Don't know how to handle this.

[littlebit]

So we all know that tomorrow is mothers day. My parents decided to come to NC for the weekend. So I get to spend mothers day with my mom for the first time in ten years. Last july my girlfriends mother passed away. This will be the first mothers day without her mother. I am really excited to see my mom. But at the same time I don't want to seem like I am not sensitive to what my girlfriend is going through. She isn't doing to good today and I know tomorrow will be worse. I don't want to leave her home alone tomorrow. I just don't know how to handle it.

[Tangerine LaBamba]

1. You bring your girlfriend with you

Tell you parents, before they meet her, about her situation - having lost her mother, first Mother's Day without her - and make sure you are with her all day.

[AteAlien]

3. Good advice

Also, understand if she may need some times alone due to emotions.

I hope all goes well

[Haole Girl]

7. Sounds like a great idea to me. nt

[JanMichael]

9. yep

it's hard to lose people. But, you'll have to balance that with the fun of seeing your own mother.

It probably won't be as hard as you think--

[struggle4progress]

16. Bingo! Tell your Mom you wanted to share her with your friend

[ThomCat]

17. That is very good advice.

And if your mom is has really good maternal instincts she'll kick into surogate maternal mode and bond with your girlfriend. Things can have a way of working out.

[Gormy Cuss]

2. Ask her.

Plan her into everything but make sure she knows that you understand that she may not feel up to it.

[Lil Missy]

4. Can you set aside some special time just for your gf tomorrow?

I don't think you should feel guilty about spending time with your mother. At the same time, it's awfully sweet and supportive of you to empathize with what your mate is going through.

Perhaps you could spend some extra TLC or snuggle time with the gf before and after the visit with your mother. Just acknowledging her grief would probably go a long way.

How kind of you to be so thoughtful.

[littlebit]

5. Thanks everyone

I just want to make sure she is ok tomorrow. We went out earlier so I could get a card for my mom and she cried the whole time. I just want her to be ok.

[Skittles]

6. I'm flying to North Carolina on Monday

just warning you littlebit :hi:

[JanMichael]

8. Where are you going when you are in NC?

I hope the weather is nice, it's a pretty state.

[Skittles]

11. staying in Winston-Salem, business trip

never been to NC :D

[littlebit]

10. LOL

I am leaving for Arkansas monday morning. What part of the state are you coming to?

[Skittles]

12. Winston-Salem

one of my coworkers asked me if that's where they burned witches - I kid you not. Gotta love Texas. :o

[littlebit]

14. I live about 20 miles from there.

Just tell them we haven't burned any since 2002. We are in the middle of a really bad drought. Don't want to accidentally start a forrest fire. :rofl:

[Skittles]

18. I was much less diplomatic

I shouted THAT WAS MASSACHUSETTS YOU DUMB FUCK :D

[littlebit]

19. I got a good one for you.

Girlfriend had her hillbilly sister in law convinced that if she wanted a lower power bill all she had to do was put a potato on the meter.

[Skittles]

20. OH DEAR

that's very bad INDEED :o

[struggle4progress]

15. Texas has so many historic cities (like Athens, Paris, and Rome), you can't blame Texans

for thinking the rest of the world is way behind them culturally

IIRC, it's even possible to go to Hell without leaving the state

[ElboRuum]

13. So don't leave her home alone...

Take her WITH YOU.

:wtf: