I am sad.

[Shell Beau]

My brother and his wife are divorcing. And it is mostly my brother's fault. He committed adultery. He had a girlfriend. Not just a fling. A child was born from this relationship. It sounds so Jerry Springer. His wife is like my sister. She was only 13 when they started dating. I feel like she grew up in my family. I think the divorce is about to get ugly and that scares me for their kids. I am sick by what my brother did. But he is my brother and I will always have his back. Even when he doesn't deserve it.

[lost-in-nj]

1. Hi Shell

:hug: :hug:

I am so sorry

I will bet he is over 40 and going through a midlife crisis



don't know if you know my story but if you pm me I will tell it


I am so so sorry for the kids

they will be the losers in this

please let your SIL know its NOT HER FAULT
I promise
:pals: :cry: :cry:
lost

[Shell Beau]

5. He is only 33 but he is a cop. The divorce and adultery rate

is through the roof with cops.


My family has been devastated by this. She knows it isn't her fault. The kids are the losers. And the poor child that was born into this... He was born with extreme club feet. He will be in casts until he is at least 3. They had to travel to Iowa for the surgeries. He had his achilles tendons cut. It is just sad all the way around.


Thanks!

[AwakeAtLast]

2. That is a sad situation

Lose-lose. So sorry!

:hug:

[Shell Beau]

8. I hate that my brother put himself in this position.

I think he loves this other gal. How can I ever accept her if they stay together. They have a child together so...

[BikeWriter]

3. ((((((Shell Beau)))))) I am so sorry you're sad, Sweetie.

I certainly understand why though. I haven't been here in a while, I wish it was a happier time for you.

[Shell Beau]

6. I swear I was just wondering about you the other day. I haven't

seen you around in ages! Good to see you!!!!

Thanks!

[BikeWriter]

9. Thank you, Dear. You're one friend from here...

I will always remember. :hug:

[Shell Beau]

11. Awww! Too sweet! How have you been? I wonder about

how you are. I know you went through the saddest of sad.

[BikeWriter]

16. Yes'm, I lost a Grand Daughter and Son...

within a couple of years. Those are life events you never get over, you just learn to live with them. I remember getting tons of emotional support from friends here, too. That always helps.
I hope it helps your own sadness, you're far too sweet and lovely to be feeling down.

[Shell Beau]

19. I really remember you losing your son because my mom lost

one of hers. I saw the devastation it caused her. You were always in my prayers. :hug: I don't remember the granddaughter. I am so sorry about that. One should never outlive their children or their children's children.

[BikeWriter]

22. We may have lost Lea Elaine before I joined here.

When we buried her I felt like stepping in the hole and telling them to hand her casket in to me. When we lost Casey Lee my oldest Son and his Wife had her casket moved next to him. That seemed to be a comfort to them and my ex.

[Shell Beau]

23. Wow! I am so sorry. There are never any words to describe.

:hug:

[BikeWriter]

26. Thank you, Dear.

The little Darling was given a strep infection with her first IV in a neo-natal ICU. Believe it or not, while they were visiting her later my Son saw a nurse in the same unit drop an unopened package of an IV on the floor, and reach to put it back in the sterile box.

[graywarrior]

4. Oh man, that truly does suck

My brother was a jerk like that at one time.

[Shell Beau]

7. I have called him everything you can imagine.

But I love him. And he needs me. :cry:

[graywarrior]

10. I hear you

I'm the same way with my brother.

[Shell Beau]

14. Sometimes all you have is family.

[graywarrior]

15. Sometimes

[Mike 03]

12. You sound like one of my sisters

She turned out to be the best friend of my entire life.

Wow, your post really means a lot to me.

Thank you for sharing this. It means a lot to know I'm not alone.

[Shell Beau]

13. I will always be there for my brother. He was a shitty husband. But

he is an awesome brother. We lost our oldest brother and we know that we are all that we have left. I will never ever abandon him. Ever.

I am glad you have family to rely on too!! :hug:

[crim son]

17. That's a very tough situation.

I'm sorry for your whole family and hope everybody tries to do the right thing. It's so hard.

[Shell Beau]

18. Yeah! It is so hard for my sis-in-law. She was just being a mom.

What went on between she and my brother, well who knows? But she sure as hell didn't deserve this. My family was hard on my brother for a very long time. He was the black sheep. He made his bed... But, he needs us. It is hard because my SIL is like family. She was there when my other brother died. She has been there for more than half of her life. But my brother is my brother. No matter what. I will always consider my SIL the sis I never had, but when it comes down to it, my brother and his children are what really matter to me. I have to be there for him. There are no words to defend what he did. But, he did it and it is over. I love him unconditionally.

[SPKrazy]

20. sorry Shell

things happen like that

and divorces are never pretty things no matter how easy the lawyers might make them sound.

:hug:

[bigwillq]

21. Sending my vibes for your family.

It's a tough situation. :hug:

[BarenakedLady]

24. You are a good sister

for supporting him even if you don't approve. He's lucky to have you.

[leeroysphitz]

25. You are a good sister.It's good to stand behind your brother...

because that is the best place to give him a swift kick in the ass when he screws things up for himself like this.

I hope things don't get too tough on those kids...