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begin_within (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 12:34 AM Original message |
"Friends with benefits"... can that really work? |
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jberryhill (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 12:50 AM Response to Original message |
1. I was burned by that.... |
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Inchworm (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 01:05 AM Response to Reply #1 |
3. *brain explodes* |
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begin_within (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 10:12 AM Response to Reply #1 |
19. Well alrighty then, I have my answer. |
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PVnRT (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 11:43 AM Response to Reply #1 |
21. I see what you did there |
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Droopy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 01:01 AM Response to Original message |
2. It depends on the individual |
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Radical Activist (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 01:27 AM Response to Original message |
4. It can work for some people for some period of time. |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 01:29 AM Response to Original message |
5. It would not work for me. Maybe for other people not, for me. n/t |
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Quantess (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 01:31 AM Response to Original message |
6. I have never had something like that, but I know people who did, |
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Lucian (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 01:32 AM Response to Original message |
7. I wouldn't mind one of those right now. |
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DarkTirade (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 01:33 AM Response to Original message |
8. Depends on the people involved. |
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harmonicon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 02:42 AM Response to Original message |
9. I've never understood it |
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MrSlayer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 02:54 AM Response to Original message |
10. Sure it can work. Before I was married I had a few "Bed buddies". |
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billyskank (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 03:38 AM Response to Original message |
11. Look, there are no rules. |
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Mojambo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 03:41 AM Response to Original message |
12. Only if both people are shallow intimacy-phobes. n/t |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 03:56 PM Response to Reply #12 |
37. people can know that they are not compatible with each other or that a deep romantic relationship |
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Mojambo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 04:42 PM Response to Reply #37 |
42. Yeah, yeah, yeah I know. I was just trying to stir the pot |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 04:51 PM Response to Reply #42 |
43. i think friends with benefits is a great arrangement. probably why it irks people |
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Mojambo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 04:52 PM Response to Reply #43 |
44. Freeloader! |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 04:53 PM Response to Reply #44 |
46. not any more. now i pay the price |
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HEyHEY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 03:48 AM Response to Original message |
13. Okay, I've had some experiences in this matter |
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stewartcolbert08 (614 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 08:17 AM Response to Reply #13 |
16. and... |
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HEyHEY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 01:27 PM Response to Reply #16 |
27. She lives in Ireland, it's like the other side of the planet for me |
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stewartcolbert08 (614 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 10:42 PM Response to Reply #27 |
50. well that |
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Bunny (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 05:00 AM Response to Original message |
14. Sure it can. |
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Connonym (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 05:31 AM Response to Original message |
15. we seem to have gone a record month or 2 since the last time this was bandied about |
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begin_within (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 04:37 PM Response to Reply #15 |
40. well I don't recall it |
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Connonym (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-16-08 01:53 AM Response to Reply #40 |
51. Sorry, I'm not trying to bust your balls |
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regnaD kciN (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 08:22 AM Response to Original message |
17. False dichotomy (or maybe trichotomy?)... |
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The Doctor. (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 08:28 AM Response to Original message |
18. Of course. |
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begin_within (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 11:41 AM Response to Reply #18 |
20. Thank you for giving me hope. |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 11:48 AM Response to Reply #18 |
23. IMO "maturity" is the wrong word. |
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The Doctor. (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-16-08 05:59 AM Response to Reply #23 |
55. Well... |
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supernova (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 11:47 AM Response to Original message |
22. It's not for me |
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begin_within (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 02:29 PM Response to Reply #22 |
32. That pretty much describes me too. |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 02:31 PM Response to Reply #22 |
34. Yes, well said. |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 11:48 AM Response to Original message |
24. yes, very well. both as friends and lovers. |
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Deep13 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 01:43 PM Response to Reply #24 |
29. Where the hell was this friends-with-benefits thing when I was single? |
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skygazer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 11:54 AM Response to Original message |
25. It can work very well but it depends on the individuals |
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unpossibles (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 12:00 PM Response to Original message |
26. I've had it work, and I've had it not work |
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IndianaJones (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 01:35 PM Response to Original message |
28. does it count if it was with one of your wifes friends? nt. |
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begin_within (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 02:31 PM Response to Reply #28 |
33. Male or female? |
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Deja Q (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 01:49 PM Response to Original message |
30. I was burned by that too. I saw more than what was. |
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av8rdave (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 01:54 PM Response to Original message |
31. I always wondered if I would have been able to handle something like that |
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SarahB (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 02:34 PM Response to Original message |
35. Sure, why not? |
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begin_within (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 03:47 PM Response to Reply #35 |
36. I like that order. |
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mike_c (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 04:13 PM Response to Original message |
38. hmmm-- I have a couple of relationships that qualify, to one degree or another... |
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begin_within (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 04:37 PM Response to Reply #38 |
39. That is awesome. |
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lizziegrace (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 04:41 PM Response to Original message |
41. It can |
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Xithras (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 04:52 PM Response to Original message |
45. Sure. Did it many times when I was younger. |
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SteppingRazor (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 04:54 PM Response to Original message |
47. Absolutely -- but not for long. |
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Chan790 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 05:07 PM Response to Original message |
48. It's preferable for me... |
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Lorien (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-16-08 02:20 AM Response to Reply #48 |
52. Well, since a friend will do all of those things |
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Chan790 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-16-08 03:27 PM Response to Reply #52 |
56. Perhaps... |
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Bucky (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-15-08 05:13 PM Response to Original message |
49. Pfff, as if simply being my friend isn't "benefit" enough! |
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InvisibleTouch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-16-08 03:06 AM Response to Original message |
53. Absolutely it can work. |
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Blue_Tires (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-16-08 03:14 AM Response to Original message |
54. hasn't for me |
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kwassa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-16-08 04:35 PM Response to Original message |
57. I've never been able to do it. |
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otherlander (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-16-08 04:57 PM Response to Original message |
58. Isn't that pretty much like having an open relationship? |
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