How often do you call your spouse or SO when he/she is at work?

[1gobluedem]

My assistant's wife must call him 20 times a day on his cell and he takes the call every single time no matter what is going on. 95% of the time it's something that can wait. She calls to ask him to look at the weather radar because it's getting cloudy, she calls to say the first iris spears are peeking through the ground, she calls just to say hi.

The other day I walked into his office to find him with his feet up on the desk, happily discussing whether or not to put pineapple in some recipe. Neither his wife nor his daughter seem to understand that most of this can wait until non-working hours; when they think of something they just grab the phone and call.

Is this typical? I have a long-term SO and I never do that, nor does he call me incessantly at work. He calls me at HOME just because, he might e-mail me something, he calls once in awhile when I'm at work but not this steady barrage of calls. I asked him once what he would do if I called him that often with that type of stuff and he replied "You'd only do it once."

But I see it all the time, not just with my assistant. One of our employees comes in and immediately calls his wife, even though he just saw her less than an hour before, and spends about 30 minutes chatting with her.

Is it a cellphone thing or is something missing in my relationship? Do these couples love each other so much they can't bear to go without hearing each other's voices all day?

I'm perplexed.

[Shell Beau]

1. My husband calls me once a day. Usually in the morning because

he leaves for work way before I even get out of bed. That is it, unless there is something going on where we need to talk more.

[myrna minx]

2. I had a coworker who always claimed to never have time to finish her work, yet

she was ALWAYS on the phone with her husband. They spoke at least 10 times a day--quite like your situation. I never understood that. I understand if you have something going on with your kids-like coordinating picking up from school etc, but my god, you'd think they lived in different countries and never saw each other with the amount of codependent calling they did to each other every day. :shrug:

[Rosie1223]

3. My husband and I only call occasionally during work hours

and then only if it's something that won't wait until the evening.

I'll usually hear from one of my kids, via text, daily verifying afterschool plans, but that's it.

I also have a coworker that is constantly on her cell phone. I'm waiting for the boss to get fed up with it and ban cell phone usage throughout the office. <Rather than just tell her to get off the phone and back to work!>

[redqueen]

4. I would hardly ever do that unless I absolutely had to.

My ex used to call me incessantly when he was in a bad mood.

[Lyric]

5. We call each other a lot.

She works at a convenience store, so she has lots of downtime in between "rushes." We like to hear each other's voices a lot.

:)

[La Lioness Priyanka]

6. often

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

7. Usually at lunch

The only time we talk frequently on the phone is if a major house issue is going on or something.

[seemunkee]

8. Usually only once per day

To find out when she is leaving so I can start supper.
We email frequently but can reply or ignore as time provides.

[skygazer]

9. Almost never

When we're at work, we're working. Sometimes there will be something we need to contact the other about but in those cases, it's a quick conversation.

I know people like that too. It would drive me crazy frankly. I adore my husband and love to be with him but I don't pine away and die when we're not together. :shrug:

[JohnnyBoots]

10. We'll text a note or two a couple times a day if we get time. Nothing near that invasive.

I think your workplace needs to look at their policies regarding personal phone use use vs. work place productivity.

[Heidi]

11. Rarely, rarely, rarely. For one thing, I don't wanna talk to him when he's working;

it distracts him and it nerves me when I sense that he's not engaged. By the same token, he doesn't wander out into my studio and get in the middle of whatever I'm working on. It's a matter of mutual respect between us. There are times when it's okay to get in one another's work spaces but we navigate that by vibe. It's certainly not a regular thing.

[Arkansas Granny]

12. I don't understand making/receiving personal phone calls at work.

When I was married, the only calls that would be put through to my husband were emergency calls and the woman at the switchboard would even ask what was the nature of the emergency before she transferred the call to his department. I don't think I called him at work more than 3-4 times in ten years. That was before the days of cell phones.

Later, as a working, single parent my kids would call me in the afternoon when they got home from school to check in. I had discussed this routine with my boss beforehand and he had OK'd it. Other than that, they were not to call me at work unless it was an emergency. Also before the days of cell phones.

I work in a more relaxed office now, but I still don't feel right about personal calls at work. I probably don't make/receive 3-4 personal phone calls a month and I keep them short. My co-worker, OTOH, makes/receives 20-30 calls a day from family and friends on both her cell phone and the office phone. If she is on her cell phone, she won't answer the office phone line. She just lets it ring until someone else picks it up. It just drives me nuts.

[Left Is Write]

16. I think it depends on the nature of the work.

My husband spends more time out of the office than in, and his cell phone is the only one he answers (his assistant answers the office phone), so I could call him whenever I wanted to. I just don't, because I don't have a reason to.

[FedUpWithIt All]

13. We talk a few times a day.

And it is sometimes about goofy things like dinner recipes. I dunno, i like to talk to him. :shrug:

It is usually during his breaks and lunch, unless they are having a slow day.

[MrsBrady]

14. depends

he travels, and I'm in college.

so...
If' he's traveling, I try not to bug him unless I know he's waiting on a plane or driving in the middle of nowhere.
if he's at his bench in town, i try to limit it to once, unless there is something going on.

he'll usually call me in the afternoon if he hasn't heard from me.

sometimes we text or IM if we are both free.

[Left Is Write]

15. It's not a cell phone thing. I almost never call my husband during the day.

He occasionally calls me, but usually not.

[mentalsolstice]

17. 2-3 times per week

He probably calls me at home about the same amount. Conversation is usually less than two minutes. We've been together for 19 years...:shrug:

[rcrush]

18. Fire him

If you dont then he and the others employees will keep doing it. They either think you dont give a shit or they dont give a fuck if you care.

[fizzgig]

19. we never call each other at work

but that's more because neither of us have a job we can interrupt to take a phone call. we do text throughout the day, though.

[gbate]

20. I hardly ever do unless it's very important.

I have a co-worker who sounds like your assistant. It's not only her husband, it's her 3 grown sons and 1 teen son. Not to mention her mother, sisters, etc... Oh, and it's never on the cellphone. She prefers to tie up one of our two company lines to gab.

Annoying!!

[Rambis]

21. "thanks sweety I just called to here your voice sweatheart"

:puke: this is a typical call of the 55+ cube rat next to me and her husband of 30+ years-
record... 17 times in one day with similar nauseatingly chunderous themes-

[Dappleganger]

22. That's not normal.

she sounds like a needy psycho. You should make it clear that when he's working that this is not acceptable. It's nowhere near what normal people do.

When my dh was working we spoke sometimes once a day, always at the beginning of lunch (usually as he's walking to his car) for just a few minutes. We email maybe once, that's it. If he's busy I never, ever call unless it's a life-or-death emergency. I don't want to distract him and yet understand he wants to know what's going on with the family as well. There is a balance.