5:30 am and I'm already furious with my ex

[Connonym]

I need one of these

grrr, He gets up at 5 to get ready for work, I'm just finishing up my work day at that time so sometimes I'll call him early when we need to discuss something about the kids. Jesu christo did he rip me a new one this morning for calling so early. He was awake, I didn't wake him up but he nearly reached through the phone to rip me a new A hole. WTF? I really try to have a civil and cooperative relationship for the sake of the kids but sometimes he makes it really difficult. I wanted to know how my daughter's first tutoring session for dyslexia went yesterday and all he could do was scream that if I really cared I would have called last night (never mind that I work 3rd shift and didn't get to sleep until 2 and wake up until 10 pm last night). Mostly, I hate that it still bothers me when he goes off on tirades like this and I hate that I never know whether he's going to be civil or whether he's going to have an attitude.

[Raven]

1. I was going to tell you to divorce him and then I saw that you did!

Smart move!

[ThomCat]

2. It sounds like he enjoys taking out his bad attitude on you.

:grr:

I'm sorry you have to deal with that shit. He has no right to try to dictate when you should sleep and when you should be awake to make phone calls. It sounds like you were being perfectly reasonable. You didn't wake him up.

I hope your daughter is okay.

:hug:

[Tyler Durden]

3. My ex will not speak to me...relays messages through the 17 year old.

She stoked up "wild child" for 16 years until she was completely unmanageable and demanded to go live with her...Now neither of them are happy and it's all MY fault?

AND I still get calls from collection agencies trying to chase down the "winner" she married after we divorced who is now her 4th ex.

It just keeps getting better.

[Blue_In_AK]

4. This is exactly why I have NO contact with my ex.

Thankfully by the time we divorced our daughter was 16 and able to make her own arrangements if she wanted to see him. I'd have a really hard time dealing with him if I had to see or talk to him regularly. I had enough bullying over the 20 years of our relationship.

[SarahB]

5. Mine's over a $1000 behind on day care and summer camp for the kids.

I've already paid in full my 50% of everything. I'm the fairest ex-wife ever (bent over backwards for the last 3 & 1/2 years), but everything is adding up to some serious need for change in terms of legalities now. It sucks ass.

[Connonym]

6. :nodding:

My income has taken a big drop in the last couple years. I'm still working full time but my wages are less than half of what they were 4 years ago. When I broached the subject of child support with my ex (because I don't receive any) his retort was that I should sell my car and get a second job (or worse, "ask the guy you're fucking to give you money") nevermind the fact that WI state law has provisions for child support when there is a greater than 20% discrepancy in income between the parents regardless of 50/50 custody. He acts like child support means he's supporting me when really what it would be doing would be to give me the financial means to be able to stop humiliating myself and come begging to him when I can't afford to pay for half of the tutor or half of the cost of their medical bills. Meanwhile, I'm looking into going back to school and training for a new career but in the meantime how can be a decent mom if I'm working 16 hours a day AND potentially going to school? Almost enough to make me hate all men.

[SarahB]

7. Because I was going back to school with little help

when we were divorcing was why I had to make so many compromises. My income is pretty good now, not as much as his but not less by 20% either. I've had years of this uncertainty and I'm tired of it. The fact also is that I can afford an attorney. He's wasted too much to be able to.