Brutal honesty in a relationship... A must or not?

[MrScorpio]

A bit of wisdom from a quirky relationship comedy movie, Let Sleeping Dogs Lie.

Must one admit to every pre-relationship sexual transgression in order to make a it work?

Or is it better to leave somethings unsaid?


What do you say, oh wise ones?

[MonkeyFunk]

1. The only sexual transgressions I can think of

involve rape or infidelity.

[MrScorpio]

3. This movie has others

I'm not naming them

[philosophie_en_rose]

2. Not.

Gentle honesty is better.

[Dora]

4. Nothing in a relationship should ever be brutal, especially honesty. nt

[skygazer]

5. I think that's a ridiculous concept

We've all got histories and they're based on a lot of factors. Dumping out a lot of revelations about one's past just puts questions and doubts out there thay maybe aren't applicable at all to what's going on now.

I think there are things that it's good to get out in the open but I also think there are things in my past - or his - that are none of his - or my - business. What I'm concerned with are the present and future.

[ismnotwasm]

6. Leave it unsaid

Unless it's going to come back to haunt you. I can guarantee you my husband would not want to hear about ALL of my pre-relationship transgressions, even if he says he does. Just the ones that count.

And we're 16 years together and going strong.

[LeftyMom]

7. Current partners only need to know about prior sexual exploits that pose a risk to them

So if you contracted a disease, you've got a kid to pay for and or raise, or if your last partner was the leader of a biker gang who is likely to kill anybody who has sex with you, they should know that. Other than that, I can't imagine why anybody would want to know the details, and they're certainly not entitled to them.

[HEyHEY]

8. No one needs to know.

The only reason people THINK it's important is cause it boils down to jealousy.