This Week I Have been 'Chastised' by 2 close friends

[Parche]

I am so ^%$@#(*^%)(*&*()%$ tired of people thinking they know what is best for me
who I should be seeing, what I should be doing, and what I should not be doing
I have enough to think about without that
:grr: :grr::grr: :grr:
:nuke: :nuke: :nuke::nuke::nuke: :nuke: :nuke:

[TZ]

1. I'm sorry Parche

I've been there.what makes it frustrating is that you know they mean well but.....:hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

2. My dear Parche...

I am more than sure they meant well, that they were trying to really help...

Try to see it in that spirit, OK?

I'm sorry, sweetie...

:hug: :hug:

[JitterbugPerfume]

3. what Peggy said......

[ThomCat]

4. Parche, I hope your life is moving in a good direction

and I hope good things will happen to you, for you, and around you. :hug:

I'm sorry you have people attempting to tell you how to live your life. Only people who are there with you day by day, laughing and crying and working and playing with you, sharing their life with you, should have any say in what you do with your life.

Please be well. :loveya:

[Parche]

6. Hey

Good to see you, havnt seen you around in a while!!

:hug: :hug::hug::loveya:

It just got to me, people telling me how to live my own life

[ThomCat]

7. I've missed days, stuck in bed.

And when I've been able to get out of bed I haven't been coherent enough for DU. So I've been non-existent this past week or so.

I've got a little bit of time up and aware today though. So I'm stopping in. :)

[libodem]

5. That hurts

I've been on the receiving end of free advice and it sucks. However, most real friends won't venture into that territory, unless they feel they trying to help you. And I think our protective and defense mechanisms go into overdrive with denial, etc. (I can't remember the rest of them) to prove the attackers wrong. Sometime when I've been in counseling or had someone point out a less than flattering behavior, I would go right into shell mode and think they were full of shit. After a couple of days what was said would start to have a ring of truth and it was less painful to examine. Your story may no similarities to mine, so I may be full of shit too. Just give it a little time to sink in and don't impugn the motives of your friends too, quickly. They just might have some insight.

Love you,

Fellow DU'er

[Flaxbee]

8. uh oh. hope it wasn't me

in that PM? Don't want to be bossy, just want you to be careful of your heart. I apologize if I upset you.

[Parche]

11. hey flaxee

NO.............it wasnt you

you are always the best :hug: :hug:

its a friend that i have known for 18years, and one for 8

:hi: :hug:

[skygazer]

9. Here's what you should do....

That's a joke (lame type).

Yeah, I know - people like to give advice. All I can say is try to take it in the spirit it's probably meant. :shrug:

[Bucky]

10. Well that's what you deserve you naughty naughty boy.

When people piss you off, the universe is trying to teach you a lesson. Usually that lesson is "pay less attention to these people."