how desperately do you need to fit in?

[datasuspect]

would you consider yourself relatively confident or insecure?

[Bucky]

1. I'm too neurotically reclusive to be able to form peer relationships.

Guess that makes me a rebel nonconformist, right?

[La Lioness Priyanka]

2. i like to wear red when everyone else is wearing white

:rofl:

[boilerbabe]

11. If I wore nothing, everyone else would turn white! n/t

[lost-in-nj]

3. ....

confidently


insecure........


(really)



:hi:



lost

[Iggo]

4. I'm desperate to NOT fit in.

Total loner.

[Bake]

5. Hell, I'm a BANJO PLAYER.

Go figure.

Bake

[boilerbabe]

16. That's coolest! Aside from the accordion...n/t

[Bake]

50. Accordion players get all the chicks!

That's what I heard, anyway. From Myron Floren, no less.

:rofl:

Bake

[Blue Diadem]

6. Sometimes I'd like to fit in..

but mostly I don't fit in. :shrug:

Guess I'm both confident and a little insecure.

[Haole Girl]

7. I'm as insecure as they come...

but I'm just smart enough to know I'll never fit in - anywhere - no matter how much I try. :-(

[Cabcere]

24. You and me both, KC2.

:hug: Maybe we should start a club? :shrug: :hi:

[Haole Girl]

38. Maybe we should!

:pals: :hug:

[Westegg]

8. Sadly, I spent a long time wanting to be liked by...

...people for whom I had no respect. That's insecurity. At the same time, I had a massive ego, and felt superior to many, yet deep down I despised myself. That's a contradiction. And the people I didn't respect? The fact that I needed to be liked by them led to my respecting them, on some level, simply BECAUSE I wanted to be accepted by them. A tautology. Absurd, even.

Deep down, I did not have faith in myself for far too long. Those were dark days (years, decades). I am emerging from those shadows into the light of who I really truly am. It hasn't been an easy journey, but I'd recommend it!

[boilerbabe]

12. That makes a lot of sense to me! n/t

[pink-o]

9. I'm too freakin' old to care

...if I conform to any standard it's usually an accident.

But the other cool thing about being old is that you don't have a great need to stand out or dress dramatically to PROVE you're a big non-conformist and rebel. Social recognition and attention is REEEEEALLY unimportant after reeling in a certain amount of years. I only know I'm eccentric when I start nattering on and people (usually gentiles) are looking at me like I'm from another planet. You kinda get the polite nods, while they smile uncomfortable and glance furtively at the nearest door.


B-) B-) B-)

[boilerbabe]

14. You really shouldn't spend too much time

talking to genitals, hun! haaaaa! They only have so much to contribute anyways :blush: I hear ya on the already been there thing. Once you rack up so much life experience, there's no place to put it all!

[pink-o]

18. That's the joke about the old Jewish man who found out he had herpes..

...but after he looked it up in the medical dictionary, he decided he didn't care...

Since it was a condition that only affected the GENTILES.

[texanwitch]

10. I never wanted to fit in.

I was always my own person.

[Parche]

13. Size Matters

:woohoo: :woohoo: :woohoo:

:rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

:hi:

[boilerbabe]

15. Either you have to have a good rumor mill

or get around to make that one count, though!

[Fox Mulder]

17. I don't ever want to fit in.

[johnnie]

19. I fit in everywhere and nowhere

I have always been fine being who I am and if people don't like it I don't lose sleep over it. I don't try to be anything, I just am. It's weird to me to watch people try to create themselves over and over.

[skygazer]

20. I don't need to fit in

Like Popeye, I yam what I yam, take it or leave it. I do tend to get along with most people I meet, though, I guess because I treat everyone with the same respect whether they're a Senator or a homeless person.

I tend to be pretty confident.

[S n o w b a l l]

21. Depends....

Here? Not one iota. In my job, yes. I'm smart that way. In social situations, I don't care because I usually do. But if I didn't, not an issue at all.

[Rising Phoenix]

22. I don't want to fit in anywhere

Im to special for that

[KamaAina]

23. In every place I've ever been,

well there's some people who don't fit in...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QyRHXh96Ld8

(Guaranteed 100% Rick Roll-free. Enjoy the Reducers, the pride and joy of New London, CT, instead!)

edit: header :dunce:

[bigwillq]

25. I am confident

Haven't been insecure in a very long time and I plan on never going back there. :)

[Madrone]

30. Amen, friend.

I hear you, resoundingly.

[bigwillq]

26. duper

sorry

[Madrone]

27. SO desperately -

That I'm about to start a thread about starting a clique so all my friends can post in it talking about how there is NO clique and we can all sit around congratulating ourselves on how much more awesome we are and how anyone that can't see it our way is either 1) Desperately insecure and paranoid and/or 2) jealous. Then my friends can all start another similar thread of their OWN - and I can post in theirs TOO. It will be SOOO awesome, and we awesome people can spend hours patting one another on the back and congratulating one another on our sheer awesomeness! Well - at least until some unwitting LOSER accidentally steps on the toes of one of our AWESOME people in some other thread ... then I have to divert my attention from back-patting long enough to join the rest of the awesome people in yelling at the person that DARED speak against the awesome one. And tell them they'd better WATCH THEIR BACK. And stuff!

Is that desperately needing to fit in enough for you? :rofl:



As for the second part of your question - I'm more than relatively confident, without being overly so. ;)

[ScreamingMeemie]

28. Oops...wrong spot

[Madrone]

33. I know that you posted in the wrong spot -

But I want to :hug: you here anyway.

You are excellent people, Mrs.G. I, along with a multitude of others, would love to be able to undo any and all horrible things you have had to endure.

[ScreamingMeemie]

34. I will hug you back then...

:hug:

I am not nearly as delightful as I appear in computer form. Ask PassingFair, who has had to put up with more than her fair share of the rants and the tears and the horribleness of it all.

Thank you so much for caring about us. That does count.

[Madrone]

39. You most definitely ARE delightful.

That is an innate part of who you are. Stress and trauma have an impact - physically, mentally, and emotionally. That doesn't change who you ARE. People that know and love you understand that and wouldn't expect you to be 100% on point after having your foundations shaken. I understand the propensity to be hard on yourself for not being perfect enough, or strong enough, or OKAY enough - but you need to understand that the rest of us don't hold you to that same unrealistic and unreachable standard. :hug:

[Inchworm]

29. Confident in my aloneness

I may have missed the options, but thats me in a nutshell.

:hi:

[Tuesday Afternoon]

31. I would like to fit in to that old pair of blue jeans --

~sigh~

[ScreamingMeemie]

32. Fit into what?

And, to be serious, I used to delight in embarassing my daughter...now I don't think I care enough to need to be liked/loved/all of the above...

[Wcross]

35. Fit in? Hah!

[Breeze54]

36. Not desperate at all.

I'm insecure about a lot of things but fitting in isn't one of them.

I'm way past that stage. I've reached the point that I don't give a rats ass.

[Juche]

37. Depends

I have a very deep insecurity for various reasons, but over the years I've learned to function socially. I don't really fit in though because my goals and experiences are out of step.

I can be extremely confident if the situation calls for it though. Normally I avoid eye contact with people, but if the situation requires it I can be assertive and confident.

I don't think there is just one way to answer this question. I am both.

[leftyclimber]

40. Not at all.

Why?

[Lady-Damai]

41. Too bloody confident. n/t

[ThomCat]

42. I've never deliberately managed to fit in anywhere before.

I don't know why I'd ever start trying now. :shrug:

[Generic Brad]

43. Supremely confident

I don't care one iota what other people think of me. When I am putting forth my best effort, I don't need no stinking approval.

[kineneb]

44. I have neon pink and orange stripes in my hair

fit in?

[Left Is Write]

45. Why? What have you heard?

[The Inquisitive]

46. I have a bunch of defense mechanisms that have allowed me to convince myself I don't want to fit in

pretty much like everyone else I suppose.

[Pushed To The Left]

47. My insecurity has built my confidence.

If people accept me, great. If they don't, fuck'em!

[murielm99]

48. I've tried it a few times.

The key is to know when it is important. In a work situation, it is important. Otherwise, fit in if you feel like it.

[lligrd]

49. I Want To Know Why

everyone doesn't fit in with me. What the hell is wrong with all of them?

[LeftyFingerPop]

51. I don't want to "fit in"...I want to be myself in as many situations

as possible.

Sometimes it is difficult, for example, at work. In the workplace, you usually have to conform to some degree.

However, saying that I "want to be myself" is really no big deal, because "myself" is usually at least acceptable to others in most circumstances.