What do you think those we've lost would tell us... if they were alive this Memorial Day?

[Haole Girl]

If my mother could see me today... shades drawn... hiding out... not even wanting to go outside...

I do believe she would say:

"Get off your lazy butt and go do something!"

:-)


Hope you all have a good Memorial Day. I know it will be sad, for many, remembering those lost. Please do try to remember the best way we can honor those who have left us is to go on... to persevere.. to truly live life.

Many hugs,

"KC2"

:grouphug:

p.s., I'm turning off the computer now & getting out of this house!

[ScreamingMeemie]

1. "I didn't realize..."

That is what he would say.

Even though I told him a million and a half times that I couldn't live without him.

[KitchenWitch]

2. ...

:hug:

[Blue Diadem]

4. .

:hug:

[Haole Girl]

9. People probably never do, MrsG

:hug:

[Blue Diadem]

3. My Dad died on Memorial Day 21 yrs ago.

I've always felt guilty because we had taken our 3 kids and one of their friends camping that weekend and I was so busy I forgot to go up to the camp ground office to call and check on him. (He'd not been feeling good for a month or so and was under Dr's care) By the time we got home, got the call from my brother that Dad was in the hospital and we made it to the hospital, Dad was gone.

I know he'd be chewing me out for a lot of things..especially for blaming myself.

[ScreamingMeemie]

5. ...

Yeah, that too.

But we can't really help ourselves, can we? :hug: to you on this weekend and always.

[Blue Diadem]

8. .

:hug: Thank you Mrs. G., you're such a kind person. :hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

24. I fear I am becoming bitter and cynical.

I think I need to just move somewhere and start fresh. This place is too much him. :hug: And, it takes one to know one. :hug:

[Haole Girl]

25. Moving is not a bad idea...

people might tell you otherwise, but it helped me A LOT after my mother's death. She died in late April & I moved in October. Those months in between were a blur...but I remember clearly - beginning to live again - after I moved from Northern to Southern California. I think being by the ocean helped me. Bottom line: Do what works for you! :hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

27. I've been thinking long and hard on it.

I think I am close to a decision, but he was the decision maker so even this is hard. :hug: Thanks!

[Haole Girl]

10. I have no doubt he wouldn't want you blaming yourself.

:hug:

[lizziegrace]

6. Thanks for this thread KC2

My gram would tell me again that "all you can do is the best you can do..." Cliche? Maybe, but none of us are perfect.

She was married to an abusive alcoholic, supported my mom and her sister from WWII on selling copper cookware, Sarah Coventry jewelry and Dutchmaid clothes. She ended up at Sears dispatching trucks for service calls. Her oldest daughter (my aunt) died in 1962.

She moaned and complained about people and their actions, but she never, ever complained about her lot in life. And when she died, everything about her life fit in a 1 cubic foot fire safe.

I never really appreciated her strength until I was an adult.

I miss her every day.

[Haole Girl]

11. You're welcome

Thank you for the story... my grandmother was very strong, too, like that. :hug:

[joneschick]

7. who knows?

communication was never one of our strong suits. So when I go out to my Dad's grave I'm taking some lilacs and maybe some rhubarb. My brother's ashes share the grave. I never did know what he wanted. :hi:

[Haole Girl]

12. My mother didn't want a grave...

instead, she wanted her ashes sprinkled in the Sierra mountains... and that's what we did.

Lilacs are so beautiful, btw. :hug:

[grannylib]

13. I hope my daughter would say she's proud of how we're helping

to raise her kids; I know she'd be proud of them...they're so special.
She would have been 30 three days ago...damn, I miss her so much.

[Haole Girl]

14. I'm so sorry

And, I'm sure she would say those things. :hug:

[grannylib]

19. Thank you...I try to believe that every day, just as I try to believe

that I will see her again, and we'll never have to be parted anymore in another world. If some want to accuse me of drugging myself with faith/religion, that's just fine - it keeps me sane; I think it's all that's kept me sane these last ten years without her.
:hug:

[TK421]

15. "This is worthless! I'm not even around anymore"!

What the fuck are you doing? go eat some burnt chicken with over-spicy barbecue sauce and some potato salad and just fucking enjoy yourself!!!!12!@

[Haole Girl]

16. How u doin' tonight?

As you may be able to tell, I'm being lazy. Still sober...but very, very lazy! :hi:

[TK421]

17. Same here....I'll be going to a friends tomorrow for a cookout...

there will be plenty of beer there, so I will be tempted...so wish me luck!

[Haole Girl]

18. Good luck!

You can do it... I know you can!!

I get off easy, tomorrow, since I work all day... no temptation there!

[khashka]

20. My grandmother would say

what she always told me "Never think you are better than anyone, and never think you are less than them.""

But we'd probably just end up fighting.....

Khash.

[Haole Girl]

21. She was a wise woman

:hug:

[khashka]

23. She really was

She aslo told her daughters " A man can hit you once, but only once because then you leave."

She was wise and funny. We lived in Norway and she and I would watch the news in Norwegian (which neither of us spoke or understood) and after the newscaster would say something she'd say "Oh yeah? And if you do you'll clean it up!"

I miss her.

Khash.

[Forkboy]

22. Nothing, they'd just smack us upside the head.

[Haole Girl]

26. lol!

:hi:

[JohnnyLib2]

28. You're gonna ruin your eyes on that thing."

RIP, Mom.

[Haole Girl]

30. Sounds like something a Mom would say!

:-)

[auntAgonist]

29. My Mum would tell me

"you messed up on a lot of stuff, but you're doing ok"

I love you Mum, Rest In Peace.

:cry:

[Haole Girl]

31. Aww

:hug:

[Miss Carly]

32. you paid HOW MUCH for gas???!!!!?!?!?!?!?! Highway robbery I say

my MIL, rest in peace

Carly

[Haole Girl]

33. hehe!

:hi: