My best friend was just diagnosed with Locally Advanced Breast Cancer

[La Lioness Priyanka]

Her elder sister emailed me to let me know. i havent been able to stop crying.

i dont know what to do.

life is so unfair sometimes

[TZ]

1. Thats awful.

Good wishes to your friend. Hopefully she gets good treatment or can get into a clinical trial of some sort...:hug:

[KitchenWitch]

2. ...

:hug:

[Sky Masterson]

3. Life is very unfair.

I would give anything to get rid of that fucking disease.
:hug: to your friend and all who love her including you.

[Heidi]

4. Here's what you do, Pri: be the kind of friend who isn't afraid to inquire and show love.

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I did not intend to post about this at DU ever, and I'm doing it only because you are a light, Pri, and this may help you to more fully be the kind of woman you ARE. :hug:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

8. 64 is way too young for a beautiful life to go. i hope when you are hurting heidi

you dont hesitate to reach out to those of us who love and admire you

thank you for you sensible words

[Heidi]

9. I do hesitate and I know I shouldn't. His 30-minute funeral will include this song,

which I consider his gift to all of us:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P22cMZFvJAs

Forever Young
May God bless and keep you always,
May your wishes all come true,
May you always do for others
And let others do for you.
May you build a ladder to the stars
And climb on every rung,
May you stay forever young,
Forever young, forever young,
May you stay forever young.

May you grow up to be righteous,
May you grow up to be true,
May you always know the truth
And see the lights surrounding you.
May you always be courageous,
Stand upright and be strong,
May you stay forever young,
Forever young, forever young,
May you stay forever young.

May your hands always be busy,
May your feet always be swift,
May you have a strong foundation
When the winds of changes shift.
May your heart always be joyful,
May your song always be sung,
May you stay forever young,
Forever young, forever young,
May you stay forever young.

Copyright ©1973 Ram's Horn Music

[Midlodemocrat]

5. Keep the faith. There are a lot of expanding treatments that could prove helpful.

:hug:

[FedUpWithIt All]

6. I am sorry.

:hug:

[PeaceNikki]

7. .

:hug:

[lightningandsnow]

10. I'm sorry, hun.

:hug:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

11. i just dont understand how it got to this stage. she had tumors last year, they were tested

so why is it at this stage now? shouldnt they have caught it earlier.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

14. You mean they were biopsied? and then what? Sorry to read this, Pri.

Stay strong and just continue to be There for her. :hug:

[Heidi]

19. Pri, looking for a source to blame is one of the natural stages of grieving.

Some cancers can grow unbelievably quickly. Some grow so quickly that an oncologist won't even order a biopsy, for fear of the cancer spreading. I don't know your friend's situation, but just _be_ kindness and pure intent right now. That's what's really important.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

20. i just spoke to her. she is blaming herself for causing people pain

esp her new husband etc

told her, our job is to love her etc.

[enigmatic]

12. I'm so sorry

:hug:

[AlCzervik]

13. I'm so sorry.

Life does suck hard sometimes. I wish her no pain and i hope she can get the best treatment available.

Cancer fucking sucks.:hug:

[Richardo]

15. I'm so sorry, Pri

Best wishes for all of you :hug:

[Taverner]

16. That's horrible! Good wishes your and her way!

Locally Advanced - does that mean they can't do anything about it? Can chemo still help?

[La Lioness Priyanka]

21. yes, they can. they are starting her on chemo next week

[Tommy_Carcetti]

17. Hope all goes well and strength for your friend. nt

[seemunkee]

18. Cancer.gov

If she wants information on clinical trials go here:
http://www.cancer.gov/Templates/doc.aspx?viewid=7C5CCBC9-ADAD-4683-8448-E705FB912971
Do a search with as much information as you/she knows and take the list to her oncologist.
Get a second opinion, no matter what and especially if she doesn't have confidence in her doctor.
Be a friend, give her support, cry with her.
I'm sorry
:hug:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

22. she is in india

[TK421]

23. I'm really sorry to hear it!

she will be in my thoughts :(

[LynzM]

24. Oh Pri, I'm so sorry....

That sucks. I don't know what to say, but you're right. Life's awfully fucking unfair sometimes. :hug:

[LaraMN]

25. Ouch, honey. That is absolutely horrible.

You're right- life is cruelly unfair at times; and we often spend a lot of time worrying about the wrong things.



:hug:

[applegrove]

26. That is very sad.

[mvd]

27. Very sorry to hear that, Pri!

I'm sending good vibes out. :hug:

[crim son]

28. I'm very sorry, Pri.

Be there for her. It's the most and best you can do. :hug:

Life is unfair, absolutely.

[Starbucks Anarchist]

29. I'm so sorry, Pri.

:hug: :hug:

[graywarrior]

30. Sucks

Sorry to hear that. Think hope, that's all I can say.

[jellen]

31. breast cancer is really unfair.

My sister has breast cancer. She;s not terribly worried about it. It really helps to find out all you can about it.You're in my prayers.

[Flaxbee]

32. My sister had a

double mastectomy for locally advanced bc 18 months ago, and she's fine. It was her second occurrence. It sucks, but she's still going and that's what you have to be thankful for.

Pri, you come across as a wonderful friend, just continue to be that friend, and tell her how much you love her.

I'm so sorry. I do understand. :hug:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

33. thank you flaxbee and thank you all for your kind words

[Shell Beau]

34. I am sorry about your friend. I really hope

she kicks cancer's ass. People do it all of the time. I hope your friend is no exception. :hug:

[motely36]

35. my thoughts are with your friend

This disease is awful. My best friend has survived twice luckily.

:hug:

[supernova]

36. I'm so sorry

Hugs for you and your friend. :hug:

My sister is an 11 year survivor. She had a double mastectomy and is on her second set of silicone. ;-) So there is hope.

[av8rdave]

37. I am so sorry

Such a difficult disease. I agree....life is NOT fair!

All the best to you and your friend.