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Maine-ah Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-03-08 10:50 PM
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Do You Have Curly Hair? I need some advice.
My daughter (2 y.o) has curly hair. I don't. Mine is straight as a pin. I have no effing clue how to care for her hair. It's dry, gets tangled badly. I've tried a couple of detainglers, which I really don't like using so far, shampoos ect....nothing is really doing the trick.

Any advice?

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KoKo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-03-08 11:10 PM
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1. Why does her hair at 2 years old bother you? Let it go...Now I've dealt with it for years
and when she get's into her teens then PM me and i can give huge amounts of advice. I'm an expert on "taming curly hair" but she's only TWO...let her be before you get into the heavy duty styling products that make ones eyes water and cause allergies for vanity.

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Maine-ah Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-04-08 06:41 AM
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14. I don't use HD styling products on my kid.
I'm not a fucking idiot. I would just like to get a comb through the poor kid's hair. Everything I have used is made for children and tear free.

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KoKo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-04-08 11:13 AM
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17. Try a light conditioner...organic if you can find it.
Conditioner after shampooing is the only way to get a comb through curly hair.
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MorningGlow Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-03-08 11:12 PM
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2. As foul a curse as ever there was
Says MG of the terminally fuzzy follicles. Your daughter (and you as her haircaretaker) have my deepest sympathy.

The weird thing is that my hair was straight--well, just wavy--when I was little, so I didn't experience toddler tangles. I'm assuming her hair is really fine, too? So I can hazard a guess, but I don't know a lot about kid-curls.

Don'ts: Don't wash it often--that dries it out. Don't use a blow-dryer--it wreaks havoc with curly hair--instead, air dry, or if you have to dry her hair quickly, use a diffuser on the dryer. Don't rub it briskly with a towel--makes tangles and frizzies. Don't brush it frequently--just before washing it, and comb it just after--and in the mornings, brush it carefully in sections, curling it around your fingers as you do so.

Dos: Use conditioner--both rinse-out and leave-in, if she'll tolerate that much work on her hair. When it's wet, twist it into tight corkscrews (leave 'em lengthwise) to dry--it cuts down on frizz; if she finds it fun, wrap it in bits of rag for the same effect.

I'm afraid I don't know what shampoos, conditioners, and detanglers are good for toddler-hair. I use a Paul Mitchell moisturizing shampoo and a Pantene conditioner and leave-in defrizzer as well as "C" brand styling cream. That might be too much for a kidlet; you kind of have to experiment with different products to see which ones work for her. Curly hair also likes to be "surprised" into behaving, so I rotate different products on a regular basis.

Most important: not all curly hair is the same, so this information could be totally useless. :D

Good luck! :hi:
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supernova Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-03-08 11:20 PM
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4. Johnson's No More Tears Detangler
That stuff is the bomb for little kids.

I have wavy hair, not curly, but it is thick and difficult to comb through.
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Manifestor_of_Light Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-03-08 11:52 PM
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6. CONDITIONER is an absolute necessity.
I have thick wavy hair too. Most people don't understand hair that thick. I have enough for three people and have to keep it less than shoulder length so I can brush thru it.

I wash mine every night in the shower. Always use conditioner. Towel dry it. Put a towel on my pillow and sleep on it wet. In the morning it's wavy, standing up on top of my head looking wild, and some of it is in ringlets.

One of my girlfriends (I'm a straight female) was jealous of me for having curly hair. She had baby fine straight hair with no body.

Then I got a nice boyfriend. That was too much for her to take. She stopped returning my phone calls. Ironic part: She told me to check out the boyfriend's "pretty eyes" at church, and I started dating him.

Fourteen and a half years later, we're still together. :D

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Ava Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-03-08 11:14 PM
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3. conditioner
lots of conditioner. i have curly hair and have the same problems with my hair getting dry and tangled. if her hair is like mine then it won't look greasy with lots of condtioner.. it'll actually be healthier and easier to brush and get the tangles out.
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Arugula Latte Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-03-08 11:23 PM
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5. My daughter has curly hair and I don't.
When I gave her a bath, I'd put tons of conditioner in her hair and then comb through it while the conditioner was still in. Rinse and it's nice and tangle-free. Curly hair is moisture-starved for some reason, so you can't over-condition, really. Also, get it trimmed regularly to cut down on tangles and damaged ends.
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PassingFair Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-04-08 12:06 AM
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7. I have wavy hair, but both of my daughters have VERY curly hair.
I did the same with them, combed their hair out
while bathing them, or came in and "did their hair"
when they were old enough to bathe themselves.

They both still comb (actually plastic brush) their
hair out in the shower.

The oldest NEVER brushes her hair between showers.
It is BEAUTIFUL and full of sausage-like ringlets.

The youngest STRAIGHTENS her hair every morning...
smells terrible, but she looks cute...kinda
Japanese.
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hedgehog Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-04-08 01:39 PM
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25. I second that rec - use a wide tooth comb or wooden bristle brush BEFORE
the hair is washed, then wash it WITHOUT tangling. That is, don't swirl the hair around, just gently massage the scalp with you finger tips. Then add conditioner and comb through before you rinse.
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Beaverhausen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-04-08 12:07 AM
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8. lots of good advice already. when you wash her hair, don't get it all tangled up
just squeeze the suds/shampoo though her hair, that way it's not so tangled in the first place. And when drying, just wrap in towel, don't towel in more tangles.

and lots of conditioner as curly hair tends to be dry.

I hated my curly hair for years but now there are great products out there to help us out and "define" the curls.
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Maraya1969 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-04-08 12:17 AM
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9. I'm voting for lots of conditioner.
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Zavulon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-04-08 12:52 AM
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10. Scrap the conditioner advice.
Great for adults, terrible for infants - too much unnecessary crap for hair that fine. She's only two; keep her hair short and use one of those Johnson & Johnson products. When she first hits school, then use one of the lighter combos of shampoo and conditioner in one bottle.
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XemaSab Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-04-08 12:56 AM
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11. Don't even THINK about touching it when it's dry
Comb it out at bathtime from the bottom up.
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surrealAmerican Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-04-08 11:56 AM
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23. That is an important point.
If you have straight hair, you're probably used to combing it out when it's dry. If you try this with curly hair, you will be causing your child a lot of pain. (It took my mother years to figure this out.) Also, since the child is two, I'd recommend keeping her hair short. When she's old enough to insist on longer hair, you'll need conditioner and detangler.
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Maine-ah Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-04-08 01:02 PM
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24. it's pretty short as it is.
just barely touching her shoulders in some spots, and in other spots (especially where she sleeps on it) there really isn't a whole lot there, but that spot is the worst of it all. It gets lint trapped in it, and turns into a giant knot. x(
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Lil Missy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-04-08 02:30 AM
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12. Naturally curly hair tends to be more dry. I was born with it too, and it does take extra care.
Someone tried to explain it to me once, like it has to do with the hair follicles or something like that.

I have ALWAYS had to use a conditioner, especially in my childhood and young adult years. Otherwise my hair was brittle or got nasty with split ends.

The conditioner stuff my hairdresser uses on me makes my hair feel like silk.
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Heidi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-04-08 02:38 AM
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13. Just use a no-tears shampoo with conditioner if you can find one.
And don't worry too much about the tangles. I'm 45 years old and I decided to stop beating my curly hair into submission. I wish I'd learned that much, much sooner. :hi:
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Maine-ah Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-04-08 06:46 AM
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15. lot's of good advice
I'll still stay away from hd products, but I'll try a few of these suggestions. :hi:
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hippywife Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-04-08 06:47 AM
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16. Instead of a comb
try using one of those picks with the plastic teeth and go from the bottom up. Also using it just before shampooing helps get the tangles out. When you towel dry, don't "scrub" her head with the towel. Just use the towel to squeeze the water out of her hair. The scrubbing method creates tangles.
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NMDemDist2 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-04-08 11:55 AM
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22. what hippywife says
I have curly hair and you need to start from the bottom up and a pick or VERY large tooth comb is the ticket.

A normal brush or comb is torture

here's what I have in my hair arsenal





This brush works, but I rarely use it.....


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onlyadream Donating Member (821 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-04-08 11:22 AM
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18. I LOVE my curly hair
Edited on Thu Dec-04-08 11:28 AM by onlyadream
but it's not thick and unruly. The only thing I can say is keep her hair short (manageable) and go heavy on the conditioner. Curly hair is usually drier than normal hair. You might also want to try a leave in conditioner like infusion: http://www.amazon.com/dp/B000GCUS7W?smid=A1FRT2DFB93P69&tag=shopzilla_rev_1027-20&linkCode=asn


I agree with the other posters: let it dry naturally and don't brush it or it will be a mess. You can run your fingers thru to loosen up the girls and shape it a bit. Also, do comb it out while the conditioner is in, before you rinse. It's much easier that way and the hair won't break as much.
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Rabrrrrrr Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-04-08 11:25 AM
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19. Clearly, your husband slept with another woman. Have her do the hair.
:crazy: :crazy: :crazy: :crazy: :crazy: :crazy: :crazy: :crazy:

:silly: :silly: :silly:



:dunce:
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Maine-ah Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-04-08 11:49 AM
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21. lol!
wow, all that labor really did seem like a dream!

actually, my hubbie has curly hair and so does his father. My daughter is the first female to get the curls, and nobody on my side has curly hair. :hi:
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Lady-Damai Donating Member (756 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-04-08 11:32 AM
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20. Go to naturallycurly.com
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La Lioness Priyanka Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-04-08 02:09 PM
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26. comb her hair out with a wide toothed comb after you condition, while still in the shower
Edited on Thu Dec-04-08 02:11 PM by lionesspriyanka
dont touch it after

when you dry it try to pat it dry and not tousle it

this is the comb, i use after conditioning my hair (While conditioner is still on)'

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