A Plea for Help, Really Bad Times Have Hit Me and my Family

[TexasLady]

Firstly, I need to post the following from Skinner:

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Here goes:

Around the end of Jan. and the first two weeks of Feb., I was in awful pain in my left calf. Four visits to the ER, and each doctor kept saying it was sciatic nerve. On the 13th of Feb, the pain was so awful, I would rather choose giving birth to having that kind of torture. Apparently, it was because there was NO blood going to my leg. My foot went cold and numb and purple. On Valentine's Day, I had surgery to try and save my left leg, because I had several blood clots in my
artery in my thigh. After three awful surgeries and more than one week later,
I lost my leg on Feb. 22. I recovered for about 2 1/2 more weeks before being sent home.

The problem is that my income of course, became zero, and my husband's dropped significantly time I was in the hospital as well as recovering. I am at a loss, because we are on the verge of losing our home now. A friend was going to do
a benefit for us, but apparently it isn't happening. I don't know what else
to do, except to see if there is ANY way I can ask for help here at DU. I don't even know how to go about it, exactly. So far I have emailed Skinner, and another good friend here. I can absolutely show that these things have happened, if anyone needs to see that. I have been here at DU for a good while now, and have met many great people here, and many more I would love to meet!

The mortgage is behind about 2400 dollars, thanks to late fees, insurance, and being behind about 3 months. We can't even finish the ramp up to the house, because we are trying to save our money to try and send something to the mortgage folks. My husband still has to help me up and down the ramp until we can afford the concrete leading to the car. It's gravel, and a pain to maneuver through with a wheelchair.

I have three kids still at home, and I am just really scared of losing our home. There are a few smaller bills but so far we have managed to hold them off.

Im more than happy to answer any questions, just send them to me in a DU pm.

(I have no idea if I am allowed to post anywhere else on the forum, because I forgot to ask.)
TexasLady

Here is my Paypal address..
[e-mail]

[LeftyFingerPop]

1. Do you have paypal?

[TexasLady]

2. Yes I do n/t

[LeftyFingerPop]

4. Please post your paypal address, or PM it. Thank you.

[TexasLady]

8. would that be alright to post it here? n/t

[LeftyFingerPop]

13. I think so...others have done it. n/t

[ogneopasno]

3. If you're in a good-sized town,

I would suggest having someone call the local carpenters union on your behalf and see if they'll build the ramp as a volunteer project. They do that all the time up here (in MN).

[FloridaJudy]

5. I'm not sure I can help

I've just tapped out every last friend and relative I have to pay April's rent and utilities. But I'll happily keep this kicked for you.

Any chance you could get unemployment/disability? I've just applied for Social Security myself. It isn't much, but every bit helps.

[KitchenWitch]

6. Kick

I wish we could do more than just kick this.

You are in my thoughts and prayers.

[BlueIris]

7. First of all, terribly sorry for all you have gone through, and the loss of your leg.

(FYI, while it's probably not high on your list of priorities now, you may have a malpractice case re: initial "diagnosis" of sciatica--you might want to look into legal action when you're feeling more secure.)

I have no spare income to give, but I will gladly send all the positive energy I can your way.

[TexasLady]

10. That is also greatly appreciated.

I have phantom pains, but good energies help tremendously!

[graywarrior]

9. Please post your PayPal

[Shell Beau]

11. Honey if I could help you I would! I will keep you in my prayers.

:hug:

[TexasLady]

56. Thank you Shell Beau

I need them all

[ayeshahaqqiqa]

12. sending thoughts and prayers your way

and hoping that something will happen to help you soon.

[momto3]

16. Please post your paypal.

[blueraven95]

14. you should post your paypal info on here

so people can donate.

I can't donate much, but I'll see if I can chip in something.

[TexasLady]

15. here is my paypal address

[e-mail]

is that what I should post? just the email i use there, right?

[LeftyFingerPop]

17. Yes, I'll try it now.

I wish I could send you more.

Good luck to you...stay strong...everything will be alright. :grouphug:

[LeftyFingerPop]

24. Done...best wishes to you and your family. n/t

[TexasLady]

27. Thank you So so much n/t

[LeftyFingerPop]

28. You're very welcome (kick) n/t

[Symarip]

19. I sent you a paypal payment

It's the best I can do right now.

[TexasLady]

23. Yes you did

and thank you for your kind help from the bottom of my heart, Symarip.

[Symarip]

26. The way I look at it

If a 100 people reading this pitch in that much or more, you'll be fine.

And we'll all sleep better tonight.

:)

[blueraven95]

53. I just sent you a little something

sorry, it's not as much as I would like, but it's something.

:hug:

[TexasLady]

58. blueraven95, thank you

so so much. :hug:

[lunatica]

18. kick

[bicentennial_baby]

20. I posted a link to this in GD

I hope more people will see it now. :)

And I'll be sending you some $ in a bit. :hug:

[TexasLady]

25. Oh thank you, I wasn't sure if that was ok,

I appreciate it so much

[bicentennial_baby]

37. Check your Paypal

:)

[Name removed]

88. Deleted message

Message removed by moderator. Click here to review the message board rules.

[bicentennial_baby]

92. !!

:spray:

Thanks for helping out! You rock! :hi:

[redqueen]

21. I wish I could help...

good luck... I'll be thinking of you, for whatever that's worth. :pals:

[bif]

22. Positive vibes are about all I can give

I've been "underemployed" for 4 years now. So I cant send you any money.

[TexasLady]

50. thank you for all things positive

I really appreciate it, bif

[applegrove]

29. (((HUGS)))

[TexasLady]

31. THANK you!!!!

I need hugs right now more than ever...and Im getting them in SO many ways right now.

[AndyA]

30. Check your PayPal.

Bless your heart, I hope things get better for you soon.

[TexasLady]

32. thank you and bless yours AndyA

SO much!

[Droopy]

33. The loss of the leg must be devastating

Then to be facing foreclosure on top of that... I hope we can help you save your house.

[TexasLady]

38. thank you so much Droopy

Im grateful to you. Hugs hugs hugs!!! :hug:

[Haole Girl]

34. Oh no, TexasLady

I'm so sorry about your leg and your loss of income. Have you gotten legal advice on your home? If not, please do so right away, before anything falls further behind. I'll see what I can do to help. Hopefully, you and your family will find the assistance you need to get through this awful time. I'm so sorry you are suffering... I can't even imagine all of the stress and pain you must be feeling.

:hug:

[Haole Girl]

43. Check out this link:

http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/1154354/does_the_homestead_exemption_protect.html

[Inchworm]

35. You are in my thoughts

I cannot donate any money at the moment to get you over the hump but you are in good hands here on DU. There are wonderful people here that are on your side.

During your 2.5 week recovery time you may have met a counsler/therapist/nurse that you became familiar with and became friendly. These folks see situations so often that they may be a source of good information on how to make all the transitions needed to get you back on track. Reach for them when you can.

Hopefully someone already has began all the paperwork to set you up on disability. Once you get all the paperwork settled and begin recieving Social Security Disability Insurance (SSDI) you will get a retroactive payment dated to when you first became in need. Well, that's how it was in '94. I just suggest that if you aren't aware of the status of the paperwork that you find out and stay on top of it.

Stay strong and pro-active until you get all things in order.

I love you.

:hug:

[TexasLady]

36. And I appreciate your love

I started up the paperwork for disability about two weeks ago. It apparently takes a while.

Im also noticing how incredible everyone here is. Im bawling. It's like someone is lifting a huge rock off my body.

[Inchworm]

45. Yup

I love seeing everyone here band TOGETHER to tackle serious stuff. It makes me feel better about humans hehe.

It goes faster if the paperwork is followed up by the hospital, rehab, etc.

A gone leg is actually easier for them to get authorized. (If that makes sense) If you have outpatient therapy use them too. Oh! request massages from hunks hehe. Remember, it is about you when you are there. Milk the staff for all they have in their brains to make your new ways of doing things suit you. It's not all about the money. It's about you.

:hug:

[bicentennial_baby]

46. Awwww...

:hug: You've got enough to worry about, it's good to let us help out. It's one of the better aspects of DU. :)

[MISSDem]

39. This is the perfect example of why everyone must have an

emergency fund.

[LeftyFingerPop]

44. Sure, if you can afford it!

[MISSDem]

55. You can't afford not to!

I mean look at this situation. Even if you start with $5.00 a week or a month, at least start saving.

[Haole Girl]

57. I don't think she needs any lectures from you right now

Perhaps you have never been in her shoes. Don't be so quick to judge. It can happen to anybody.

[TexasLady]

59. well its 'shoe' right now

:D

[Haole Girl]

60. Hey

I'm so glad you can keep your sense of humor. :D :hug:

[TexasLady]

62. Thank you Haole Girl ... Like Popeye..

it only hoits whens I laugh. hehe.

[FloridaJudy]

67. Wanna bet she used it up?

It doesn't take long when faced with a sudden loss of income, particularly in this economy. It took me three years to use up everything I'd saved for over thirty.

I'm too much of a lady to tell you what I think of your advice to those of us who've fallen on hard times through no fault of their own.

If compassion is beyond you, then at least consider learning a few manners.

[KitchenWitch]

68. +1

[susanna]

313. +2 n/t

[helderheid]

69. bravo

[fight4my3sons]

74. Thank you

:hug:

[amyrose2712]

191. Thanks. You said it nicer than I would have.

This kind of thinking is beyond me. I have met people that honestly think people without health insurance choose it and could find a way to pay if they really wanted to. It the same line of thinking. Some people just don't get it.

[msanthrope]

76. I hope that one day, you get to test the limits of your "emergency

fund."

FYI, most people's "emergency funds" are completely wiped out with just one calamity--especially an illness.

[Left Is Write]

82. And what happens when the emergency fund runs out before the emergency does?

Good grief. Don't want to contribute? Don't. But TexasLady made herself very vulnerable by posting this. Give her a break.

[Tangerine LaBamba]

96. Are you out of your fucking mind?

Did you read the OP?

And you're telling this person that she should be saving now?

Saving money she doesn't have?

Get the fuck out of here, as we say in my old Italian neighborhood.

That was a joke, right? No one is that stupid.

Good one.

:thumbsup:

[TooRaLoo]

124. True. Anything is better than nothing. Good point. nt

[northernlights]

141. yeah, right. all you need to do is...

I saved 10% of my income for a decade. And then 50% of my income for another 7 years. My emergency fund, which once ran into the 6 figures, is now almost completely tapped out due to one emergency on top of another. The biggest being years of unemployment thanks to the * economy.

Otherwise I'd be sending a donation. Instead, all I really can afford is :hug: and prayers and blessings for you, Texas Lady.

[TexasLady]

144. I gladly accept

:hug:

[Mira]

156. How do you save for losing a leg?

[KitchenWitch]

61. Nice post, Suze Orman

:eyes:

Insensitive much?

[Gormy Cuss]

71. I'm assuming that you mean well but it comes off as finger-wagging at the OP.

That's not what you meant, right?

[Midlodemocrat]

91. This is a perfect example of

an utterly dickish response.

[My Good Babushka]

332. Next Month-May

I will have fundraiser for you through my etsy store. I give 10% of my shop sales to a different cause that I change every month or so. I am doing the Animal Rescue League this month, but next month is yours! www.mygoodbabushka.etsy.com
I'm sure you'll still have bills next month, too!

[Inchworm]

Awww

That was cute :D

:eyes:

[redqueen]

99. And your post is a perfect example of how people don't think before posting

sometimes.

Good itentions... straight to hell.

[Danger Mouse]

107. This is the perfect example of why god gave us the 'edit' button.

Which you would've used had you been smart.

[guitar man]

112. when you grow up

and you move out on your own, I'm sure you'll find out things aren't so cut and dried out in the real world. A so called "emergency fund" can be eaten up in the blink of an eye when faced with real world situations, especially dire medical problems. Not everyone is a millionaire. :eyes:

[SammyWinstonJack]

117. I have one and it's being used to pay the mortgage. My husband has been

unemployed for five months, is ill and can't work. We have no insurance and he has applied for permanent disability, but that takes awhile and no guarantee that he will be approved without fighting for months. We might lose our home, after we have exhausted our 'emergency fund'. No need for a lecture from you or anyone. x(

[kaygore]

123. Hard to do if you are living had to mouth as too many people are doing

the middle class has been decimated. The MSM would have us believe that we are so over extended because of our profligate ways; however, health care costs and other vital essentials have gone through the roof while salaries have remained stagnant or actually decreased in buying power.

Texaslady's family may have had such a fund but it goes very quickly when something like her medical crisis occurs.

Also, many people had their money in 401ks and the like and have very little cushion now to draw from.

[madamesilverspurs]

129. Some folks CAN'T

have an emergency fund, because the local 'social services' folks will deem it an excessive asset and discontinue benefits. Benefits gone. Emergency fund gone in a few weeks, spent trying to replace those lost benefits.


Next?

[catrose]

212. Right

I was applying for food stamps once, and I was told that because I was a signer on my dying father's bank account (so that I could pay his bills for him), that I could use his money to support myself.

Steal from my dying father...that's a plan...``

[Webster Green]

175. Wasn't that the chimp's solution to health care...just save more?

..Or was it McSame? I can't remember, but it really sucks as a solution.

How the fuck can you save what you don't have? :silly:

[Djinn]

180. in most western democracies

it'd be called social security, paid sick/carers leave, disability pension and national health. I refuse to call the US a developed country anymore, when a relatively common ailment and a short time off work can do this to people.

A nation should be judged on how it treats those at the bottom of the pile and those in need, whilst there's obviously a large number of thoroughly decent Americans, your nation's priorities fucking suck.

Will chuck some $AUS in next payday

[LostinVA]

184. Rubbish -- most people can't afford to do that

"Always have three months salary saved." The majority of people can't do that.

I agree with teh other posters -- show some compassion and 86 the lecture.

[LiberalEsto]

209. You're right

It's hard to save three months' salary when your salary is ZERO.

[ChoralScholar]

312. And when you're a few thousand behind the curve as it is,

that's no time to start saving.. you've got to spend every penny just to get by.

[prolesunited]

40. Perhaps you could contact your local trade unions

to see if they could be of assistance in building the ramp.

I'm very sorry about your situation. Have you contacted all the appropriate agencies? What did the mortgage company say about your situation? If they are unwilling to help, contact your local paper. It would be a good Snidley Whiplash story and maybe you'll be able to leverage the help you need.

You didn't say how old the kids are, but what about food stamps? Are you filing for disability? I'm sure it seems overwhelming. Is there a social services agency or social worker at the hospital that can help you navigate the situation?

Sorry, but advice and good wishes are all that I can offer for now.

[TexasLady]

48. I have applied for disability

The kids still at home are 10, 16 and 19. The 19 yr old is working part time, and of course the other two are in school.

Social workers at the hospital are fabulous, as the whole staff there is. My pain and other meds are free for now.
Mortgage folks are getting demanding, (Greentree) and of course want their money.
Thank you for your good wishes

[msanthrope]

80. Greentree??? Make 'em prove they hold your mortgage

if they start foreclosure proceedings. Try your local Legal Aid, and law schools if they start foreclosure. They are corrupt bastards.

[TexasLady]

86. amen...my husband explained the circumstances and

they told him "well you were behind long before your wife lost her leg'....just like that. They lie, and I agree, they are corrupt jerks.

[OwnedByFerrets]

271. Yeah, what they said!!

[Stephanie]

126. Do you have a lawyer? Pro bono attorneys in Texas >

http://www.texaslawhelp.org/TX/index.cfm
http://texasatj.org/LegalServicesandOth10DA2/36008-LegalServiceRefDirect12%209%2008_combined.pdf
http://www.lanwt.org/
http://www.lonestarlegal.org/
http://www.trla.org/

[eagertolearn]

240. I was thinking the same thing. This shouldn't have been missed!

[CaliforniaPeggy]

41. It's done...

Take care!

:hug:

[Deep13]

42. I'm marking this for later reference. nt

[KamaAina]

47. Your local Center for Independent Living may be able to give you some guidance

now that you've acquired a disability. Centers (I work in one) won't be much help with the finances, but might be able to guide you through the benefits process, and maybe find some group that does make emergency grants. There are over a dozen CILs serving different parts of the Lone Star State. Find yours here:

http://www.ilru.org/html/publications/directory/texas.html

Also, four doctors misdiagnosed you that badly?! Maybe you should see an attorney and figure out which of them to sue.

[TexasLady]

49. believe me, I am thinking about it

thank you very much for the link.

[Inchworm]

52. In some states..

Independant Living is part of the Department of Vocational Rehabilitation. Once you get back on track be sure to check out Voc. Rehab.

http://www.dars.state.tx.us/index.shtml

:)

[distantearlywarning]

65. A second recommendation for voc rehab

I used to work for them. They would definitely help out someone in your situation, although I definitely think you need to get your house stuff under control before you go speak with them.

[barbtries]

51. texaslady

hang in there. i'll see what i can drum up tomorrow after bills and expenses. i'm so sorry you've had to go through this terrible experience.
upthread somebody mentioned disability insurance. make sure you are not covered for loss of a limb. this is a special circumstance. if you are employed you should be eligible - in CA you would be, i don't know about TX.

[TexasLady]

54. thanks barbtries

Im researching all options.

[ConcernedCanuk]

63. Best wishes from way up north - I've been on Social Assistance for most of the last ten years

.
.
.

Best Wishes again from Northern Ontario.

Having dealt with "poor"(me) for over a decade I think I may be able to offer some advice - no - no money though

Utilize any food bank programs available - don't feel guilty about depriving others - most food banks have limits on what each person can receive anyways

DON'T THROW ANY FOOD AWAY - leftovers can be embellished with a new veggie, can of something or a bit of meat . . crock-pots are GREAT for recycling what many would just throw in the garbage.

Check local churches/sisters of charity(nuns) groups for extra support

I had a problem with transportation for a necessary medical treatment a few years back and the Sisters gave me the money - no repayment required.

Keep asking everywhere you can think of

And kudos the the DUers here that have already helped you out

Best wishes for you and yours,

from Canada

[TexasLady]

64. For you ConcernedCanuk..

:hug: :hug:

[polly7]

66. Hugs

I couldn't send much at all and I forgot to convert it to U.S. but I really hope things turn around soon for you and your family.

[TexasLady]

101. thank you polly7

:hug:

[michreject]

70. I'm getting some strange message from PP

Cash Advance to
[e-mail]
This recipient is not yet registered. PayPal will send an email to the recipient explaining how to complete your transaction.


I want to send the money, I just want to make sure you get it.

Help me out here.

[S n o w b a l l]

77. You've got the wrong paypal address

Check it in the OP. There's no 20 in front.

[michreject]

81. Thanks.

You have sent $XX.00 USD to [e-mail].
We have sent you a receipt for this transaction, and an email has been sent to your recipient.

Got it straigthened out.

[Jeroen]

72. TexasLady

I have send you a Pay Pal 'pay request' - sorry, I am Pay Pal novice ;-)
My mistake is corrected and a small donation is on the way.

Take care.

Jeroen

[TexasLady]

83. It turned out fine. Thank you Jeroen

:hug:

[Born_A_Truman]

73. Sending you a little help...

Check your paypal. XXOO

Pat

[TexasLady]

90. Thank you so much

:hug: :hug:

[Debi]

75. Just sent you a PM

:hug:

[MorningGlow]

78. Done

Wish it could be more... Be well, TL. :hug:

[TexasLady]

93. thank you

:hug:

[Starry Messenger]

79. Hugs.

Done and done. :hug:

[asjr]

84. PM me your address. I will have to

send a check. I have no credit cards.

[bicentennial_baby]

85. You can do PayPal with a checking account

:)

[Arkansas Granny]

87. Sent you a little help. I hope things work out for you and your family.

[TexasLady]

102. I have support that's so good Im drowning in it!

And Im talking about family, friends and DU, too!

Thank you Arkansas Granny.

[Midlodemocrat]

89. Done. I'm sorry for your troubles. Hope things turn around soon.

:hug:

[TexasLady]

202. thankyou Midlodemocrat

:hug:

[Pastiche423]

94. Another little bit coming your way

My heart goes out to you. Becoming disabled is tragic enough. Having to worry about keeping your home is a travesty.

Through the generosity of his community, I was able to get a ramp built for my elderly dad who lives 3,000 miles away. I hope the same for you soon.

:hug:

[TexasLady]

98. It is half done

The ramp is built, my DH still has to make the concrete leading to the car, and the handrails. Otherwise it's too scary and dangerous to go down or up alone.
:hug: Thank you.

[Tangerine LaBamba]

95. A bit off topic, but

I hope you will contact your local bar association and find out who in your area specializes in medical malpractice and/or medical negligence matters. Your case, as tragic as it is, needs to be looked at by an experienced attorney who may or may not be able to help you.

I am so sorry for your travails right now. I'm glad you came to DU. This is a good, kind place.

But, call the bar association and then call whomever they recommend. Get as many names as you can, and make sure you like the person you might end up retaining. And, don't worry - this won't cost you a thing. They'll work on a contingency basis.

Good luck................

[TexasLady]

100. we have an attorney friend that doesn't actually do this

type of thing, but can refer us to the ones that can. and there is no doubt that there is no kinder place online than right here.

[pnwmom]

177. I agree about the attorney, but you don't need a pro bono attorney for a case

like this. In a medical malpractice case, a good attorney will usually agree to fund the case for you, then split the award at the end.

I'm very sad AND disgusted that this happened to you. Were they checking your blood flow in your leg when you went to the E.R.? What kind of exams, tests did they do in the earlier visits? As someone who has gone through serious blood clots in my leg more than once, I can't imagine how they could mistake this for sciatica -- IF they used ultrasound to check the blood flow in your leg.

[pnwmom]

178. I would also suggest calling Catholic Community Services in your area.

They can give you numbers to call for emergency assistance where you live. You don't have to be Catholic to get help from them, and they WON'T try to convert you.

Good luck!

:hug:

[Stephanie]

127. State Bar of TX pro bono attorneys >

http://www.texasbar.com/Template.cfm?Section=Pro_Bono

[michreject]

97. Done

[lost-in-nj]

103. I can't get to the link because I don't have outlook

and when I try to put it on it freezes on the last step....

is there some other way to get to the link???

thanks


lost

[bicentennial_baby]

104. Go to PayPal, and

Click on Send Money, and you can paste her email addy is the "To" field. :)

[lost-in-nj]

106. Thanks!

lost

[merh]

105. healing energies and best of wishes sent your way

take care - prayers sent out for you and yours (hope you don't mind).

[TexasLady]

109. I love that!

Thank you and best wishes to yours as well
:hug:

[Danger Mouse]

108. I hope that you're able to keep your home.

:hug:
DUer's are good people. You've come to the right place. It's just that so many people on DU are hurting too right now...
:(

[I Have A Dream]

110. I'm so sorry that this has happened to you and that you have...

to deal with such mundane things on top of it. Where is our society's safety net? :(

I'm happy to send what I can to help. Please take care of yourself, TexasLady.

:grouphug:

[TexasLady]

115. I will , I Have A Dream. I promise

My spirits are high.
:hug:

[UpInArms]

111. ...

:grouphug:

[annabanana]

113. Just a bit sent.. along with LOTS of

wishes that things turn around...

[TexasLady]

114. thank you annabanana

my daughter's name is anna. Beautiful name!

[frebrd]

116. K&R!

[latebloomer]

118. Done

Hope you get everything you need, TL!

:hug:

[TexasLady]

119. TY latebloomer

Me too!
:hug:

[TexasLady]

203. ty and hugs to you

:hug:

[lightningandsnow]

120. I wish I could send you some money.

I'm 17, and I don't have paypal, so I can't, at the moment. I'll ask my dad what I can do, though.

In the meantime, I'm sending you lots of hugs and good thoughts. Hope everything gets better for you really soon. :hug:

[TexasLady]

131. Thank you lightningandsnow

I need those hugs and good thoughts too. And this place is chock full of it!
:hug:

[kaygore]

121. K&R and sent what I could through PayPal

You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. We need national single-payer health care...NOW!

Contact you congressperson's office and see what services are available through money that is being provided to states from the federal government.

Since you live in Texas, you congress person may be a RW ideologue, but it is worth a try. Try both the local office and the DC office.

[AzDar]

122. All the best to you!

:hug:

--- Darlene

[TexasLady]

132. ...

:hug:

[TooRaLoo]

125. TexasLady, I am so sorry about what you're going through.

You're very brave and I wish I could send you some cash. Please keep us updated.

:grouphug:

[TexasLady]

128. Thank you for saying that, but really my family has been brave

They were so scared during this whole thing, not knowing how it would all turn out, while I was doped up on morphine for almost two weeks. I barely remember anything until I was headed for the rehab floor.

I will certainly keep yall updated on things. I want to send pics of the finished ramp with me on it soon!

[DKRC]

130. Keeping it kicked for you

:hug:

And for everyone here :grouphug:

[Jamastiene]

133. Kicking to help keep it in view for help.

:hug:

[BluePatriot]

134. Sent a small amount...

I sent you the chickenscratch that was in my Paypal account because I know you need it more than I do...

Hoping it adds up!

[TexasLady]

136. it absolutely does!

thank you very much BluePatriot.

[myrna minx]

135. My best wishes for you and your family.

:hug:

[TexasLady]

138. thank you so much

and right back at you :hug:

[OneGrassRoot]

137. TexasLady, would you mind posting this at another site as well?

community.wishadoo.net

You can just copy and paste and put it in the "critical needs" category of the discussion forum. A few DUers are already there as well, and this is what Wishadoo was created for...to reach out and help one another.

We're just getting started, so I'll be thinking of a few more ways maybe to help, but posting there is a good start, in addition to your DU home, of course. :)

You'll need to register first to post.

I send you more supportive hugs than you can imagine, and will do what I can to help, as I know others here will as well.

I'm OneVoice there, the site creator.

You are a brave soul.

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug:

[TexasLady]

139. Thank you, I certainly will register and post there as well

And I can never have enough hugs, it helps tremendously!

[OneGrassRoot]

140. I did what I could via PayPal, too. :) Many more will want to help....

thank YOU for opening up and giving us the chance to help, in whatever way we can, even if it's good wishes and hugs.

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

[mimitabby]

142. i gave a little too.

i hope you get lots!

[TexasLady]

145. thank you

Many small ones are adding up and a few bigger ones as well. I am over halfway to where I need to be, thanks to DU'ers. I am smiling and soo happy.

[Why Syzygy]

143. Call 211 .

if you haven't already. They will be able to give you information on local assistance.
In some areas, there are a variety of resources for paying bills and other necessities.

Thanks for sharing your story. I'm so sorry for your situation.

Syz

[TexasLady]

146. I have, and am getting help with food

It isn't a great amount, but it most certainly helps!

[NewJeffCT]

147. I'm so sorry for your problems.

I sent you some money to your paypal address.

good luck to you.

[TexasLady]

148. Thank you so much NewJeffCT

and thank you for your good wishes.
:hug:

[blaze]

149. Wow!

I can't even imagine....

Hope you follow thru with all the suggestions for help, legal and otherwise.

Sent a little help your way.

:hug:

[Roon]

150. I get my check next Friday.

I will send you a bit, not a lot, but enough to maybe buy dinner a night.

[blaze]

151. Bumping up for TexasLady

And thanks to Skinner for letting her ask for help. A tough thing for many of us to do.

[TexasLady]

152. Thank you for bringing that up

I was really scared to death to do this, but decided to just swallow my pride and do what I just had to do, because I could not think of any other choice.
I was very happy that he gave me the go ahead to do this. I am so grateful.
:grouphug:

[nradisic]

153. K&R

Best of luck. My prayers are with you and your family. DU seems to be helping...at least those that can afford to help. That is awesome.

[NMDemDist2]

154. kickety

:hug:

[Dystopian]

155. TexasLady....

My heart goes out to you...

Peace, love and light to you and your family~

[TexasLady]

163. Very appreciated

that is really beautiful btw

[JJ]

157. K&R

[Mira]

158. My heart goes out to you. I so hope this plea will bring enough help to keep you

in your home and bring a little peace of mind in your dire circumstance.
I just sent money. It should have arrived.
You are very much on my mind.

[TexasLady]

162. Yes It has, thank you so much

I am so stunned by all this generosity and well wishing.
:hug:

[Mnemosyne]

159. I have no money to give, but

:hug:

[TexasLady]

161. thank you so much

:hug:

[Iwillnevergiveup]

160. Deservedly kicked.

PM me, please.

[EFerrari]

164. My mom and I have both been fighting off foreclosure for months

so I don't have a dime to send but, you're not alone, Lady. Not at all. :hug:

[TexasLady]

207. For you EFerrari

:hug:

[Dogmudgeon]

165. All I can offer you is sympathy and a wish for good luck

I'm barely treading water myself, also from a medical/financial disaster, but at least my family is doing semi-kinda-sorta-partially okay and can help me. If they weren't around, I'd be sleeping on a bench in Rittenhouse Square Park in downtown Philly.

I hope some of the other DUers can offer more help and better advice than I can.

:hug:

--d!

[TexasLady]

206. thanks Dogmudgeon

My parents want to help, but they are also treading water. My dad is diabetic, nearly 70. SS is keeping them afloat but it doesn't leave them in the position to help us much. Their love and support is definitely there though.
I so hope that things get better for you and your family. Bless you.
:hug:

[AllyCat]

166. I hope this worked. I made a small donation

Good luck to you. I'm so sorry about all this. Many blessings to you and your family as you struggle with this load. I hope things are better soon.

[TexasLady]

200. thank you so much AllyCat

I hope things are better soon too. Things are definitely headed that way!

[bongbong]

167. asdf

I just sent you a bit. Sorry it couldn't be more. I'm helping dig my sister out of a monstrous debt right now...she's in Michigan and I doubt there will be much left in that state in a year or two.

