Why do women like men who have a bit of the *bad boy* in them?

[Bullwinkle925]

Just one of my musings.

[Pierre.Suave]

1. Cause we are more fun?

I guess...

maybe rebelling against their parents? religion?

I don't know, I am making this shit up.

[Bullwinkle925]

6. why do i think you're NOT making this shit up??

[raptor_rider]

24. My honey is with his

parents in religion. We just "think" differently. "New Thought" is what we look into and study "A Course in Miracles."

On Edit: Had to add a word.

[Pierre.Suave]

31. ???

What did you say?

[nomorenomore08]

2. I think they're trained that way by society, to a certain extent.

But I'm a guy, and a quiet, introverted non-bad-boy at that, so what do I know?

[Lydia Leftcoast]

3. AAARRRGGGHGH

Not this again.

[Bullwinkle925]

8. This issue has been . . .

(ahem) raised before? and i missed it?

[RadiationTherapy]

39. Unbelievable, right?

You: talk to female friends and get them to give you and honest opinioin of you.

Me: "Bad boys" are interesting (excluding abusers, of course) and "nice guys" are boring.

Let's see...others will say...

- You (the OP) aren't seeeing women who aren't up to your super model standards

- Those women are immature girls; find a mature woman.

- "Bad boys" are more assertive.

Anything else?

[Lydia Leftcoast]

43. Yup, you've got it covered

For further information, check out this URL:

http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/niceguys/ng.shtml

I'm bookmarking it for the next time this topic comes up. Which will probably be next week. :eyes:

[TZ]

4. I dunno, I don't

All the guys I have ever liked had crushes on have been big time sweethearts...However, its important that a guy stand up for himself..Someone who can be strong when necessary but yet gentle is a HUGE turn on in my book.

[LeftyMom]

5. Better sex.

People who are cautious and a bit boring don't magically become adventurous and exciting when their underpants hit the floor.

[Bullwinkle925]

7. I like that answer.

ding ding ding ding

[Oeditpus Rex]

40. ???

We're supposed to take 'em all the way off? :shrug:

[Bullwinkle925]

44. har har har !!

upon reflection - just HOW have you been doing it, pray tell?

or do we really wanna know?


:rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

[Oeditpus Rex]

48. I was taught to always use protection

And I don't wanna skin my knees, so...

[unpossibles]

62. some do!

:)

[abq e streeter]

67. Sorry, not true for me

I'm a quiet, cautious, gentle soul, and the bedroom is where my wild side comes to life, but you'd never know it from my shy, nice guy demeanor in my daily life.

[LaurenG]

9. It's the passion

the sex really most likely. they have that edge that some women love. Yeah it's the sex I think. :shrug:

[TZ]

12. Hmm.

I don't think you have to be a bad boy to be passionate...I can't say more, but I have good reason to say this is so....

[LaurenG]

15. True, my husband is a "good boy"

I have to guess though as I've never been attracted to the bad boys. I think all men have a little bad boy in them. Again just guessing. :hi:

[Deja Q]

10. Well, I'm a good boy. That means,

I need viagra.

[Bullwinkle925]

36. Hey Hypno . . .

YOU- a *GOOD* boy?????



:spray: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

[BeachBaby]

11. Bad boys are non-conformists.

Non-conformity is quite the turn-on, in and if itself.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

13. Because they're a little more dangerous...

And that can be soooooooo much fun...:evilgrin:

[mitchum]

14. It is not for me to question good fortune

[SPKrazy]

16. Excitement

a little danger

and

I dunno

why?

:rofl:

:hi:

[Bullwinkle925]

37. I think you (pardon the pun) nailed it . . .

:evilgrin:

[GreenPartyVoter]

17. Because we want to fix the bad boy with the broken heart of gold?

[Bullwinkle925]

38. Could be part of it . . .

but I think we would like some of the *bad* to stay with him.

[GreenPartyVoter]

41. I like a guy to look bad but be a total puppy on the inside *g* Like Han Solo. Kinda baddish but

also looks so darned lost. LOL

[Jade Fox]

18. Energy, daring, and enthusiasm are very attractive.,.,.

True "bad boys" are usually a one way ticket to heartache, and long term keep only women with no self-respect.

[Bullwinkle925]

34. Really?

You truly think that women without self-respect seek out the *good* boys?

My late hubby was one of the *good guys* and I would like to think that I have a modicum of self-respect myself.
I do have a penchant for the *bad* side, however. I think it's the thrill for me - I get tired of the mundane.

[DarkTirade]

19. I think part of it is all the things that have been mentioned...

but for the most part, I think it's just that they stand out enough to be noticed more. More people will likely be interested in you if more people notice you in the first place. :P

[RetroLounge]

20. I have absolutely no freaking idea...

:shrug:

RL

[lizziegrace]

22. ...

:spray:

[Darth_Kitten]

21. Who wants to be married to a saint?

:shrug:

Nice guy, yes, Perfect guy, no.

[raptor_rider]

23. My husband was a bad boy in his

teens. I met him on line when he was 29 and I 27. All of his bad boy years were out of him by then. Granted he is still a little boy by nature, had to have his "toys." Been together almost 5 years, and married almost 4 years. Got married within 10 months of meeting. Not "All Boy's" are bad. They may just start bad, however end up being the man of your dreams.

[NewJeffCT]

25. Not sure, but before I was divorced

I was always the one that women said, "you're a nice guy, but..." to all the time.

However, after I got divorced, I had so many dates over the next two years or so that it almost made up for the previous 12-15 years of women saying I was a nice guy, but...

But, I don't think going from a SWM to a DWM was the entire story. I think my personality changed a bit, too. I was dating so often that if one date didn't work out, I probably had several more lined up over the next few days and didn't really have time to get upset over it.

[Bullwinkle925]

33. Interesting . . .

Sooo -

do you now consider yourself a *half* bad-ass now?

Or just a nice guy who is divorced?

[NewJeffCT]

57. Not sure

but, I think I loosened up a bit, but I think also women saw that I was now a DWM instead of a SWM and realized I wasn't this pure angel of a guy.

a little bit more info here from another thread last night:

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=105&topic_id=7696675&mesg_id=7697687

[cbayer]

26. It's completely biological.

When we are young (and fertile), we want an alpha male - a male that will protect us and our progeny and make good strong babies.

I had one and it didn't work out so well, other than I got some gorgeous kids.

Now I am with a much nicer man. I don't need all that other stuff anymore.

[nomorenomore08]

27. I dunno... I tend to think that purely biological explanations are too facile.

You have to take cultural factors into account as well, or your analysis is incomplete.

[cbayer]

30. I think you underestimate evolutionary drive.

Cultural factors came into play once I no longer could get pregnant.

I am a nice, smart, reasonable person raised in a completely non-abusive, tolerant household. I married and had children with a "bad boy" whose real badness I completely denied.

In retrospect, I think it was a purely biological choice.

But that's just me.

[Whoa_Nelly]

28. Because they appeal to the bad girl in me

:evilgrin:

[ismnotwasm]

35. Word

[Ava]

29. 'cause they're hot

:evilgrin: :rofl:

[Lethe]

47. wow

this from the girl who constantly posts shit about teenage boys and how they are so stupid

[Ava]

59. wow. i guess i forgot to add the sarcasm smiliey

then again.. i thought with such an answer it would be completely obvious that i was joking.

[UTUSN]

32. 'cause we're HAIRY?!1 n/t

[Withywindle]

42. They get better drugs and have better taste in music. n/t

[Phillycat]

65. Ha!

You just described my entire adolescence and 20's.

[Fox Mulder]

45. Because some must love being treated like crap.

A lot (not all) bad boys treat women like shit. Those women must like it if they keep going out with that sort.

:shrug:

[nomorenomore08]

52. And likewise, there are men who like women who treat them like crap.

Neither sadism nor masochism is unique to either gender, in spite of the well-worn "male sadist/female masochist" stereotype.

[Schema Thing]

46. why did half of America get wet for GW Bush?

stupidity is rampant in both genders.

[BreweryYardRat]

49. What's the saying?

Girls prefer assholes, women prefer men.

Neither group seems too interested in crazy guys like me, though. ;)

[Bullwinkle925]

60. i don't know about that . . .

how crazy ARE you??

[pokerfan]

50. Confidence is an attractive quality

The bad boy/girl has that in spades.

[The Inquisitive]

51. Woman looking for assertive and confident men.

Assholes tend to be extremely assertive, and usually way more confident than their achievements and personalities warrant.

[MrSlayer]

53. Because danger is exciting.

If you're a little dangerous, it's a turn on. No one gets hot over vanilla, Dudley Do-Right types.

[Orsino]

54. Evolution?

Power and status in men are attractive to most women. This may tend to drive women toward the CEO, but we are still tribal creatures under the skin. The "bad boy" also has a chance to knock off the chief and take over the tribe (or at least to loot the chief's body), so individual prowess could be as attractive as true leadership skills--the former is also easier for the adolescent mind to grasp, so I can understand why a young woman might tend to prefer the bad boy.

I dunno. These things seem obvious to me, but the human mind is complex, and there may be all sorts of reasons for the phenomenon.

[datasuspect]

55. it's the whole package: the smell of the blood of the vanquished;

the thousand yard stare.

women love a man who could potentially feed them in a post-apocalyptic america.

it's been that way since european savages dragged their ragged knuckles across the plains searching for roman centurions.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

56. This is ONE woman who does not care a bit for that bit of bad boy

I want a MAN...a hippie, preferably.

[Haole Girl]

58. I think men and women alike are attracted to strong people

Who wants to be around a whining Drama Queen-- whether it be a woman or man?

:shrug:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

66. very good point!

[unpossibles]

61. same reason many humans like a bit of "bad" in other humans

we're exciting!

I'm a rebel, Dottie!

[northzax]

63. dude, they're chicks

ain't no figuring it out. Think about it for a minute. think about what men have done instead of trying to figure this stuff out: built the pyramids and the other six wonders of the world. explored an entire planet on ridiculously small sailing ships. invented Jazz. came up with geometry, physics, optics and organic chemistry. painted the sistine chapel. started wars. ended wars. wrote symphonies and operas. invented the airplane. put men on the moon. cloned a sheep. climbed Mt. Everest. All of that, and we have no clue about women. tells you something, huh?

and of course, to add to the humiliation, women are better at all of that stuff than we are. go figure.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

64. because the nice boys feel entitled to us, as do the bad boys. may as well go with what is atleast

hot and exciting.