Been blue since the car wreck

[Bertha Venation]

and I don't know why. We weren't hurt. Dealing with the repairs isn't so stressful (yet; we only just got the estimate on the 24th). Had a scary episode last night with some prick coming out of VA, again, on the beltway. I cried almost all the way home after that.

I'm in a funk. I'm blue and weepy. The smallest things make me cry. Mrs. V. is worried. Well, I don't know that for sure; she's said nothing. But she knows something's wrong.

[LynzM]

1. hugs....

(((hugs))) :hug: :hug: :hug:

I don't know much about after-effects of trauma, but it certainly seems like something like that could shake you up, mentally and emotionally. Do you ever spend time in meditation or self-reflection? Sounds like something is going on that could use some figuring out... :hug:

[Bertha Venation]

6. LynzM

thank you

No, not as a rule, although I do think an awful lot. Not official self-reflection, but I am an introspective soul . . . but I think this is beyond me. Someone downthread recommended a psychologist. I think that may be the ticket.

:hug:

[LynzM]

16. You're welcome....

It does sound like if it's something that's feeling beyond you, it might be worth seeking out some other perspectives. :hug: I hope you find someone helpful!

[redqueen]

2. Aw, Bertha...

:pals:

Hopefully it's just a cyclical thing and will go away on its own... and hopefully you're not beating yourself up for feeling blue for 'no reason' (that's what I do).

Could you get yourself a nice treat perhaps? Something to perhaps cheer you up a bit?

Take care of yourself... :hug:

[Bertha Venation]

7. I am looking forward to vacation with ridiculous concentration

I am hoping that this will help.

thank you, redqueen :hug:

[Oeditpus Rex]

3. Emotional trauma can leave skid marks

(No pun intended.... okay, kinda.)



Spinning out on a wet freeway about 12 years ago left me afraid of driving in the rain for quite some time, and I didn't even hit anything.

If you can swing seeing a psychologist, I'd give it a go. :hug:

[Bertha Venation]

8. Bah! Funny.

You're allowed.

Your suggestion is spot-on.

Thanks, Rex :hug:

[lildreamer316]

4. My husband

wrecked our family car three years ago, at four in the morning, going 75 mph - slammed straight into the back of a van that pulled off the shoulder in front of him without any lights on.

He woke up from a dream about two weeks ago and said that it had 'switched his polarity'; in other words, he had been living in doubt of himself; kinda in shock, since that wreck.

He had another wreck with our new family car the day before thanksgiving. A drunk driver ran him off the road,but he did not hit anyone and as in the above wreck, was relatively unhurt.

It's the shock and the trauma. Whatever you can do to help yourself process it will be very helpful.

I'll be thinking about you...

[Bertha Venation]

9. oh, damn, dreamer

I am sorry. I hope your husband can recover well and soon. :shook:

Thank you very much for your insight. :hug:

[LeftyMom]

5. A brush with mortality isn't easy on anybody.

I know after I got hit by a car on my bike I wasn't really depressed or weepy but I was jumpy for a long time afterward and couldn't relax in a car because I was worried about getting in an accident.

[Bertha Venation]

10. Crap, LM

How long ago was that? :hug:

[LeftyMom]

11. 6 years ago. I just had some nasty road rash,

but since I didn't hit my head or have any abdominal bruising (in which case I'd have got checked out, because there's a family history of blood clots) I didn't even go to the ER. If I had I could have walked over, it was only a block away.

My bike was trashed though.

[Bertha Venation]

12. OW

OW

[applegrove]

13. Cry when you have to. Let it out. Crying is underrated. It will help you heal from any trauma.

[Bertha Venation]

17. Thank you. It's pretty safe to cry here at home.

Thanks.

[ikojo]

14. I had a scooter accident on 10/27 and I still

get weepy. Do take care of yourself though.

[Bertha Venation]

18. Holy shit.

Take care of YOUR-self. :hug:

[Gormy Cuss]

15. It's a very natural reaction, Bertha.

I hope that you can talk it out with Mrs. V (or at least begin to talk through your feelings with her because she is worried and knows your heart.)

If that had happened to me I'd probably be unable to get in a car for at least a year.
:hug:

[Bertha Venation]

19. We can talk.

It's just that I am so weird sometimes, and I can get so very depressed, that I don't want to give her more than she already has to deal with. She was in the car too, after all.

Thank you, GC :hug:

[mwooldri]

20. From someone who was hit last week (Sunday night/Monday morning)...

:hug: :hug: :grouphug: :hug: :hug:

I am jumpy now when coming to intersections and my language when driving is getting bluer (especially when driving alone) - like "Don't pull out on me now you f...er". In my case it wasn't my fault - she ran the red light and the police report effectively says that, she even got a police citation, and her insurance company has accepted liability.

Go check out a doctor, please... I'm weepy too at this stage... I'm having nightmares about my wife and my son getting killed in a road traffic accident right now. Any major life upset comes my way and I get knocked out of it. At the least if you can afford it some therapy/counselling may help, might even come to short term anti-depressants.

In my case though, my car got totalled, so yesterday we went to Carmax to look at vehicles. I also went online and we get financing for $14,000 - so yes we can afford a relatively new used vehicle. I'm stuck between a Mercury Milan and a Honda Fit - two quite different cars but two I kind of like.

But please, check in with your primary care physician at least, especially if you're weepy and the little things set you off.

Mark.

[Bertha Venation]

21. I'm sorry about your wreck - were you hurt?

:hug:

I have an appointment with some "help" on the 5th and will fully avail myself of whatever advice is offered. Plus we're going on holiday on the 17th; I'm hoping a week away from responsibility and stress will help.

Thank you, Mark

[mwooldri]

22. I'm checking in with my doctor this week...

that's the earliest I could get with him.

No outward physical injuries - we both walked free :) Though both our vehicles were totaled... hers definitely without needing an insurance adjuster - her entire front end disappeared and I think even the engine and transmission dropped out. In my case the right axle was bent, needs new right front end plus everything that side plus new right front door... really best thing to do with a 5 year old vehicle with this amount of damage is to salvage for parts and scrap/recycle the rest.

The holiday - excellent! Hopefully it's a nice long one, but whatever length it is it will help - change of scenery is always nice.

[blondeatlast]

23. Sending a hug from my locale, darlin'. Mrs. V. loves you and that's something

to feel a little better about.

Sending a prayer, sweetie. :hug:

[Tangerine LaBamba]

24. It's PTSD

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

Your symptoms are classic.

Read up on PTSD. There are all kinds of things on this here tube set called the Internet(s).

And you might want to talk to a psychiatrist - not a psychologist - but an M.D. who can prescribe an antidepressant or an anti-anxiety medication that can get you through this rough time.

There's no time limit on PTSD. It hovers.

Good luck to you.

[lightningandsnow]

25. Well, I hope you feel better really soon.

:hug: