Question about ex's and stalking

[Politics_Guy25]

All right, here's the deal. My ex and I broke up because one day I called her like 8 times. She thought that it was harrassment and threatened a court case over it. However, we made up just recently (like at the beginning of the month) and spoke for like 6 hours over 2 days. We agreed to talk whenever the other person wanted to talk. I e-mailed like on the Wednesday after the weekend we talked and got this reply:

It was nice speaking and hearing your voice again as well. I didn’t realize how long it had been. My parents were right, when you hit 19 time just zooms. I see death in my near future, j/k. I got the letter from your teacher in the attachment but nothing else. Probably our firewall, stupid thing anyway like pictures will hurt. Just hope they weren’t naked, don’t need that thanks. LOL. Its currently about - 2 which just doesn’t work for me. I am a baby. Glad to hear your grandpa is doing okay. I have to run to training class tonight but we will talk/email soon K?

I e-mailed several days later but didn't get a response and we haven't spoken lately. I want to e-mail again. I have a new puppy and some photos that I want to show. However, what I am worried about is I was so fortunate to be forgiven in the first. My issue is: what if in between the time that I got the last e-mail from my ex and now, my ex has deemed it inappropriate to speak. Would my e-mail that I am thinking about sending be deemed stalking? The imprisonment term for stalking is 5 YEARS! I have no desire to go to jail for 5 years over an ex that I'd like to get to know again but I'm not that into anymore but still love. My ex might turn around and say that I have been harrassing through e-mails. The thing is the last e-mail I have made it seem like we would be able to e-mail again but what if something has happened in the meantime and my ex is no longer willing to speak?

Would sending just this 1 last feeler e-mail be legal or would you all advise me not to send a feeler e-mail seeing how my ex is just to be sure no legal issues arise. My ex's last e-mail makes it seem like it would be OK to talk again and I'm sure the legal authorities would dismiss the issue after seeing the e-mail but still I don't want to even go down that road. My point is that we broke up in the past after that day of harrassing behavior by me but I've apologized and we seemed to have made up but I just have visions of my ex using that together with mine initiating an e-mail and throwing me in jail? Might this ever happen? I guess I just find my ex really intimidating and mean but also amazing and so kind and generous at the same time.

Believe me, I know how stupid this all might sound but before I e-mail again, I want to be sure that I'm not doing anything wrong with the note that I won't e-mail again if I don't hear firmly in mind. Please help! Thanks!

[StrongBad]

1. I think if she's replying to your emails and engaging you in convo. you shouldn't stress.

I am not a lawyer, so take my observation for what it's worth...

[AirBaud]

2. If you have to walk on these kinds of egg shells,

kick her to the curb. Not literally, because that could involve jail time.

[Bunny]

3. You called her eight times in one day?

Dude you are a stalker. Leave her alone. If she wants you, she'll be in touch.

[Shell Beau]

4. Maybe you should just let her go. It sounds like an awful lot of worrying

to do just to e-mail someone. JMO!

[Symarip]

5. Restraining orders are just another way of saying

I love you.

[arcadian]

10. Restraining orders are just another way of saying

You're not trying hard enough!

[Symarip]

11. Yeah.

All that.

[Debi]

6. Let it go

if she gets in contact w/you again then you can tell her/show her whatever you have waiting for her.

Seems like an awful lot of work for a relationship that has ended.

Maybe it's time to move on?

[Tangerine LaBamba]

7. Let it go, honey -

you're not making a whole lot of sense here (and this is from your post):

". . . an ex that I'd like to get to know again but I'm not that into anymore but still love."

But still love? Even though you're "... not that into anymore..."?

Snap out of it. You're locked onto this girl who you "love" but are "not that into anymore..." and it's not a healthy thing.

That you're asking strangers on a message board about it suggests a kind of desperation. That's not good, either. Ask you friends, the real life ones. They know you better than anyone else.

Then, cool it. Live your own life. She obviously wants to live hers, and it doesn't sound like it includes you. I don't see anything that suggests that she ever wants to see you again.

If a man called me eight times in one day, I'd be sure never to have anything to do with him again.

Leave her alone, and learn to relax. If a girl likes you, she'll meet you halfway.

No one likes to be hunted.

[ogneopasno]

8. Yes. Yes, and yes. Aaaand. Yes. Read this answer. Because it's correct.

[cherish44]

9. She's just not into you dude

Don't sweat it though, like the book says, someone's going to come along and you'll rock each other's worlds.

[CJCRANE]

12. The best thing

is to get on with your life, have some fun, do the things you want to do. Don't think about her. If she wants to get in touch she will. If she doesn't, well you're having fun anyway. Try that, at least for the next two weeks.

(Watch Jon favreau's movie "Swingers" and listen to Rob's advice).

[Bake]

13. Sersly, let. it. go.

There's more out there.

Bake