HOLY CRAP!!!!! anyone get contacted through CLASSMATES. com???

[lost-in-nj]

has anyone been contacted through classmates???


fuck

my first "love" :eyes: has emailed me......

he was the one that well.... :shrug:

but after he slept with my sister because we had a fight...... I kinda dumped him
(ya think)

not gonna answer


blech


shit



lost

[TroglodyteScholar]

1. My ex-wife's first love contacted her through Classmates while we were still married

He was abusive and essentially raped her on prom night. She said she wasn't going to respond, but she always spoke fondly of him. I suspect she probably did respond.

Nobody's ever contacted me because I've never joined up. I intend to keep it that way.

[lost-in-nj]

3. yeah

this one hit to....

the one's I would have LOVE to have known where they are right now
didn't answer... just curious

not meaning to make a "love connection"

should have known

the good ones well
are good....



even though she is your ex

I am sorry for her.....
kinda know how she felt
this is for you
:hug:



lost

[TroglodyteScholar]

5. Yea, I couldn't ever understand how she didn't hate him...

I am sorry for her.....
kinda know how she felt

I guess nobody ever claimed that rationality plays into matters of the heart...

:hug:

[zanne]

25. No, and I wouldn't want to be contacted.

I can just imagine myself trying to be all polite and "adult" with an asshole I went out with.

[LeftyMom]

2. I can't think of many high school classmates I'd want to hear from.

I bump into quite enough of them when I'm out on the end of town where I grew up, I don't need them emailing me too.

[lost-in-nj]

11. I went to one

reunion

I can see the majority of my class in the local bar


this one that emailed me went to the rival school and graduated 3 years before me
went to his prom...
not mine


lost

[khashka]

13. I can think of one

We met up later by accident. We weren't friends in HS, though I wanted to be. She was smart, pretty, a great athlete and kind to everybody -except me. When we met up again she said she was surprised at what a nice guy I am and she hadn't been my friend because she thought I was scary. I told her not scary just very unhappy.

I'd kinda like to get in contact with her. But time moves on and the past is the past.

Khash.

[zanne]

26. You can't go home again. nt

[fudge stripe cookays]

4. I had one.

She contacted me through there, and when she couldn't get me to respond she contacted me through MySpace.

When I moved to San Antonio at the beginning of my junior year, it was hard to make new friends because my school had been a junior and high school combined, and everyone had known each other since they were 12.

Anytime I made a new friend, they would get shipped to live with a different custodial parent in a different city, and I began to despair of ever having a life before graduation. This girl and I met and didn't have much in common, but hung out. I couldn't WAIT to get the fuck out of there.

I tried to diplomatically explain to her that I really wasn't interested-- that we didn't have much in common (I checked out her page, and it's everything I can't stand-- NASCAR, overly-Christian crud (I'm agnostic), reality TV...)

She got REALLY snotty and said that she'd always thought I was a slut anyway, so have a nice life. :eyes: Um...didn't do anything with anybody until I was 19, you stupid twit.

I wrote her back again and told her thanks for proving why I had no desire to stay in touch, that psychologically she was still 17, and that I had moved on. I also told her I think they were missing her in study hall. :evilgrin:

[Steven_S]

6. Several times....

both male and female. I've been out of HS for 36 years and hadn't heard from some of them since grade school. An old friend is having a get together next month, and a lot of old friends will be there.

Should be interesting.

[littlebit]

7. My girlfriend

found two good friends from high school on there.

[NNadir]

8. Years ago someone contacted me. We had a pleasant but short exchange of emails.

But it was stuff from 30 years ago. It was interesting to learn who died and who got divorced, but at the end of the day, it had nothing to do with everything that happened since then.

[flvegan]

9. I've had a few try.

See you at the reunion, but otherwise...no thanks.

[femmocrat]

10. Probably a stupid question, but....

How does Classmates.com get someone's email address?

Did you provide it?

I've never been to any of those sites.

[lost-in-nj]

12. no email given

you contact through classmates


it costs money to see who wants to get in touch....


yuch


lost

[femmocrat]

14. OK... I wouldn't pay to get in touch with people I can't even remember!

LOL

[RainDog]

32. I want to know how this works too b/c I do not want anyone to contact me

I don't do myspace or facebook. I've never gone to that classmates link...

so, if you do NOT want ppl to contact you, can they still do this? I suppose if someone really wants to find you it's possible, of course, just by regular methods, but I have a particular aversion to this idea b/c my sister and I had a stalker from when I was 12 until I was 35 (!!) - he even showed up at our father's funeral.

I also had a jerk I had gone out with earlier in life call me to brag about how great he was and how it was too bad I dumped him.

I guess I just assume that anyone who has a life really doesn't need to contact me if we aren't still in contact anyway.

[SPKrazy]

15. I've been contacted by a few people on myspace

and several years ago on classmates.com I think.

I didn't pay anything but I got emailed about the reunion.

I didn't go though.

I only went to high school there 2 years and didn't know most of the class well enough to keep up with them.

Interestingly one of the people on myspace that I have been in contact with is a woman who I never knew who I went to high school with and graduated with. She is in the same situation in that she only went there a couple of years. It's interesting 'cause she and I know people in common but I've seen her high school pic and don't know her.

another person contacted me recently on myspace and I kinda remember her, but not well enough. she claims that we "traded cars" once, I don't remember that, but she does so hey?

:rofl:

I also found a guy that I ran around with for a while in high school on myspace. I remember that he ran his motorcycle into the side of a cow one night on a country road. Amazingly he just got a little road rash, and no serious injuries occurred.

[zanne]

27. What happened to the cow? nt

[jobycom]

16. Yeah, quite a few.

Some I just exchanged a few emails with, others I've stayed close to. After Katrina, I had several old friends and girlfriends who grew up on the Coast contact me. Most of us had moved away, and we all seemed to be trying to reconnect, possibly because of the destruction of so much of our old home.

The strangest one was the woman I sort of always regretted not marrying. I contacted her--not romantically, I was over that part--and found out she had just remarried a year before, and had been looking for me while she was divorced. After telling me how much she loved her new husband, she started asking if I was ever going to move back, and asking if I would see her the next time I went back there. Nothing unusual.

That wasn't the weird part--a couple of weeks into our conversations, I was scanning AM channels and randomly stopped on Dr. Laura. I didn't know it was Dr. Laura, because what stopped me was this man's sad and scared voice. He was telling the "Doctor" that he had found some emails his wife had sent to an old boyfriend that she had recently found online, and that she was trying to convince the old boyfriend to move back near her. He even mentioned they had only been married about a year--I've changed a couple of details here, just to keep it more anonymous. Point is, the few details I heard matched what this friend and I had been saying, very closely, only with a somewhat sinister interpretation of it.

I laughed, and thought I couldn't wait to tell this friend about it. But I never got to. She stopped writing to me, just then.

No, I doubt it was connected! It was just funny.

[BeachBaby]

17. My first love contacted me on November 1, 2003

after 20 years. Being that my parents forced our break-up in 1985, he wanted to find me. Both of us were married to others at the time.

I had since gotten divorced, he had not - but somehow seemed to think that I was supposed to just answer to his beck and call. When I started dating, he kinda lost it. It all ended with me going to the police station - they fired off a warning shot phone call to him, and that was that.

[SPKrazy]

19. Dang! That's a psycho kind of thing

scary thing about the internets, ya never know who might find you.

Scares me anyway.

:hi:

[bikebloke]

18. Luckily, I was wallpaper in high school.

Very few names are familiar. Those I remember aren't there. I suspect most are cheap like me, going the freebie route. There's nary a person I'd want to contact.

Now my kibbutz years are different. And those reunion sites are free.

[grace0418]

20. I signed up a long time ago when it was still mostly free. I got contacted by a couple

of people I was pretty ambivalent about. Nobody I really wanted to see. Then a few years ago I signed up on myspace and was stupid enough to list my high school. Within days I got messages from a guy who had a stalker-y crush on me in high school (the only guy who had a crush on my in high school) and a girl who was in a youth group I joined who still lives in my home town and sounds like she pretty much peaked senior year in high school.

Why is it only the people you DON'T want to see that contact you?

[yellowdogintexas]

21. yes, got reconnected with 2 of my oldest friends that way

and a couple others with whom I was less close.
so mine were all good

[Tuesday Afternoon]

22. If I could afford it, I would join

mainly because I live worlds away from the people I went to school. I think it would be okay to touch base and catch up with some old friends that I have not heard from in a LONG time...if that means old boyfriends, then so be it. :shrug:


Sorry that you had a bad experience with it :hug:

[DarkTirade]

23. I can only think of a half-dozen people I'd WANT to hear from again.

:shrug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

24. It is how my crazy ex found me a few years back...

...and then attempted to lay claim to my child (MrG had adopted her five years before) and all that good stuff that comes wtih Classmates. I had never thought of it. Wish I had.

[LibraLiz1973]

29. It's stories like that which illustrate why the internet is not always our friend

I had a similar experience to yours- except I am the Nikki in the story.


Psychos never seem to truly go away

[LibraLiz1973]

28. Ewwww- what a dou-bag

There are some roads not worth travelling on again

[Fire Walk With Me]

30. Yes-

My first girlfriend and I got in touch after 20 years. I owed her an apology for my then manifesting alcoholism and addiction, and my inability to form a relationship with another human being.

Two things went wrong- I started getting alerts that messages sent to me were bouncing (never could find out what they were), and I still am not able to form a relationship with other human beings- I had been holding much spite about our breakup, and was mean and petty. In spite of everything else. I hope she understands that I apologize for that as well, because
it's not appropriate for us to be in touch any further. I pray for her and her families and am slowly working upon myself, and the human bullshit piling up around me, seeking to take advantage of my addictive nature.

[Zavulon]

31. My first love contacted me, too - and Classmates told me I'd have to pay for the message.

Fuck that, sorry.

Besides, her name is common enough that I can't even be 100% sure it's her.

[Mutley]

33. Fuck him.

Well, uh, not like that.







Ya know...







Unless you want to. :P

[bixente]

34. Not classmates, but

I discovered a person I knew from almost a decade ago, a friend, has a facebook account. I sent him a message just before. I was freaking out big style - I seen him every day, and then not at all, for so long.

Not sure if this is relevant to your thread.

[bixente]

35. I was insensitive

I didn't give proper thought to your plight, I offer my sincerest apologies. I'm sorry you've went through this pain.

[orleans]

36. i contacted a couple old friends of mine

we have each other's email,
we don't email much
but it's nice to know we can be in touch if we want to be.

[MilesColtrane]

37. Some people just don't get that...

...there's a reason you haven't talked to them in 20 years.