When you've had a disagreement with your closest friend, that's lasted for 5 years.....

[a kennedy]

how do you try to get back together??

[SPKrazy]

1. I dunno...

When I had a disagreement with my "closest friend" I decided he wasn't that at all and moved on.

but that's me

he wasn't really my closest friend, but I once thought so

[a kennedy]

4. but in these 5 years without her, there is no one else that I want to

be with, or at least talk to. She was the best friend I've ever had......and now, I look the other way when driving by her house. :cry:

[KitchenWitch]

2. I am not sure.

I have not spoken to my closest friend since August of last year. Some things happened and I am way too hurt to try and hold out an olive branch to her.

[a kennedy]

15. Oh KitchenWitch.....

I'm sorry about the falling out with your friend........my friend lives 4 blocks away from me....and I just look the other way when driving by her house. I'm just sick about not being able to talk with her....I'm just sick about not hearing about her family, job etc. so I'm gonna either call her or send a personal e-mail and try to get our friendship back. I miss her terribly......but d*mn it KitchenWitch I know.....I know it hurts too. :hug:

[AlCzervik]

3. i had a falling out with a very close friend and after about 4 years of not talking

i just called her one day and told her i missed her and she said she missed me and we just kind of picked up where we left off.

[a kennedy]

5. Really??? ya just called her??? my friend lives just 4 blocks

away from me, in fact that's why we moved here was because of them....her and her husband. I've tried to e-mail her, and when I read what I write, it just sounds so, so, stupid. We've had some issues, but she STILL IS the only one I want to talk to. *sigh* ya think I can just call her???

[AlCzervik]

7. i swear i just called, i really missed her, we were best friends all through high school

when my mother died, when we graduated from college, she was in my wedding---the whole deal you know and then one night we had some what now seems a ridiculous argument and we both got really angry and i'm stubborn and so is she so neither one would call each other. Fast forward 4 years and i finally decided it was really, really dumb of me not to call her, i also figured she might just tell me to fuck off but she didn't and we both cried a little and spent about 3 hours on the phone catching up.

[a kennedy]

10. Oh my gosh chimpsrsmarter.....

that is what I want to do with my friend now. I want to just call her and say how much I miss our times together. D*mn. I'm gonna do it. It's to late now.....but I'm gonna tell her how much I miss our time together......and I do. I miss her terribly. Thank you.

[AlCzervik]

12. please do and best of luck to you, i bet she's dying to hear from you.

[WannaBeGrumpy]

6. Actually I had a disagreement with my closest friend like 5 minutes ago...

I feel like she and I need to be apart to appreciate each other...just right now she doesn't realize how much she hurts me and makes me feel dumb. its sad but some things need to be delt with in unique ways.

[a kennedy]

8. Oh WannaBeGrumpy....

:hug: I'm so sorry for you, but I do know how that is....... :hug:

[WannaBeGrumpy]

20. ...

:hug: :hug:

[johnnie]

9. People are people and they do people things

I have had three friends for 30 years that I am still close to. All of us have had falling outs thru the years but after a while we just blow it off and move on. personally, I hold no personal grudges toward anyone. Whenever I have been hurt I go through my normal crabbiness and then I tell myself that people are just people and that's just the way it is. Let go of the ego trip, call your friend and say "hello. what's up?"

Life is too short to hold a grudge.

[a kennedy]

11. I'm gonna do it johnnie....

I'm gonna call her and just see how she's doing......of all the women friends I have, I really miss her friendship the most. Thanks johnnie, I am going to call/e-mail her.

[johnnie]

16. .

:thumbsup:

The worst thing that can happen is she refuses to talk to you, but at least you tried and you can get rid of the the wondering. Chances are she will be fine and in no time it will be just like it used to be.

I hope it all goes well.

[EFerrari]

13. You call them and after 15 seconds, it's fine.

:hug:

[Phillycat]

14. My cousin (who was more like a brother to me)

was an hour late for my wedding. That was last August, I haven't spoken to him since. There was other stuff before that that hurt and upset me, but that was the last straw. I don't know if I'll ever contact him, I'm still so angry. But we were very close, since we were tiny kids. It feels weird not to have him in my life.

[a kennedy]

17. janesez you have heard what others have said here .....

you better call him. That whole thing about "life's to short" and since you were kids??? Oh my janesez, you better do it......and soon. :hug: I will if you do. :-)

[Robeson]

18. I'm not sure. I had a serious falling out with my brother about 4 years ago...

...we were best friends, talked with each other everyday, then, for reasons to long to explain, our relationship fell apart.

Eight months ago, he sent me an e-mail and invited me to come and visit him and to stay at his home where he lives now - in a different state. I agreed. We broke the ice, and picked up right where we left off. It was funny, I was getting ready to call him to get our ill will behind us, and he contacted me at the same time.

I guess, sometimes it just works itself out.

[a kennedy]

19. Oh Robeson, I'm so happy it worked out for you.....

:hug: I guess it's really true that blood is thicker then water....but friendship can be like blood too. You make me very happy with that reunion.

[Tommy_Carcetti]

21. I have no idea, but....

....two of my good friends had a falling out and it makes me sad. They were both groomsmen in my wedding. One of them is getting married in September and I don't think he is even inviting my other friend.

[1gobluedem]

22. Two of my college roommates have not spoken or corresponded in fifteen years

All due to a dispute over the time of a kids' birthday party. It'll be interesting to watch their dynamic when we all get together for a reunion this fall.

[skygazer]

23. Was it a stupid disagreement?

Was it something that really meant anything at all?

I have been friends with my best girl friend for 30 years. We've had occasions when we fought over some stupid thing, didn't speak for a while, then ran into each other and it was always just like old times.

Call her up. Tell her, "Hey, I've missed you." Let it go from there. At least then you'll know if it can be resurrected. :hi:

[blue cat]

24. bite it

and call her...that easy.

[redqueen]

25. Heh... what others said.

Just be honest. Tell her you miss her... I bet she misses you, too. :)

[a kennedy]

26. Here's that reply from my long lost friend......

YES! THOUGHT OF CALLING YOU MANY TIMES BUT DIDN'T KNOW HOW YOU WOULD FEEL? WANT TO GET TOGETHER SOMETIME?

Yippie....... thanks to all for your comments and support. I think it's going to be the start of a continuation of a wonderful friendship. :bounce: