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CatWoman Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-29-04 10:54 PM
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You know why I support gay marriage?
I'm hetero, and it's very tough finding a soul mate. It becomes tougher and tougher the older one gets.

This week, we witnessed hundreds of homosexual couples get married. Some of these folks have been togther 20 plus years.

I've NEVER had a relationship last that long.

Love doesn't know age differences, social differences, sexual differences.

If someone is lucky enough to overcome these obstacles and find love -- what can possibly be wrong with these people having their commitments recognized by the law?

I found these marriage ceremonies very touching.

And I hope Bush burns in hell for trying to politicize people's right to marry and grow old together -- in the eyes of the law.

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slinkerwink Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-29-04 10:55 PM
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1. What? You aren't with Matcom?
I'm just teasing, but I know what you mean, and damn Bush to the fires of hell for all that he's done....
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ulysses Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-29-04 10:59 PM
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2. damned well said.
:hi:
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CatWoman Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-29-04 11:01 PM
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5. Uly!!!!
:hi:

thanks.

and I'm still trying to get Robbie to return to us.
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deadliving Donating Member (65 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-29-04 11:00 PM
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3. "I've NEVER had a relationship last that long"
You might want to query why that is the case. Either you have not met the right one or you are not interested in compromise.
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CatWoman Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-29-04 11:01 PM
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6. oh, give me a fucking break
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deadliving Donating Member (65 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-29-04 11:08 PM
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12. I did
You still have the benefit of my doubt.
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ulysses Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-29-04 11:09 PM
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14. she feels blessed, I'm sure.
:freak:
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NightTrain Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-29-04 11:01 PM
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7. Or you're too quick to harshly judge people about whom you know nothing.

n/t
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Name removed Donating Member (0 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-29-04 11:07 PM
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Rabrrrrrr Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-29-04 11:09 PM
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13. Wow, that was an inappropriate lob from far right field
Kudos to your compassion and your ability to sum up something you know nothing about into a clever, hate-filled, and I'll also say utterly ignorant, either/or proposition.

Planning on staying at DU long? I'd suggest you think before you post.

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deadliving Donating Member (65 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-29-04 11:16 PM
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16. It takes two to make a relationship work
If pointing that out is a sin then come on in. I've been there and done that.
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CatWoman Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-29-04 11:18 PM
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17. and it only takes one
to make a complete ass of him/her self.
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deadliving Donating Member (65 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-29-04 11:29 PM
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19. I don't know you from jack
We are all just usernames here and can make up any theme we desire.
If you have never had a lasting relationship then I am sorry for you but from my own experience every failed relationship I was in was somewhat my fault and I own up to it. Pity is a terrible thing to have and even worse if you seek it.
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CatWoman Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-29-04 11:39 PM
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22. and you are dead living
or the living dead?

Zomby is as Zomby does.

I didn't realize I was "seeking" pity.

I was just stating a fact -- and using that fact to further my argument.
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deadliving Donating Member (65 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-29-04 11:53 PM
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24. I have had my share of defeat and lost love
I'm here to help if you wish and I don't mean any harm or flames. I'd rather help you in your future relationships than dwell on your past.
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La Lioness Priyanka Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Mar-01-04 10:59 AM
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36. i think she was making a political point
and not asking for irrelevant advice
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Rabrrrrrr Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-29-04 11:24 PM
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18. But why limit your idiotic hate to just one critique?
Edited on Sun Feb-29-04 11:25 PM by Rabrrrrrr
Why be either/or?

Why single out only a possbile lack of compromise as the ONLY possible solution? Why not insult her breath? Why not tell her it's because she's a shrill harpy who tells all the men that she wants to cut their testicles off?

Why not say something like EITHER you haven't found the right one OR you are utterly unlikable? or maybe OR you have something seriously wrong with you?

I mean, if you're gonna be an idiot and make stupid, assinine, and completely inapproriate comments, at least be logical, and not assume that the ONLY possbile reason, if it isn't that she hasn't found the right man, is that she has a problem with compromise.

I don't think I've seen stupidity and insensitivity at the level which you are showing here for quite some time.

And I'm making the bold assumption, based on this post and others I've seen of you, that you are contrarian and obnoxious solely for the fun of it, so I'm not going to play that game any more, and will not be responding to you after this.
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deadliving Donating Member (65 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-29-04 11:33 PM
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20. Please
I could come in here and jerk some honest tears from the more sensitive people here with a storyline that would read like it came from the Bard himself. If theis catperson is having some relationship issues then I'd rather error on the side of honest and self-reflection than to offer some line of bullshit excuses.

