I can't sleep...partly because I'm so pissed about my family. a rant.

[ButterflyBlood]

I went to my cousin's wedding Saturday. It was both the second wedding for both her and the groom, so it wasn't a very elaborate ceremony. It actually happened in the restaurant the reception was in. They just had a minister come in, quick ceremony, about 20 minutes, then on to the reception. Honestly, that's the way I like it. But the thing I noticed, her dad, my uncle didn't come. We had no clue why. Then I found out today...he had a DUI on the way there. And it was his third so they wouldn't release him. And I'm thinking WHAT THE FUCK, yes I know he had a drinking problem but what type of person gets drunk the afternoon before their daughter's wedding? Worse of all he got pulled over in Dakota county, the same county as the reception, so even if he made it he would still be drunk, and I was joking about how irreverant I was there in my jeans and T-shirt and torn band hoodie, but this guy is now coming to his OWN DAUGHTER'S WEDDING drunk. And of course his divorced ex-wife, her mother doesn't bother either. And I'm reading up on how tough Minnesota's DUI laws are for a third offense and I'm thinking good, even though it's a guy who I should be sympathetic for, I've always gotten along with him at every family meeting. He always seemed like a swell guy, I know he had his personal issues, but now I'm thinking about how shitty one could be. And I learn all this from my very upset grandmother at around 8AM last morning, very early from me, she wanted the number of the people my parents were staying with because they wouldn't answer on their cell because they too were sleeping and now she's a complete wreck and seemed somewhat unhappy at the wedding too over this. After her husband, my grandfather died about 6 years ago and then about 3 years ago another one her sons did in a car accident, because he was driving drunk too. After he divorced his wife because both of them were cheating on each other. It seems only my dad and his twin sister didn't end up fuck ups and I'm wondering what she's thinking.

And I'm not even that close to my cousin, she's almost 10 years older than me so it's not like we played together as kids or anything but as happy as she seemed Saturday I have to wonder now what she really felt like and what her next call to her father will be like and I'm just pissed that anyone I'm related too could be so shitty and now I see how much of a rambling this was. Sorry.

[Droopy]

1. It's alright to ramble, BB

Just getting it down on paper can help a little. I bet your uncle would be a cool guy if he wasn't an alcoholic. Maybe what happened on his daughter's wedding day will be the wake up call he needs. But, yeah, it's a shitty way to learn a lesson.

[TZ]

2. Sorry to hear about this

but weddings seem to bring out the emotional issues in families alot. The day AFTER my sister got married in 1988 my Uncle tried to suicide. And yes, he had been at the wedding.