thanks, Finnfan

:hug:

[livetohike]

11. Hugs and prayers to Mrs. V. and family and to you too

:hug: It's a horrible disease.....I wish strength and peace to everyone.

[bertha katzenengel]

16. strength and peace - we need nothing more than those things

thank you, thank you so much

:hug:

[Richardo]

12. My god, Bertha

A big :hug: to you and one for Mrs. V :hug:

And my prayers and best wishes for you, Mrs V and her parents.

[bertha katzenengel]

18. thank you, Richardo

:hug:

[Zuiderelle]

13. Will keep you in our thoughts and prayers.

:hug:

[bertha katzenengel]

19. for the record

you are always in ours, too, dear friends

thank you so much

:hug:

[KitchenWitch]

17. I am so sorry.

:hug:

Alzheimer's is an awful scourge.

[bertha katzenengel]

20. thanks, KW

:hug:

How's the ankle? (I can go off topic in my own thread, darn it!)

[KitchenWitch]

22. A little swollen and stiff but does not really hurt too much.

[fizzgig]

21. oh bertha, i am so sorry

i can't even imagine how difficult this is for her, her family and you. :hug: and love to all

[bertha katzenengel]

23. thank you, kagehime

i appreciate your thoughts :hug: