Daters: Is sex expected or wanted on the first date?

[MrScorpio]

Poll question: Daters: Is sex expected or wanted on the first date?

Please, keep it clean

[redqueen]

1. Oops.

I should really take my time and review what my vote was before just rushing to click that thing. I accidentally voted "Male: Maybe". :blush:

[MrScorpio]

3. Is there something that you neglected to tell me?

After all this time I've been worshiping you maybe I need some more info?

[redqueen]

4. That I'm impatient and make a lot of mistakes due to that fact?

:P

Also, I'm not a dater, so I shouldn't even have answered! :crazy:

[Shell Beau]

2. I am not a dater as I am married, but I would never have sex on

the first date. Maybe I am a prude. It would take me several dates actually (and only if I was extremely interested in the guy).

[MissMillie]

5. Not expected and NOT wanted on the first date

and yes, I'm series.

[MajorChode]

65. Does that mean it takes until the end of the season?

...and furthermore is that after the end of the first 13 episodes, or do all the repeats have to run also?

[flvegan]

6. Why put it off until the first date?

:shrug:

[Jamastiene]

9. You beat me to it.

Date? :wtf: is that anyhow. Sure, I might take a girl to a nice restaurant sometime, but damn, boinking happens as soon as I can possibly get there...sooner if she's faster than I am. :evilgrin:

[jobycom]

11. No kidding. It's "wanted" even when there's no one around to want it with.

[FloridaJudy]

7. I think it depends

On how long you've known the person before actually "dating". Someone you've known for a long time, and now find yourself attracted to? Go for it, but wear your rubbers. Blind date? No way! You might find yourself being stalked by Glenn Close or Robert DeNiro.

[jobycom]

8. Weren't you the one a while back who posted that you always

expected it on a first date and considered the evening a failure otherwise? I remember that's when you become my idol. :)

[MrScorpio]

15. What other reason is there to go out?

And of course, it's best of arrange things beforehand with a woman who felt the same.

If things AREN'T arranged, you better believe that I'm not bringing the subject of sex FIRST.

But you best believe I'll do my best to impel her think about it.

[Shell Beau]

19. How about getting to know someone? And not physically.

:shrug:

[quakerboy]

46. Arranged?

Hmm.

[jobycom]

10. You shouldn't link "expected" and "wanted" there.

Try a poll for both. Who wants it on the first date, and who expects it on the first date.

[supernova]

12. No and No

First dates are strictly meet and greet in my eyes.

I'm very reserved and it can take me a few dates to see whether or not the person is someone I 1) feel safe with 2) am attracted to.

It would be very nice to have had a long time friend turn into more, but I've never had that situation, so? :shrug:

[redqueen]

14. That's exactly the situation that made me say maybe.

The friend that turns into more.

[Left Is Write]

13. Expected? No, I wouldn't expect that. Wanted? I guess that depends on who the date is with...

:D

[guitar man]

16. expected? no

wanted? of course! :evilgrin:

[LeftyMom]

17. Well, I DID fly 3,000 miles.

[Lost in CT]

25. Did you at least wait till you got out of the car?

Cause that shows restraint. :evilgrin:

[LeftyMom]

35. I am the very soul of restraint.

Not only did we go all the way to his house, I let him introduce me to the puppies and then we had lunch.

[XemaSab]

62. "The puppies?"... "Lunch?"...

TMI. :scared:

[BarenakedLady]

18. Good question

These are the type of questions I need answers to! I have no idea what is expected these days.

[Inchworm]

22. We could approach this scientifically...

I'll pick you up at 8.

I'll be the beardy guy in the truck. :D

:yoiks:

[BarenakedLady]

23. Haha.

Beardy guy?

:rofl:

[Inchworm]

26. Yar, folks 'round here call me...

Bubba.

Can you drive a stick?

And what are your feelings on having teef?

:rofl:

[BarenakedLady]

27. Hey Bubba!

Well, can you talk in complete sentences? Do you drink moonshine out of a jam jar? Have you ever dated a family member?

These all need to be answered.

:P

[Inchworm]

28. Once ma put jam in a moonshine jar

then paw ran off with his third cousint.

I can get a sheep to sleep by rubbin it. Preacher taught me...

And my "rebel yell" lacks pitch 'cause I have a dutch whisper. I druther whistle to show my joy.

Yeeehaw!

:woohoo:

EDIT: Paw ain't dad...

[Inchworm]

29. Well darn...

my ex's sister's middlest kid stopped by for grub.

Have you a good evin' ya'hear?

:D

[SPKrazy]

55. Don't listen to him BNL

I think we should want it

not expect it

but if we want it and it happens

then we don't have to expect it :P

Seriously, my answer is no...

I would not take someone seriously who expected sex on the first date.

some restraint builds tension, and getting to know someone a little is a good idea

on the other hand.... hmmmm.... If it is someone I've talked to for quite a while, and we have talked about sex, and we meet, then I would probably expect but not demand sex. Does that make sense :evilgrin:

[ReliantJ]

20. THAT's WHAT SHE SAID!

But, no I don't expect it for month

[Inchworm]

21. You opened the door with "wanted"...

Sex is wanted.. date or not. Hehe, jest sayin :)

:hi:

[Lost in CT]

24. Depends on the girl... sometimes yes and sometimes meh...

[cherish44]

30. No you should wait until you are married

Fornicators are EVIL:evilgrin: :evilfrown: :evilgrin: :evilfrown: :evilgrin: :evilfrown: :evilgrin: :evilgrin: :evilgrin: :evilfrown: :evilfrown: :evilfrown: :evilgrin:

[KG]

31. expected? no. wanted? yes. sex on the second date seems to be norm in my middle-aged dating seen.

[blondeatlast]

32. After 13 years, I guess I'm about to find out. Seriously, if someone could clue me on the protocol,

I'd be very grateful.

I'm in the pool again. Siiigh...

[KG]

41. as a long time middle age single person i'd say follow your instincts and do what pleases you

and don't tell anybody else what you do or who you do it with so you won't have to listen to their value judgements.

i don't view dating as a chore, coz i'm never desperately seeking. i consider it somewhat of an adventure, relax and have fun.

[blondeatlast]

48. That's kind of how I'm feeling about it. I'm not at all anxious to get involved again;

if it happens, great; if not, I'll just enjoy and discover.

[IntravenousDemilo]

33. It rather depends a lot on whether you're a gay man.

When women aren't figured into the situation, sex on the first date will happen more often than not. Most men would blithely have sex all the time if women didn't keep them in check. That's why gay men have more sex than straight men -- there's nothing standing in the way of the orgasm.

[NewJeffCT]

34. From my former dating days, I would say

Expected - never; wanted - usually.

[MrSlayer]

36. Yes.

Didn't always work out that way though.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

37. Now, I'm extremely old-fashioned.

Not only did I not want sex on any first date, neither did I expect it.

Kissing, yes...some making out, maybe, probably...

But sex?

Nope.

I wanted to know the guy really really well before we took that step. It's a big one, IMHO anyway.

But that's just me.

My husband decided that I was worth the wait...

[skygazer]

38. You're asking two different questions

Is sex expected?

Is sex wanted?

[petronius]

39. Every time I see this, I read "daters" as "daughters"

I'm married, but looking back at my dating life I'd say sex definitely was wanted if I was interested in dating someone, but never expected. Although I wouldn't have said no...

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

40. What is this "date" of which you speak?

And "sex"? Must be some newfangled thing you young'uns are into.

[Sky Masterson]

42. I hope not

At least if I have any respect for the person I'm dating.
If they will sleep with you on the first date than they would most likely sleep with others on the first date.
If it is a consensual hook up than that's different.

[RetroLounge]

43. Well, expected? Depends on the first date.

Sometimes it's discussed first, like for 16 months before the date. :9

Wanted, sure, of course.

RL

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

44. Exactly

[flvegan]

50. You and RL are incorrigible and corrupting innocents like me.

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

52. Yeah, like you and LM didn't you know what...

[LeftyMom]

63. He's totally a virgin.

In his left ear. I think.

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

68. Eww, what'd you do to the right ear?

[Withywindle]

54. I think I must have a different definition of "dating" than a lot of people on this thread.

For me, sex is how you KNOW it's a "date." If there's no sex (or at least fooling around) then you're just hanging out with a buddy. My last serious boyfriend and I counted our anniversary from the first time we had sex, even though we'd known each other for years before that. :shrug:

[TZ]

45. Considering the amounts of first dates I have had

That would not be healthy for me...:banghead:

[quakerboy]

47. By my experience, no and yes

I have only had one first date in my life. There was no sex on the first date. So, given my life experience on the topic, I would say it is not expected.

Wanting is different. I suppose wanted would have more to do with who you were dating, whether you appreciated the pertinent qualities of that person, whether you had been kicked in the nuts recently, your hormone levels, and a number of other factors.

[Lorien]

49. No way

There are so many STDs and so many players out there that I really have to know the guy first. I'm clean and I prefer to stay that way.

[GOPisEvil]

51. I never, ever expected sex on the first date.

Not to say I never had sex on the first date. But I never expected it. :)

[DarkTirade]

53. I voted 'maybe'. Depends entirely on the situation, really.

I've ended dates with everything from hours-long sex sessions to a little peck on the cheek. It really depends on the chemistry and people involved. And how long you've known each other ahead of time. Come to think of it, I've only had sex on the first date once when I hadn't already known the person before that date. And even so, we'd been talking online for quite a while before then.

[SPKrazy]

56. Only with a couple of people have I ever really fel that way about a "date"

now some encounters are just not "dates" and those are different.

Actually I don't have those anymore, or haven't. Maybe I need to expand my horizons.

Craigslist anyone :rofl:

[av8rdave]

57. When I was single....

I was wished for. Unfortunately, wishes and reality are two different things.

[elleng]

58. Bad question!

Expected and Wanted demand different polls, imo.

THEN you could ask: in 1950. 1960. 1970. 1980.

[swag]

59. Yes, we're going to fuck.

[Chan790]

60. I said "Yes".

In so far as I'm not going to ever turn it down if it's potentially an option with someone I have an interest in seeing again...or someone I find attractive (but wouldn't date again or pursue a relationship with) if it was very clear what that situation was. (A mutually-agreeable bout of recreational sex with zero misconceptions.)

[Lucian]

61. Depends on the first date.

[MajorChode]

66. Good point

If you drop $100 on dinner, $50 on drinks, $30 on flowers somebody had better be getting nekkid. But if you're only in for a coke and a mars bar, no big deal.

[pokerfan]

64. It depends

Is a good rogering with a Sawzall considered sex?

Lexington Park, Maryland -- A Southern Maryland woman was seriously injured in a mishap involving a sex toy over the weekend. The case was first reported on TheBayNet.com, and Saint Mary's county public safety sources confirm the information to 9NEWS NOW.

The accident was reported to local fire and rescue personnel about 1:30 a.m. on March 7. The man who made the 911 call said he had placed a sex toy over a saber saw blade, and then used the power tool on his partner, but the blade cut through the plastic and injured the woman.

http://www.digtriad.com/news/watercooler/article.aspx?storyid=120510&catid=176

[MajorChode]

67. What a moran

Everyone knows you're supposed to take the blade off and ducttape the dong to the hilt.

[BreweryYardRat]

69. Expected? No.

Wanted: Yes, assuming I don't turn out to have been mistaken in my perceptions of her personality/intelligence.

[raccoon]

70. Well, what two consenting adults do in private is their own business.

For myself, though, there are a few caveats.

--Just because you and the other person had sex, DOESN'T MEAN you're in a relationship.

--Just because you and the other person had sex, DOESN'T MEAN they may not go out the very next day and have sex with somebody else.

--If you and the other person discussed STD's (Big IF), just hope they were telling the truth.

--Remember, even a condom doesn't protect you from herpes.


If BOTH PARTIES are ok with all this, fine. IME, to many people it's like a game or contest. If the two of you have sex, THEY won the contest. If the two of you didn't, YOU won the contest.

[Amaya]

71. It depends

on the chemistry. I had sex on the first date with my (now) husband... the chemistry and passion was just there.

:hi:

[RedCloud]

72. Cave folks sure as heck did!

So most of you are against Mother Nature and her infinite wisdom.

A life expectancy of around 20 years or so in cave folks day tends to make us obey Father Time and his infinite wisdom.