When we as humans own up to our own contribution to our failures the better off we'll be.
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deadliving Donating Member (65 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-29-04 11:57 PM
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27. I have no hate Rab
Just because you misinterpret a solution to failure as spite or hate does not make it so except in your own mind. I could do more to help this person (didn't know or care that she was a she) in one posting than you could conjure up in a million off-subject attacks.
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blondeatlast Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-29-04 11:15 PM
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15. This is the LOUNGE, fer mel's sakes...
Lighten up.

Oh, yeah, uh, welcome to DU.
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deadliving Donating Member (65 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-29-04 11:37 PM
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21. There's nothing lighter than ones own humility
If we have failed relationships then we must own up to part of the failure or else we'll spend the rest of our lives in misery and scapegoating.

I prefer to offer honesty and pain over ignorance and hugs. Life is too short to let true romance escape from negligence.
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foreigncorrespondent Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-29-04 11:55 PM
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26. And you don't know Cat woman...
...from a bar of soap, so you have no rights to say what you are saying.

In case you have forgotten, it takes one person to break a relationship. Ever think that Cat wasn't that one person to do it?
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deadliving Donating Member (65 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Mar-01-04 12:06 AM
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29. And you know me not from a tidal wave
If you think I have no right to say what I do then it's you that are wrong.

I am here to heal and not harm.
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foreigncorrespondent Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Mar-01-04 12:43 AM
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30. Boy your thinking is flawed.
I am not saying anything about you, because I DO NOT KNOW YOU! Just like you don't know Cat, and have no right to say anything about her life.
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Rabrrrrrr Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Mar-01-04 12:56 AM
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31. I don't know you, but I do know this: You are one tombstoned SOB!
Moran.
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NightTrain Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-29-04 11:00 PM
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4. You make an excellent point.
Edited on Sun Feb-29-04 11:06 PM by NightTrain
My 38th birthday is less than a month away. Until recently, I had pretty mcuh resigned myself to being alone for the foreseeable future. Thankfully, due to my now having met a fantastic woman (through DU, no less), it looks like I may just get to take a stab at happiness after all! :bounce:

And if being married is what makes some gay and lesbian couples happy, I say America needs to pull the stick out of its ass and let those people tie the knot! That I even have to say such a thing is a sad commentary on our culture.
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CatWoman Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-29-04 11:02 PM
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8. Thanks
I met my friend on DU too.

We've been together just over a year now.
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greatauntoftriplets Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-29-04 11:05 PM
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10. Damn.... LMAO.
DU is a hotbed of sexual tension. I'm feeling good!
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Ellen Forradalom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-29-04 11:03 PM
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9. A fresh influx of hopeless romantics
is just what this tired old world needs, IMHO.
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cally Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-29-04 11:40 PM
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23. Everytime I see the folks in SF
I hear the song replaying in my head: "What the world needs now is love sweet now, it's the only thing that's there is just too little now." After I get over my anger for bringing up that song, I'm just happy that folks are finding happiness. The last thing that would threaten my marriage is gay or lesbian couples. Umm, they are gay or lesbian and my husband and I are not. :shrug:
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Djinn Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-29-04 11:53 PM
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25. for me
it's because people hurt and kill each other based on religion, money, politics, anger etc etc etc

how is ANY loving couple harmful
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SammyWinstonJack Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-29-04 11:58 PM
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28. I hope bush* burns in hell for many more reasons than this
And I don't even believe in hell! When will people learn to live and let live?
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SheWhoMustBeObeyed Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Mar-01-04 01:07 AM
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32. Excellent post, Ms Cat
Being as how it's about gay marriage, and not a request to analyze any situation of your own, I hope folks can stay on topic with it.

I support gay marriage because I believe that a same-sex spouse should have the same rights and responsibilities as any husband or wife, including the right to include a spouse on one's insurance coverage, be at a spouse's side during hospitalization, and collect a spouse's benefits upon death. Follow the money, the expression goes; I believe it is financial issues like these that drive administrative disapproval of the idea, and religion is being used as a convenient beard to rouse the easily rabbled.

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CatWoman Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Mar-01-04 10:01 AM
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33. Thanks Mrs. Magistrate, Ma'am
I absolutely LOVE your screen name :hi:
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SheWhoMustBeObeyed Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Mar-01-04 11:00 AM
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37. And thank you, Ma'am!
It was Hizzoner who suggested it. He is a clever cuss, ain't he? :hi:
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arwalden Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Mar-01-04 10:04 AM
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34. You Old Softie, You...
It was touching to see those couples, wasn't it?

--Allen
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Insider Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Mar-01-04 10:56 AM
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35. language of the heart
to borrow from bill wilson. thanks for sharing.

(i'm kind of sleepy, but that just made me grin all over)

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