[TexasLady]

201. mucho hugs bongbong

:hug:

[Pithy]

168. Thinking of you

Sending you what I can, along with many prayers.

[TexasLady]

192. thank you

:hug:

[shireen]

169. there is so much more going on here than a looming financial disaster

TexasLady also has to deal with some very serious medical issues. The problem she describes sounds like an arterial thrombosis, where clots form in the arteries. (Most cases of blood clots we hear about occur in veins.) The clots blocked oxygen-rich blood from the heart/lungs from getting into the leg tissue, and the leg tissue became starved and started to die, which led to the amputation. It is outrageous that so many doctors missed this diagnosis, absolutely unbelievable, and if there was ever a good case for medical malpractice, TexasLady's case is it!

If you can afford to help her out financially, please try. She has some really tough medical issues to deal with, and does not need the distraction of worrying about losing her home. Doctors have to figure out what caused the clots because it could happen again if she gets off blood-thinners. She will need specialized physical therapy to deal with the phantom limb pain. She will need help dealing with the emotional trauma of this nightmare.

This is absolutely unbelievable ... outrageous. :mad:

[Mira]

170. Thank you for posting this. You know what I don't, and it helps to understand

a tiny bit about what happened, and ought to hopefully spur us all on to do what we can to help with the survival basics.
Small amounts if there are enough of them, can make a big difference.

[TexasLady]

185. I appreciate this post so much

It really explains the medical issues I am dealing with. Im 45, which is apparently a really young age to have this condition according to what my docs all told me...the ones that got my diagnosis right...I had to have both vascular and ortho docs through all this.

Anyways, you described what Im dealing with so well, and I also want to thank you for your emails.

:hug:

[shireen]

239. i cannot understand why this was not diagnosed earlier

those doctors must be super-incompetent. There should have been some signs to clue them in about what was going on.

For instance, if a clot was blocking blood from feeding the leg tissue, areas of the leg with starved tissue would have felt cold to the touch. There would have been a weak or undetectable pulse. The lack of blood movement should have been obvious in an ultrasound. The fact that they dismissed it as sciatic nerve pain simply boggles the mind.

I'm not a doctor, nor do i consider myself a particularly smart person. But i was forced to learn about blood coagulation issues because i had a similar medical crisis. In my case, the clot formed in a vein and my leg swelled up. My doctor's partner saw me and immediately ordered me to an emergency room and he called them to make sure i got immediate attention. I was damned lucky. My doctor and her partner are excellent doctors. I'm lucky to live in a city that has two major medical schools and a world-class medical research facility (but believe me, despite all that, we still have a few dumb doctors in the area!). I also have a research tool that has changed the way we seek information: google.

I was really really lucky. If i had not been diagnosed so quickly, a piece of that clot could have lodged loose, traveled to my heart or lungs with possibly fatal results.

I am also very lucky because i have a job and good medical insurance. I did not have to worry about money and becoming homeless. To have to deal with a financial crisis in the midst of such a serious medical nightmare is utterly utterly HORRIBLE. There is something seriously screwed-up about a country that allows her citizens to suffer like this. Where is TexasLady's safety net???!

My medical crisis forced me to learn about blood coagulation issues, more than i ever wanted to know. Unfortunately, TexasLady will become an expert in this issue in the next few months as she does the research to understand what happened to her. And she will feel very angry about all the warning signs that were missed by those earlier doctors.

There are some excellent support groups for just about every medical condition that's out there. I found an excellent online support group for my condition, Antiphospholipid Antibody Syndrome. While i was there, i made contact with another DU'er with the same condition and we keep in touch via email to support each other.

Thanks, TexasLady, for telling us what happened to you. Someone reading your OP may someday have the same symptoms. Thanks to you, he or she will recognize the problem and immediately get the right medical care. You will have saved that person's limb, perhaps even his or her life.

:hug:

[fight4my3sons]

197. yes

I thought the same thing :(

[shireen]

241. i am still amazed by how the doctors missed it

are these kinds of missed diagnosis common?

[Sedona]

171. Sending a little love (and a few bucks) from Sedona AZ

:hug:

[TexasLady]

193. hugs

:hug:

[emilyg]

172. Can't give much - hope a little helps

[TexasLady]

188. you bet it does!

:hug:

[wovenpaint]

173. $ent you a little more help

And remember- ask Greentree to PRODUCE THE NOTE!
http://www.consumerwarningnetwork.com/2008/06/19/produce-the-note-how-to/
This could give you some more time...

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[Oldtimeralso]

174. TexasLady

My prayers are with you. I have been down that road and my disability was approved in Dec. 08 and as far as any back money it went to payoff what loans I had from family and friends (and I found out who my real friends were, not just when I swallowed my pride to ask, but when I went to repay them.)

I sent a little amount but my taxes are overdue, my life insurances is past due, car plates due,... but I don't have to worry about a roof over my head. I'll get by, as my late mother used to say things will straighten out by the time your 100. Well I'm over 60% of the way there and I guess I've got 60% of my life straightened out.

Hang In There and keep us informed

[TexasLady]

189. thank you for you prayers

your mother was one smart lady! And I am amazed at the folks that turned out to be true friends in our circle. Thanks for your post and for your help.

[grasswire]

176. maybe Greentree would react to public attention

I, for one, would be happy to write a letter to the CEO of Greentree to advise him of the fact that he is about to own this unfortunate PR disaster for the firm.

I'm sure that others here would also write courteous letters telling of their indignation and shock that Greentree could foreclose on someone in your situation.

Power to the people. Say the word, and we'll do it.

[xxqqqzme]

179. I get my SSI on the 2nd

I can send you a bit then - end of the month is tight for fixed incomes.

I'm glad the hospital had people to help w/ the initial paper work. My daughter got that assistance right away when I was messed up in an auto accident. Thankfully, my state (CA) disability started before I got out of the hospital but then I was there 8 weeks.

Please keep us all up to date on your progress.

[TexasLady]

190. I certainly hope it will happen soon

The hospital social worker seemed to think it would. My bills are already nearly 200,000. Medicaid is sorely needed!
:hug:

[xxqqqzme]

238. Know the feeling....the day I was discharged

I received a bill for $238,000 (and that was in '95). I remember thinking 'a quarter of a million, good thing I have insurance otherwise it would be bankruptcy'.

[mwooldri]

181. This is one of those times where I wish we could do a "proper fundraiser".

This is about as close as we're going to get on DU, as DU needs donations itself just to exist and pay the server bills plus the admin's wages - they made this site their job too.

TexasLady, I just hope that 100 people will pitch in and donate $25 apiece. That may get the mortgage bastards off your back at the very least. I know others upthread have donated so that number of people donating $25 apiece will have dropped and I know it's dropped again (check paypal.com).

That other thread up-post saying everyone should have an emergency fund - I didn't want to dignify that poster with a direct response... in your case it's what's happened when the emergency fund HAS ran out and all the other emergency cash has been tapped.

I wish you all the best with your medical situation. Obviously 2009 is your personal Annus Horriblis (to borrow the words from Lizzie Windsor).

I don't know what the financial situation for your family is going to be like in the long run. I hate to play the devil's advocate at this point and please don't take this as coming off the wrong way. To keep it simple: plan for the worst and hope for the best. Consider filing Chapter 7, plan on losing the home but fight to keep it. The mortgage company may be a bastard but consider calling them daily so they don't call you (fair debt collection practices act generally forbids them calling you if you've made contact with them recently). I wish they'd hurry up with the social security disability claim situation too - once that goes through then it should open up things like Medicaid (maybe) and Section 8 (if it comes to it).

I'm glad you've reached out, and I wish you all the best. At the end of it, you have something more valuable than any house or bills or things: your family. I admire you for fighting for them.

Regards, Mark.

[TexasLady]

186. Such a thoughtful, wonderful post

thank you Mark. We are weighing options about the future. The good news is that DARS as well as a new prosthetic leg, etc will hopefully open new doors for me. They helped my daughter go to college as she is hearing impaired. Im sure they will help me as well with whatever I decide to do from now on.

My hope is that 2009 will turn into Annus Fantasticus from here on out!

[FlyingSquirrel]

182. We've got yer back TL, good luck!

:hug:

[TexasLady]

187. ...

:hug:

[whoopingcrone]

183. thank you, brave Lady...

for getting up the courage to allow us to help.
Sending you the brightest of blessings here,
along with a bit of tangible via Paypal.

[TexasLady]

194. thank you whoopingcrone

:hug:

[Bluenorthwest]

195. I'd like to salute TexasLady

for her courage, and for doing the right thing and asking for needed help. If I can send some later I certainly will, having been in a similar situation. Asking for help is as important as giving it, and in our culture, even harder to do. So here's to you.

[TexasLady]

196. and here's to you

:hug:

thank you Bluenorthwest

[Vinca]

198. Just sent you something with a note, but forgot to mention that you

should look into SSI right away. That would help a little.

[TexasLady]

199. thank you and yes we have done that

we have got that ball rolling for SSI. Hoping to hear something from them either way.

[livefreest]

204. you are in my prayers.

I can't do more but bless everyone who can help.

[TexasLady]

208. I guarantee prayers are needed and appreciated

very much. I am not religious, but I love good thoughts and prayers coming our way. thank you livefreest

[livefreest]

298. we are all in the same boat.

:hug:

[GinaMaria]

205. a resource for you

http://www.angelfoodministries.com/menu_0904en.asp

It's not much but maybe it can help. Another DUer posted it a while back. You can get a box of food for $30.00 that will feed a family of four for a week. It may help stretch the money you have.

[TexasLady]

210. We do have that here, and we have used them before

our food is really ok for now, though. Thank you all the same. I am sure others can use this source as well.
:hug:

[TuxedoKat]

211. Happy to help out

and so sorry for the loss of your leg. You are brave to ask for help and thnnk you for asking
us. There are many wonderful people here at DU and I'm not surprised so many are helping. I'll
send a donation today. Hugs and prayers.

[TexasLady]

215. thank you and hugs right back to you

:hug:

[mirrera]

213. kick

[a la izquierda]

214. Hugs to you and your family

from Oklahoma. I wish I could send you something--but I have no summer income this year, so I have to scrimp now. I'm bookmarking so that when my husband gets paid on Friday I can see how things look...

[TexasLady]

216. thank you for your compassion

We go through Oklahoma twice a year to get our daughter, who lives with her mom in Minnesota. It's as hot as Texas is, maybe hotter!
And much more snow, too!

:hug:

[a la izquierda]

281. And no hope of the sea

:) All we get are dirty red lakes. Bleh!

[TexasLady]

282. oh yeah, I forgot about that

you sure don't have the sea! I didn't know that about yalls lakes, either.
Also, we have gone up I35 and have twice seen the results of tornadoes in or around OKC. But I35 did have one really scenic spot between the border of TX and OKC that was stunning!

And once we drove thru OKC and there was a billboard, I swear, that said in huge bold letters...'I Farted.' :D

[a la izquierda]

283. Hmm, it was probably the...

Wichita Mountains. It is a beautiful wilderness preserve, with buffalo and other animals all over the place. My husband rides his road bike down there.
We're not originally from Oklahoma, so the novelty of tornados has not worn off on my husband yet. Nothing like a looney Jersey boy running off to the top of the OU's parking deck to check out the weather.

At least you didn't see the abortion billboards. Well, living in Texas, you may have. They're the worst.
Chin up and I hope you are having brighter days :)

[av8rdave]

217. Done

All the best!

[TexasLady]

219. Much thanks av8rdave

:hug:

[Corgigal]

218. Sent you some funds

Hubby is disabled and I remember what it was like when it medically hit the fan.

I was thinking, since Easter is coming shortly, I would be happy to ask my son if he has an video games he could send to your kids. Also my daughter has a part time job at ToysRus and might be able to pick up some stuff for the kids at quite the discount. If this is something that would be helpful, you can PM me your address.

I just has a fund raiser on DU several months ago because my pet doggie has cancer. With the assistance of so many good people she got the surgery she needed. I hope you the same success. Try to take care of yourself and let me know if I can help.

[TexasLady]

220. Wow, I had no idea that your dog had cancer

how terrible! I can't imagine how scary that must have been. I have had my oldest dog with us for ten years, so while he is healthy now, time and age eventually cause problems.
Bless you for your help and thoughtfulness of my children. They have been amazing helps around the house, getting groceries, putting them away, doing chores that used to be mine, etc....I am very blessed.

:hug:

[shireen]

242. Sugarbear?

how is that sweet little corgi?

[Corgigal]

259. Yep SugarBear

She's being a nice good girl. Thanks for asking.

[FloridaJudy]

221. One of my KIVA loans from way back when

Was just repaid. I'm sending the refund to you. It's not much, but I know every little bit helps.

[gbate]

222. I would like to help. I clicked on the email address, but I don't know how to donate.

I suppose I'm tech-impaired. Someone please help me, as I would like to make a contribution.

[TexasLady]

223. Hi gbate

It is my paypal email address. you sign up using your own email address with paypal, and you are able to send funds via email addresses of other people who have a paypal acct.

I hope that helps.

[gbate]

225. Thanks. I do have a paypal account. I'm waiting for the funds to transfer.

I hope things turnaround for you soon, TexasLady.

[progressoid]

224. Here ya go...

Go here: https://www.paypal.com/

And click on the 'send money' tab and follow the instructions (there is also a demo if you like).

Of course you'll have to have a Paypal account first. It's easy and painless to set up if you don't already have an account.

[bear425]

226. Paypal sent.

Small donation - big wishes for your recovery.

I know that you have applied for SSI, but when you get denied - and you will - get yourself an SSI attorney right away. It worked for my partner who was denied. From our experience and have heard from others, it speeds up the process tremendously.

Keep the strength knowing that there are people who care about you.

:hug:

[TexasLady]

231. thank you and I will and I do!

:hug:

[sonias]

227. With love TexasLady

A fellow Texan steps up to give you a bit of a hand. I wish you the best of luck and best of health. Take care of yourself, keep your spirit and determination high and you will get through this.

I added a thread in the Texas forum too re-directing people back to your post here.

:hug:

:kick:


Sonia

[TexasLady]

230. This Texan sends you love and thanks

Im so glad to have met you and I appreciate the link too sonias.

[CrispyQ]

228. I'm so sorry to hear about your difficult times!

The best to you & your family, TexasLady. May you see better times soon.

[TexasLady]

229. Thank you CrispyQ for

your good wishes to my family.

[earcandle]

232. I hope you are getting your needs met. Write Obama and Michele, maybe they will help.

Unfortunately, I am hand to mouth myself. 

[frebrd]

233. Kick!

[robinlynne]

234. seding a very tiny bit, hoping that with all the bits together you'll pay the mortgage

payments. sorry it isn't more.

[TexasLady]

235. nothing is tiny! Thank you so very much!

:hug:

[w8liftinglady]

236. I sent a small amount-we're here for each other

"Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around. "-Leo Buscaglia

[TexasLady]

246. thank you very much

w8lliftinglady. A beautiful quote as well.

