Some of my old friends have grown up to be utterly depressing.

[lightningandsnow]

I had one friend, when I was younger, who really struck me as kind of a free-spirited, artsy, non-conformist type of person.

I found her on facebook a bunch of years later, and she's turned out to be a somewhat boring conservative who's part of an anti-Obama smear group. Really.

Sigh.

[Shell Beau]

1. People change

[Chan790]

2. Sometimes your friends are not who you think they are.

or who they're comfortable being perceived as in the eyes of the world.

One of my friends is a hardcore RW (fiscal and social) Republican and outwardly presents herself as a morally-conservative. She's actually really into having kinky anonymous trysts with strangers (men and women). Ever seen Cruel Intentions? She's Sarah Michelle Gellar's character to a tee, minus the mean-spiritedness.

Another has 90 tattoos and piercings including ones in naughty places which she talks about candidly, has a lithograph of the "Piss Christ" hanging in her living room and supplements her income as a non-nude bondage model. She is also training to be a minister and was the source of my best quip in the last week when someone got on her for her pro-gay-marriage position. "WWJD?: Cater."

A third is the mousiest, quiet, sweet, innocent-seeming girl you'll ever meet. Teaches ballet. Tells corny jokes, talks about how she wants to find a guy just like her daddy, brings me food at work "just because", cries watching Bambi every time when Bambi's mother dies and is a prolific hugger. She's also a pro-domme.


These three people are best friends to the amazement of everybody who doesn't really know them. Also, I have really strange friends and I love them just the way they are. People are complicated...uncomplicated people scare me; it means they're complicated in ways they don't feel they can share.

[Arugula Latte]

3. Ugh.

I had a sort-of friend/acquaintance in college who was a free-spirted super feminist. She turned into a Christian conservative wifey type. Gag.