So if I am cordial to my ex he calls my friend and tells her he thinks

[mcctatas]

we will be getting back together, but if I am a bitch he complains to the kids about me the whole time the kids are with him, :wtf:

[nomorenomore08]

1. Sounds like one of those people who just can't be satisfied, no matter what.

:grr:

[Midlodemocrat]

2. Of, FFS, just do him and get it over with.

:hide:

[AirBaud]

3. He complains when you're a b**ch?

What an a-hole.

[mcctatas]

6. um, I don't complain about him to the children...

We are supposed to be fecking adults here! FFS!

[CreekDog]

4. get an attorney

that'll cost him. :P

[CaliforniaPeggy]

5. My dear mcctatas!

Can you be neutral? Not cold, not too cordial...?

I'm sure he won't know what to make of that, lol!

:P

[mcctatas]

7. I guess I thought cordial was neutral...

apparently I was wrong :crazy:

[mentalsolstice]

12. Cordial is a liqueur, right?

Just messing with you! :evilgrin:

[MrsBrady]

8. sounds like the kind of guy who wants it both ways

and had double standards.

Of course you want him back, that's why you just divorced his ass, right? :sarcasm:
And any man who thinks that just because you are cordial, means you want him back???
Big ego problem with this guy? :eyes:


I say be nice, let him be the idiot. Let it be on his karma (matter of speaking), and not yours.
And I would tell him to cut that crap out about talking bad about you...not really about you...it's for the kids.
Oh, but that would make you a bitch, right? :sarcasm:

Living well is the best revenge.

[rurallib]

9. Blindfold and deafen him for any interactions.

[Iggo]

10. Be cordial. Everybody wins but him.

[Haole Girl]

11. I'm going to tell you something, as a child of divorce parents, and it is so true:

Children remember which parents speaks ill of the other. They usually end up just pitying that parent. They are NOT fooled by it. I repeat: They are NOT fooled.

:hug:

[SPKrazy]

13. Say little to him

cordial in a few words kind of way, all business.

If he complains, you may want to talk to your lawyer and I don't know if you are mandated to see a counselor or mediator or take a parenting through divorce class. Putting you down, is actually demeaning him in your kids eyes because they love you and want to protect you and here he is dissing you. It is at the same time conflictual for them to have that anger at him because he is their father. He needs to stop because it is bad for the kids. No other reason and he needs to quit being an ass.

If need be, Guido can break some kneecaps :P

[jobycom]

14. No point in worrying about it. Whatever you do will be interpreted by him to his advantage.

Be who you are, let him come to his own realizations as they dawn on him. You can't control him, so there's no point worrying about him. Just binds you to him longer, which is probably what he's trying to do in the first place.