[Sweet Freedom]

237. Another potentially useful link

Not sure where in Texas you are. This is Houston metro, but you can call them and they may be able to refer you to some helpful agencies near you. I'm assuming you're not yet a "senior", so don't let the name put you off...

http://srguidance.org/

:hug:

[eagertolearn]

243. Thats terrible. Sorry to hear about this. I'll send some today

after my kids get home (I don't know how to use the paypal but they do). Four times to the ER with pain in the calf????? Sciatic pain??? Did you also have pain in your back and hip radiating down to the calf??? There is a reason doctors and hospitals carry malpractice insurance. This should not have been missed. I'm curious..do you have medical insurance?

[TexasLady]

247. No, no insurance

and no back pain. I remember angering the first doctor (that all the other docs must have blindly followed on diagnosis) because I joked about his youthful looks to him. Guess he couldn't take a joke? ( a nurse came in later when the doctor left and said 'dont sweat it honey, we ALL call him Doogie Howswer) He said, what's the matter, did you think it was a clot of something? trust me, if it was I wouldnt be sending you home.'

well HAHA Doogie.

[iamthebandfanman]

244. whats sad is

there are thousands upon thousands of people going through these same situations now.

medical bills ontop of other bills compacted by loss of employment...


and then people wonder why democrats want to take on health care reform during these hard times.

[TexasLady]

248. You are so right

I met many on the Rehab floor.

[1gobluedem]

245. I sent a little something just now

I just had a little good fortune come my way, I'm happy to pay it forward.

Best of luck to you and your family. :hug: to all.

[TexasLady]

249. And I will most certainly pay it forward

as soon as I can. Thank you.

[cherokeeprogressive]

250. I wish I could have sent more. Good luck to you and your family.

Keep your chin up and don't give up hope. I can tell by the responses on this thread that you're probably feeling the metaphysical hugs you've been sent.

I'll keep you in my thoughts.
chris

[TexasLady]

252. Thank you so very much cherokeeprogressive

I am beyond words to describe it. but this is me -----> :D

:hug:

[go west young man]

251. Sorry about your situation. I sent a small donation. I hope it helps.

I love when DU does things like this. It proves that together we can make a difference.

[TexasLady]

253. Yes it certainly does. I have seen it before and was able to

help once in a small way myself. Feels awesome!
:hug:

[TexasLady]

254. It is getting really close now to what we need

for the mortgage and I cannot thank everyone enough for their generosity, prayers, kind words, etc. I can't believe how quickly this has all happened! Just wanted to give an update on how things are going.
:hi:

[Stephanie]

255. I wish you the best of luck

I wish I could send money but I'm in a bind at the moment. Please look upthread though for the links to pro bono (free) attorneys I posted. I think you should seek legal advice immediately.

[1gobluedem]

256. Great news

Thanks for the update. I hope the rest comes in too.

[TexasLady]

257. We have enough to cover the overdue mortgage now, and even a little towards the ramp!

I don't think that the ramp will be much more, either. My husband told me that you buy concrete by the yard, and that the gravel spot where my car sits needs to be on concrete as well (the joys of country livin'!) He said about 400-500 should finish the ramp nicely, and we are then going to be okay. Im so happy and SO relieved that this is all really happening!

:grouphug:

[cherokeeprogressive]

263. Texaslady, I'm sure there are many DU'ers who are relieved right along with you.

There is much compassion on this site. I know, because before Christmas I vented in GD about my mom's breast cancer with tears in my eyes, but went to bed with a smile on my face after reading the replies. DU'ers made it all better with their kind words.

Much good luck to you. I'm glad you're able to smile.

I hope your driveway gets fixed soon!

[I Have A Dream]

258. Kicking it back to the top. nt

[sufrommich]

260. Hope my little bit from Michigan helps,TexasLady.

What a tragic age we live in. :cry:

[TexasLady]

268. Thank you. absolutely it helps!

I appreciate each and every one of you so much, I feel very loved.

[Flaxbee]

261. Texaslady, please let us know

how you are. I wish I could help you right now, I really do.

Here's to much better times for you, very soon. I hope you can get caught up.

On another note, I saw today on MSNBC that some banks are just walking away from foreclosures - I don't know your situation, but your bank may be willing to negotiate a bit. (Perhaps you've done all you can; I don't mean to state the obvious).

All my best thoughts to you and your family.

[TexasLady]

267. wow I didnt know that!

I am in a single wide...It is terribly depreciated from new ten years ago.
Thank you very much for your very kind thoughts.

[tbyg52]

262. What is it that one does with the email address in the OP? nt

[cherokeeprogressive]

264. It allows people to send monetary donations through a PayPal account. n/t

[LeftyFingerPop]

265. You have to go into your paypal account...

and then you can send money to that address.

Paypal will use your credit card or checking account to send money to anyone using their email address.

[tbyg52]

266. Thanks. I don't have a PayPal account - question

Do they keep your credit card on file after you've set one up? (I don't like having my credit card info on any more computers than I can help....)

[LeftyFingerPop]

270. Your credit card number becomes part of your Paypal account.

The account is under a secure connection.

To the best of my knowledge, Paypal account information has never been compromised, but someone may be able to speak up on this better than me.

Paypal has been around a long time and is used for ebay, etc.

Note: You can use your checking account also.

[pipoman]

273. Paypal is an online banking source, the largest.

They have been around for years (I have had my account since 1999) and have proven to be secure. They are owned by eBay now. Used correctly paypal can give you quite good security for online purchases. Many online merchants accept paypal payments. If you can limit the number of online sources with your banking info/cc numbers you are more secure. You pay for goods by transferring through the paypal account. The only thing the online merchant gets is payment and your email address. Paypal also has Master Card debt cards available. I use mine for online purchases which do not accept paypal directly. I transfer enough money from my bank account into my paypal account to cover the purchase, then pay with the debt card. This way I never have any money available if I were to get scammed by an online merchant. Again the only online company who has any of my cc card or bank info is paypal.

[tbyg52]

294. Thank you very much for the info. I will look into that. nt

[pipoman]

269. Done, Best wishes

[TexasLady]

272. thank you pipoman

:hug:

[dixiegrrrrl]

274. My dear lady...about disability income..

Mr. D. got on Soc. Sec. disability, he was qualified, no doubt, and you are qualified, no doubt,
His application went smoothly, it took 13 months with everything going right.
Huge back settlement, tho.

I say that to give you some idea of expectations. It may be less time for you since you have all the medical records available, while we had to wait to see one of their docs.

We live in a small rural Ala. town, so the "bureaucracy" was much nicer than in a big city.

I will pm you.

[TexasLady]

275. Got your pm, check yours dixiegrrrrl

crossing my fingers about disability...

[LeftyFingerPop]

276. Kick. n/t

[ornotna]

277. Done

Hope your luck turns. Wishing you the best.

[TexasLady]

279. Thank you so much ornota

It is turning as we speak!
:hi: :hug:

[Schema Thing]

278. If you are in the DFW area, I might be able to help build your ramp

pm me if so.

[TexasLady]

280. check your pm n/t

[Mrs. Venation]

284. Bertha and I

wish you the very best. We wish we could have sent more money than we did, and we want you to know that we will keep you close to our hearts.

Mrs. V.

[TexasLady]

285. Thank you Mrs.V and Bertha, it was recieved..

It is so appreciated!
:hug:

[Mrs. Venation]

286. Kicking

Because many of us have needed help at some point in our lives.

:kick:

[I Have A Dream]

287. Kick. nt

[OPERATIONMINDCRIME]

288. Hi TL.

Do you still need more? I just came across this now and absolutely would like to help if you still need more. If not, then huge hugs to ya anyway and a huge smile for knowing this worked out for you! If you do need some more, how short from the goal are you?

:hug:

[TexasLady]

290. Hi OMC, I am very close.

I have enough to cover my mortgage, and am about $325 shy of getting the ramp built.
(Can I still take the hugs anyway?)

[blaze]

292. Hooray!!!!

I am SO glad your mortgage is covered for now!!!! That is wonderful news!

Have you looked into any carpenter unions, or the like, to see if they can help with the ramp?

:hug:

[TexasLady]

300. Nothing close by

and the approval process takes a really long time from what I have read online. Im just in a really small town.

[Lil Missy]

295. That is great news! kicking so I can get back to this later.

[frebrd]

289. Kick!

[Mrs. Venation]

291. Kick!

:kick:

[Arkansas Granny]

293. Kick.

[knixphan]

296. KICK.

Just got wind of this! Will carve something out on friday.

[Mike 03]

297. Kick. How are the donations going? Any idea how much more you

need at this point?

[I Have A Dream]

299. See post 290, which is from just a few hours ago. nt

[Mike 03]

302. THANK YOU. I see it. Much appreciation. NT

[bear425]

301. Hello again and kicking this thread.

Hope you are doing ok.

[Mike 03]

303. Okay, how do I do this? I managed, amazingly enough, to remember how to sign into my PayPal

(Edit, nevermind, I think I am figuring this out...)

[Mike 03]

304. Last Question, how to fill out the PayPal form

Is this for "Good" "Services" or one of the other choices? "Cash advance?"

[rurallib]

305. Can't do much right now but give you a kick.

[Mike 03]

306. Please, all I need to know is how to fill the PayPal form out.

Is this Goods, or Services/Other, or Cash Advance? (I know it's not ebay, right?)

Please tell me so I can execute the transaction.

[Mike 03]

307. Okay, no help or answer forthcoming, I'm going to try to put this through as..

services/other, because I don't understand the others and think that "other" is the only one that makes sense.

[DeepBlueC]

319. I had trouble figuring that whole thing out myself

I tried to leave it blank, but, no. "Other" is always a useful option. Pain in teh ass.

[DeepBlueC]

320. Poor Mike 03

Only asking for help to help out and you can't get an answer. I'm sorry no one stepped up. I think that all the people who actually knew how to use that PayPal thing had come and gone by the time you got lost in the not-so-self-evident. I had to open and cancel and open an account again before I could get it to do what everyone said was so simple.

[TexasLady]

322. I for one can say that I appreciate yalls perserverence! ty n't

[Mike 03]

308. I hope that went through. Please at least let me know it worked. NT.

[TexasLady]

309. Well Mike 03, It sure DID go through, and my ramp is gonna look GOOOOD!

You got us over the final hump and I cant tell you how happy I am right now! I am doin a butt dance in my wheelchair right now!!

:hug: :hug:

[Mike 03]

310. Awesome, I so happy it went through and that all of us at DU

could help.

Thank you for letting me know it worked. I was getting worried...

You are in all of our hearts.

Please keep us all posted on how you are doing!

[TexasLady]

311. I just want to again thank the kindest hearts there are in the world

Members, non Members, from different countries, lurkers, and anyone else out there that has sent donations, prayers, good thoughts, and hugs..There are a few that wanted to send to me snailmail, and that will help with the smaller things that need to be caught up.

I am SOOO happy! I can't believe how many people came to help me and my family when we needed it! May each and every person involved be blessed, get wonderful karma, get help when you need it too, and ask that when I can, I too can pay it forward.

I am one lucky lady, and I want to give out this to every single person that swung by to read this, and then showered us with love, and gifts of all kinds.....:grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug:

:grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug:

[Phentex]

314. Your first post made me cry...

but I am so glad you reached out for help and I am thrilled at the way this community came together to support you.

Continued good wishes!

:hi:

[TexasLady]

315. Oh no! I am sorry I made you cry

Then again, I burst out quite a few times on this thread because of the incredible help and support my fellow DUer's have given my family and me.

There's no better place on the internet.
Thank you for the good wishes, and the same to you!
:hi:

[barbtries]

316. you're welcome texaslady

hopefully it will be enough to keep you in your home. all the best for a rapid recovery.

[Crabby Appleton]

317. Best wishes to you and your family

:hug:

[DeepBlueC]

318. Sending you a little help

Your situation really touched me...I'm so glad that you reached out to DU. :grouphug:

[UndertheOcean]

321. done , wish I can afford more ... Please take care of yourself.

:hug:

[TexasLady]

326. ty UndertheOcean

:hug:

[UndertheOcean]

329. You should sue the doctor that did not catch this soon enough , they should be held accountable

you are welcome.

[tabbycat31]

323. I can't afford to help right now

as I am barely getting by myself. But I will send hugs and positive thoughts your way.

I read through the whole thread and I'm amazed at all the help that this forum has given you, I really am. It just shows how we can all come through as a family when one of our own is in need.

[TexasLady]

324. as am I! It is amazing what wonderful people this forum

has,and it certainly has made me proud to be a part of it.
thank you tabbycat31 for your hugs and good thoughts
:hug:

[UndertheOcean]

325. kick

[DeepBlueC]

327. kick

:kick:

[trueblue2007]

330. Kick

[trueblue2007]

328. I will send you what $$ I can Texas Lady

Of course you are in my prayers!!! If I had more, I'd send it.


God Bless you dear.

[TexasLady]

331. Hugs trueblue2007

:hug:

[My Good Babushka]

333. I hit "reply" in the wrong place!

Like I said above- I am having a drive for the Animal Rescue League this month. But next month I will give 10% of my etsy shop donations to your cause! Here is the address so you can spread the word. www.mygoodbabushka.etsy.com

[TexasLady]

334. I checked out your site

and there are some lovely things in your shop.

[question everything]

335. Kick

Do I have to have my own paypal account to help?

[Hawkeye-X]

336. Hi TexasLady

I'm sending some money as we speak. I know it's not much, but it'll edge you closer to getting the ramp.

And I hope you sue the bastard doctor for all he's worth. Loss of limb is a terrible thing!

And many wishes and love from our family to your family.

Hawkeye-X

[TexasLady]

340. Hi Hawkeye

I will be checking into my chances for success in suing the bleep bleep doc that started this whole thing. And thank you for your kind wishes and help.

[Inchworm]

337. So happy

that our "band of brothers (and sisters)" were there for you.

That is a good nightcap.

:*

:hug:

[TexasLady]

341. Yes it most certainly is!

And it hasnt stopped!

[terisan]

338. Hope this little amount helps---hang in there. Better days are coming. nt

[TexasLady]

342. Of course!

I am about to send pics of the progress of the ramp, concrete, etc...better days are definitely coming!

[knixphan]

339. KICK!!

And a little something from L.A.

Love & Love, keep the chins up!

[TexasLady]

343. here are some pics of the progress

This is the ramp, my dog, and in the background no concrete yet




This is my daughter's imprint on new concrete




back of husband and friend, who did my new rails for just my size!!
Husband is adding top rails..My goal is to use the top ones with prosthesis
soon!





and, again, me.

[Haole Girl]

344. Thank you for the update and the pics!

Will you and your family be ok, financially, from this point on? I hate to pry, but I am worried also. :hug:

[TexasLady]

346. I truly believe we will

I am kinda worried, but also SO grateful too. We have been incredibly blessed with help from all corners and areas.

:hug:

[bicentennial_baby]

345. woohoo!

:bounce: