Feeling really lonely tonight.

[alarimer]

Two weeks ago I was with someone, now I am all alone and it sucks. He hasn't answered my latest email and I want to see him so much.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

1. My dear alarimer...

Aw, sweetie...

Sounds as though he's walked away, doesn't it? Take care of yourself...nobody else will...

I'm so sorry...

:hug:

[alarimer]

2. I don't know if he has or not.

The last time we talked, it seemed like the door was still open.

Thanks.

[Haole Girl]

3. Aww

:hug:

Some songs for you:

It Don't Hurt, Sheryl Crow
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SWofZZZT5xk

You're not Sorry, Taylor Swift
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hfA0roTr9QM

Already Gone, The Eagles
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RhHpEFz9pD0

[alarimer]

4. Thanks. n/t

[silverojo]

35. Don't forget this disco heartbreak classic....

Gloria Gaynor - "I Will Survive"
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZBR2G-iI3-I

[Tuesday Afternoon]

5. ~

:hug:

[Deja Q]

6. Been alone for 3.5 years. Before that I was alone for 5 years. Before that, plenty of years.

Loneliness has its down sides.

It's got up sides too.

Time to improve your career, relax, enjoy other things life has to offer.

[alarimer]

7. I am embarking on a self-improvement plan.

I am going to learn how to flirt. Most people think I am too serious. They are right. Really I am just too shy and insecure. It killed every relationship I've had, including this latest one. Really, it's long past time for me.

[Jimbo S]

9. I used to be painfully shy and introverted

to the point it was affecting my personal and professional life. So I had to bite my lip and jump into the deep end.

Maybe you can have one of your gal pals take you to a bookstore or someplace and just chat it up with guys to help your confidence and practice some skills.

Keep in mind there are plenty of shy guys out there that would be thrilled to meet a similar kind of gal.

[alarimer]

11. Well it's so bad that I do not have any friends.

I kind of always expect people to make the first move, so when they don't, those friendships tend to disappear.

But, yeah, there comes a time when you have to bite the bullet.

[Tangerine LaBamba]

16. Want a hint?

One of the scariest things for all humans is the fear of public speaking. I decided to become a litigator, a trial attorney, and, honestly, I was shy.

Why did I decide on that specialty? I loved the tension. Go figure.

Anyway, an old lawyer at the courthouse where I was learning my trade followed me into the ladies' room one day when I was doing my customary throwing up before my case was called.

(My buddies talked, and my puking was legendary.)

I was that scared every time, yeah.

The old lawyer, a fine Southern gentleman who'd been practicing longer than I'd been alive, gave me a great hint. And I've passed it along, with much success, all my professional life.

It works in personal lives, too.

You pick your favorite actress in your favorite movie, and you throw yourself into the role. You just take on the persona - and, in my case, it was a classic: Rosalind Russell in "Auntie Mame" - and you handle yourself as if the cameras were rolling and you were that actress.

I never threw up again, and later, when I got more confident, I abandoned Miss Russell for Bugs Bunny, who'd always been my hero, anyway. Bugs worked out really well for me.

Still does.

So, go to it, honey. You've got nothing to lose, and all you can do is meet some folks you wouldn't have met otherwise.

Good luck, and have fun. And don't get drunk. Not real drunk, anyway.

And, for god's sake, don't puke.

:toast:

[alarimer]

17. It's strange but public speaking doesn't bother me.

I can give a pretty presentation so long as I practice it. I get nervous but not too much.

No, it's more personal stuff I have trouble with.

[alarimer]

18. Dupe

[jellen]

8. your avatar

your avatar is the same as mine. When did you get it? But Willie is the coolest!

[alarimer]

10. I am not sure when I started using it.

After I saw Willie in concert a year and a half ago. It was great!

[jellen]

12. willie

I've seen Willie at least 10 times, but I fear his voice isn't quite what it used to be. But I still love him. I think we need a Willie forum.

[alarimer]

19. No he's getting old and you can tell from his voice.

But the guy played for like 3 hours that night. I had to leave before he was done because my feet were killing me.

[supernova]

13. Hugs

:hug:


I'm shy too. It can be prohibitive sometimes, I admit.

I'm sure there is someone for you, though. You just haven't crossed paths yet, that's all. Please just take this time and love yourself.

[Lil Missy]

14. Breakups get better with time. Do you mind my asking how old you are?

Of course you are not obligated to answer.

:hug:

:hi:

[alarimer]

21. 40. You'd think I would be better at it.

Actually I am still on speaking terms with this guy. In fact we are having dinner this week. So who knows if this is really over or not.

[Lil Missy]

25. I was older than that when I fell in love for the first time. My only point is,

that life is not over yet. Don't settle.

[Q3JR4]

15. Well I dated a nice man who didn't

know what he wanted, had no significant other in my life for five years, had a relationship with a married man (it's okay, his wife didn't mind), and have been alone going on 2 and a half years.

I find that mostly I don't really mind not having someone in my life, but there are certain days when I let it get to me. It does give you time to think, hang out, work on whatever you've been putting off, get used to yourself and being alone. All of these are good things.

Q3JR4.

[alarimer]

22. It isn't always this bad.

Just some days. I was feeling down because of this but also because I feel like I am getting nowhere in my career either. There is so much competition out there, I can't even get promoted by my employer. They always hire someone from outside rather than promoting from within. It feels like a kick in the teeth every time.

[stewartcolbert08]

20. It wont always hurt this bad........

I promise! :grouphug:

[alarimer]

23. I know.

Some days are better than others.

[elshiva]

24. Good old Willie Nelson...

:hug: At least you have great taste in music. :hug:

[Lindsey]

26. Sunday nights are without question when (for those of us who are

single) feel the most lonely. In fact, it's been discussed in the lounge before. I tend to like some time alone but even I get lonely sometimes on a Sunday night. One of the things I've done in the past is to have plans for dinner or a movie with another single friend. It really helps....I hope you feel better soon....:hug:

[Richard Steele]

27. I was with my Lovely Esmerelda for nine years and a week, until last August.

I'm getting reaquainted with the whole "lonely" thing, Itellyouwhut.

Loneliness used to be a close friend of mine,
but I haven't seen it in almost a decade...
I've been through a lot, but it hasn't changed a bit,
so it and I just don't get along so well as we once did.

[Drunken Irishman]

28. If you weren't in Texas, I'd come over. ;)

[MajorChode]

31. You live in Salt Lake City and you think Texas is a step down?

I'm thinking you've been doing more than just drinking.

[Drunken Irishman]

32. I didn't say that. I mean, she's in Texas and I'm in Utah...so I can't come over.

You stupid Chode.

;)

[MajorChode]

33. Just how far are you willing to go?

Perhaps we can meet half-way.

I've got a plane too.

Netsex would be cheaper tho.

[Skip Intro]

29. It's hard when someone you thought was at least a friend becomes cold to you.

I've had it happen to me a couple of times.

And no, I'm not talking about Skittles putting me on ignore.

Please, Skittles, take me off of ignore.

But, when you actually trust someone, and time passes, they seem to become part of your foundation. And then they pull away and it's like you're all wobbly and stuff.

Like they took a part of you.

Or maybe not.

I hate loneliness.

[Withywindle]

30. That sucks.

Sunday nights really are the worst, aren't they?

Good time to go to bed with a good book. Or a bad one that's at least distracting.


:hug:

[LostInAnomie]

34. That was me about 4 months ago.

And, it's still me currently.

[BikeWriter]

36. As a three time divorcee I know the feeling.

It sucks.

[applegrove]

37. Like they say..the more people you date the closer you are to knowing

the person who will truly make you happy.