ok need some input

[lost-in-nj]

I am going with my daughter tomorrow to pick out her wedding gown
I want to tell her

just live together because 25-30 years down the road he will have to
"find himself" and see if there is anything "better" out there...
and you won't have to deal with a divorce.. and the fucking shit that goes with it

I have no joy in this wedding....
other than Jess smiles.....
god damn (for now)


I hate being so fucking cynical
I am seeing to many long term marriages disentegrate......
what should I do....


she knows whats going on
she works with her Dad

fuck


thanks


lost

[bicentennial_baby]

1. Um, no.

No, no, no, no.

[lost-in-nj]

4. deep down I know

I am going to be the BEST mother of the bride that lived

so far I don't do ANYTHING unless she asks....


I am so afraid for her

I do not want her to feel like I do

she's my kid

they hurt
I die


lost

[AlCzervik]

2. Please don't, even if you have to restrain yourself.

i know this is really difficult for you but please remember they aren't a redo of you and her Dad.

[lost-in-nj]

7. Thanks hon

I know

I am being good..

and productive and positive
keeping my feelings to myself

:hug:

lost

[Parche]

3. hey gorn

i think marriage is over rated, i would rather play the field then be
tied down for ever..................

:woohoo:
:woohoo:

:hi:



found gorn

[lost-in-nj]

8. you

agree


:hug:



lost


lots of fields in the east!!!!


just saying


:)

[alphafemale]

5. No. You don't want to do that.

Just because you had a BAD experience doesn't mean she will.

[lost-in-nj]

10. I'm not

the only problem is
his parents are going through a tough time...

I graduated HS with his mom....

his Dad is in construction and fell off a roof and almost died...

he is acting weird...


I have been and always will
keep my opinion to myself


:hug:



lost

THANKS

[madinmaryland]

6. I was going to post Gisele's picture, but being through

divorce myself, know it's not appropriate. My first marriage, though not nearly as long as yours disintegrated within six months after my son was born (the one LynneSin wants to meet).

I'm sorry you are going through this.

:cry:

:hug:

[lost-in-nj]

11. .....

:hug:

thanks friend



lost

[RadiationTherapy]

9. If the sour, rancidness of age and experience were slimed on all youth

there would be nothing.

Your marriage and perspective are meaningless in the face of love; real or perceived. Don't be horrible.

[lost-in-nj]

12. how old are you??

and how long have you been married???

I am not SLIMING my daughter

her father is fucking a howorker.....
flaunting it
right there
in front of her


how am I sliming????


lost

oh yeah

MARRIED 30 years

[RadiationTherapy]

13. 33. 7 years.

Are you going to disregard me now?

I just meant that our disappointments shouldn't prevent our children from experiencing. It is "sliming" because you are projecting your disappointment as her potential disappointment. Why would there be any connection or semblence in her marriage to yours?

[Inchworm]

14. Ooops

My 7 month pregnant daughter told the man she loves that she didn't believe in marriage.

Umm, she probably got that from me. I told her all her life to wait til she was set in a career and old enough to get married. No matter what, kids or no kids. Marriage is a legal deal or religious. Screw that crap.

She seems to be ok with it though. She is not religious and isn't a fan of the law.

We'll see how that lil bit of parenting plays out.

No matter what Lost. Your daughter loves you.

Hmm, speaking of which.. so do I.

:hug::loveya::hug: