Dating

[Droopy]

I never realized what an emotional roller coaster ride dating could be until I started doing it after 13 years of abstinence. And when I was younger I never really dated people so much as I bumped into them at parties. From 22-35 I did not have one single date.

So, I've been doing this internet dating deal. I've talked to several women and finally had a date with one not long ago. We decided that we weren't right for each other afterward, but it was a good learning experience. One thing I've learned about internet dating is that you should try to meet with someone as soon as you know you are really interested in each other. Someone here told me that when I started doing this, but I had to learn the hard way. Talking on the phone for a couple of weeks and swapping a lot of long, eloquent e-mails before meeting someone is not the way to go.(Disclaimer: Droopy's experience is not a completely accurate indicator of everyone's experience. Your mileage may vary.)

I was pretty bummed after that first date. I was expecting a lot to come out of it, and that turned out not to be the case. But I hopped back on the dating site and now there's another prospect. I'm happy now and I'm hoping to meet her next weekend. I am not the kind of guy who wants a lot of sex partners. I'm just looking for one good woman and a mutual attraction.

[MrsBrady]

1. my husband and i

met on line.

I had met several people through personal ads on line.

I always tried to meet people as soon as possible, so I would know they were really interested in actual dating. I'm not interested in on-line bs. If they didn't want to meet or put me off, I would just move on.


Start with coffee. If you don't like her, you can get out of it quickly.

I did the opposite of you...i dated many many frogs until I found my prince.
Dating just really sux over all. It just really does.
We've been married a 18 months. I'm 36.

Also, just a hint... after dating years and years of creeps
(i'm sure men have the same problem too), I quit going after a "type" and just decided to date anyone (within reason, of course) who was nice (nice is overused and highly UNDERrated).
Ended up, surprisingly enough, for about 2 years met a string of nice guys.

The first time my husband and I met (for coffee), I thought he was friendly. But I didn't really think much would come of it. But the conversation was ok. So when he asked me out for dinner a few weeks later, I accepted. After about 4 or 5 dates, I realized what a genuine person he was. He was also pretty cute too! :)

It can happen. Just keep after it, but without much expectation. Oh yea, but he HAD to be a democrat :)

[SarahB]

2. You are so right about meeting quickly.

I met my husband online (here, in fact) and back then (3 & 1/2 years ago), we knew each other here for two years, but never met or even talked on the phone. Once we thought, "Hmmm, maybe there's an interest worth exploring", we talked a couple days later and met about 3 weeks after that. To do anything else just drags it out and makes it hurt more if you don't click in person.

[Droopy]

3. kick

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