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Mr. Ected Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-05-10 02:11 PM
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How did you propose...or how were you proposed to?
My (now) wife and I had made some grandiose plans in spring of 1993, to get married in a small town in Switzerland later that year. The planning and scheming was as exciting as the wedding itself. At some point in time, probably a month before the wedding trip, it dawned on me that I had never actually proposed to Shelby...so I bought an engagement ring, took her on a drive to the north Georgia mountains, hiked a path alongside a waterfall, dropped to a knee, and popped the question.

Then the pain.

I had knelt on broken glass. Not smart. A bit bloody, but memorable, nonetheless.

How was it for you?

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CaliforniaPeggy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-05-10 02:17 PM
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1. My dear Mr. Ected!
Now, there's a wonderful story!

Mine is nowhere near as romantic.....quite the opposite, in fact...

We were pre-engaged; pinned actually. I had his Phi Beta Kappa key on a chain around my neck. We knew we were going to be married, but...

He hadn't proposed.

So. One day, we were out driving someplace, and this dialogue ensued:

Me: Are you ever going to propose?

Him: Maybe. You won't turn me down, will you?

Me: Probably not.

And that was IT. We finally decided that we would be engaged when I got my wedding ring. I had a local artist make me one and so when it was ready, I wore in on my right hand. THEN we were engaged...

Married 45 years this last June!

:hi:
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Common Sense Party Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-05-10 02:26 PM
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2. In an empty mansion, kneeling down, her eyes closed, recited a poem
in Spanish, the last line of which was "will you be my wife?"

She said yes.

Then we danced.
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dr.strangelove Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-05-10 02:28 PM
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3. Quiet moment at a crazy place
Wanted something special, so I took her to a crowded insane place, Rock Center at christmastime. In the midst of thousands of tourists and tree gawkers, I stopped her, pulled her in, planted a big kiss on her, asked her if she wanted do this thing forever, gave her a ring, she said yes and then we shared a hot pretzel and a snapple iced tea in the subway. Some people are moutaintop sunsets, but me and my wife are shut out the city and enjoy each other, even if its for 20 seconds when we get squeezed together on the rush hour 4 train commuting in the morning. It was perfect for us. Our most tender moments are often in crowded places when we both think the same thing or finish a thought for the other.
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zipplewrath Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-05-10 02:38 PM
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4. Kinda wierd
But she loved it. She had a note pad on her dashboard I had made that said "from the dashboard of...." with her name on it. She takes ALOT of notes while she drives (shopping lists, etc.) So I had new ones made up with her last name replaced with mine. Gave 'em to her when we woke up in the morning one Saturday. She got it right away. Then I pulled out the box with the diamonds next and asked officially. When she tells the story, she always stops after the note pad. I have to mention that I also had the stones, so the ladies can start smiling.
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frogmarch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-05-10 02:41 PM
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5. On our first date
-a blind date - we were were looking at algae slides through his microscope, and we both suddenly KNEW we were right for each other. We hadn't even kissed.

He said, "I think we should -"
"Get married? So do I."

Two weeks later (45 years ago tomorrow) we were. :-)
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mnhtnbb Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-05-10 02:55 PM
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6. WOW! Great story.
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mnhtnbb Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-05-10 03:00 PM
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8. Oops. Posted wrong place.
Edited on Thu Aug-05-10 03:03 PM by mnhtnbb
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uncommon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-05-10 02:58 PM
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7. WOW, that's amazing.
Good for you :)
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frogmarch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-05-10 03:28 PM
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12. Thanks. :-)
Now we laugh at how silly we were to have married so quickly, but neither of us regrets it.

I was 21 and he was 23.

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femmocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-05-10 07:32 PM
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13. Happy Anniversary, frogmarch!
Best wishes to you both! :hi:
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mnhtnbb Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-05-10 03:03 PM
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9. We had been to a concert and came back to his house. We were sitting around talking.
All of a sudden he gets up, goes to the kitchen, opens the broom closet door and gets out
a single red rose, wrapped with a red ribbon, and asks me to marry him. Followed up with
"we should get you a ring".

OK! I had been anticipating the question and done my homework. Had the 3 stone ring--with a center ruby and two smaller diamonds, one on each side--made by a jeweler in the jewelry district in downtown Los Angeles.

Celebrated 25 years this May. It has had ups and downs--some pretty serious downs--but things are looking up again.
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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-05-10 03:08 PM
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10. We'd dated for 3 years in high school and 1 in college. The night before he left for
second year, he took me to the beach where we sat in the car and ate pizza and he told me all these romantic things which I wasn't even listening to because I was stewing over the fact that he had hinted months ago at getting engaged and then never proposed. So the long and the short of it is, he proposed and I didn't really hear him.

Ah well. It worked out, obviously.
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femmocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-05-10 03:26 PM
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11. Not very romantic....
My husband-to-be was in the army, stationed in South Carolina. He called me one night and said, "I'm on leave this weekend, and we're GETTING MARRIED." LOL (We were engaged the previous Thanksgiving.)

So---I flew to SC and we eloped!

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triguy46 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-05-10 09:33 PM
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14. I gave what is now, 33 years later, remembered as the Dodge City Ultimatum:
"Either we get married within a year, or I'm getting back in the car and driving home to Kansas City." We hadn't seen each other for almost 2 years, and I had just had a brief letter from her a few weeks earlier. We had dated for 2 years in college, and never really reconnected until the DCU 3 years after that. It worked. 33 years later, 2 kids, successful careers and all.
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Brother Buzz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-05-10 09:46 PM
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15. I just sort of suggested it while reposing in bed at 8 am - she agreed
We were married before before 11am. Our son hatched 21 days later, just like a chick.
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skygazer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-05-10 11:02 PM
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16. Actually, I posted a thread on here
Entitled "Momentous decision - I want to get married."

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=105&topic_id=6894441

And when my now-husband got home that afternoon, I told him pretty much the same thing. After getting a trapped, deer-in-the-headlight look, he realized it made a lot of sense. We laugh about it now but he was pretty close to panic at first. :P
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Steely_Dan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-05-10 11:41 PM
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17. I Proposed on the Ventura Pier
I planned it all out to the last detail...

We were fishing off the pier. My "future wife" went down several yards to empty some trash. While she was out of sight, I attached a bottle with a note in it to the end of her fishing line. When she got back, I told her that I thought her line had a fish on it. I took her pole a pretended to be fighting a fish she had just caught. We started to draw a crowd of people...

When I pulled up the line, there was the bottle.

The note inside was made to look very old a weathered. It read.

Help...I'm stranded on a desert island. I need food and water. But what I need most is nourishment for my soul. Is there anyone willing to search for my island? I will wait for you...I will watch the horizon and wait for you.

She finally figured out that the note wasn't real. I proposed...she said yes.

-PLA
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Radical Activist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-05-10 11:45 PM
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18. Stereotypical New Years Eve.
At the countdown with fireworks.
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trackfan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Aug-06-10 12:50 AM
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19. We had been living together for about 2 years,
and were sitting at the dinner table; I made the suggestion, and she was agreeable. Now married 11 years.
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SwampG8r Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Aug-06-10 01:38 AM
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20. wife gave me an address
and a time told me to dress nice
i got there it was a church
everyone was all into it so i went along too

honestly i asked my wife to marry me when she was 16 but we were not allowed to openly date til she was 17 and were married shortly after she turned 18 in 1978
we met a year earlier and both knew we would always be together
she gets me and as those close know if you get me then others wont get you
we renewed our vows to each other last year on the skyway at the grand canyon west and exchanged new rings
she is a 50 year old grandma but i still see that shy smart razor tounged skinny little girl whenever i see her
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Maru Kitteh Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Aug-06-10 02:02 AM
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21. We talked about getting married one week after our first date...
So a year later when we decided to move to another state I said, "We should go ahead and get married before we go." He said, "Yeah, I guess we probably should."

I'm glad we didn't make a big deal out of everything. We got married with our two witnesses outdoors in a very lovely park. It was simple, sweet, and fun. No family members to get their feelings crushed by the endless stupid things that families do. We had a tiny little reception with punch and cake in my Mom & Dad's garage the next weekend.

We came back to our home state 6 years later.

18 years ago July 19th.

It's been a lovely marriage.
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csziggy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Aug-06-10 02:51 AM
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22. Neither of us ever really proposed
We'd been together about a year and a half and my circumstances changed drastically. At one of the business meetings involved, I got all sorts of advice about not having a relationship without making it official. So when I got home from that trip, I gave Mr. csziggy a choice - we could get married or we had to break up. He thought about it a few days and then came back to me and said yes. A few weeks later we got the license.

On my birthday, we woke up and he said, "Hey let's get married today." we woke up a friend who was a pizza cook and notary public, handed him his jeans, and he came out and signed the license. We did not want any party, but he called all the crowd and they showed up at our house later to celebrate.

A couple of weeks ago we had our 33rd anniversary proving that it does not take a fancy ceremony or any romance to make a good long lasting relationship.
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SwissTony Donating Member (240 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Aug-06-10 06:01 AM
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23. In bed, after some...em..activity
We knew it was going to happen.

I said "Will you marry me?" She said "Yes". 30 years in January 2011. Now, we've got one grandchild and another on the way.
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hippywife Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Aug-07-10 06:25 PM
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27. Ours was similar.
Edited on Sat Aug-07-10 06:26 PM by hippywife
But it was Before some...em...activity. :rofl:

I lived in Ohio, he lived here in Oklahoma. He'd come up to Ohio to meet me for the first time on Feb. 14, 1997, and spent four days. I came down here around Easter to visit him. He asked me within hours of the first day of my visit, after he showed me around what was to be my new home.

We've been married now for 13 years last July 5th.

Welcome to DU. :hi:
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Orsino Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Aug-06-10 07:21 PM
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24. Not certain.
The subject came up before we met in person, then was briefly discussed on our first date as probably a good idea. I guess it was about two months later that we started telling people that we were gonna marry. Presumably, we finalized the decision at some point in there, but we just aren't sure when. It was an understanding, rather than a proposal to be accepted or rejected. :shrug:

That was fifteen years ago. :loveya:
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TrogL Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Aug-07-10 01:35 AM
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25. I'm a sneaky bastard
1st time, we'd looked at a ring and I hummed and hawed and made a big production out deciding not to get it. Then made an excuse to go to the store next door for more film and nipped across and bought it. Then, back at the hotel arranged with the front desk to have dinner brought up through room service. Slipped them the ring box and they put it in a separate dish.

When she found it she said "You rolling son-of-a-bitch, you've got the whole fucking city in on this, don't you. I will get you for this if it's the last thing I do."

2nd time, made sure she decorated the tree so she knew exactly where everything was. Then had one of her kids distract her while slipped the box in at her eye level as an extra ornament. She noticed the extra thing had appeared by magic, recognized what it might be and said "oh, crap, what have you done". The kids giggled.
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abq e streeter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Aug-07-10 02:48 PM
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26. Never have--but a guy about 20 feet away from us at the baseball game last night
Edited on Sat Aug-07-10 02:50 PM by abq e streeter
proposed to his girlfriend between innings ...He obviously had arranged it with the team (but was definitely a surprise to her); the camera was on them and the whole thing was projected onto the jumbotron or whatever they call it on the scoreboard.
P.S. She said yes
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Redstone Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Aug-07-10 07:30 PM
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28. I said, "I think we can afford a wedding now." Not very romantic, but
a real consideration when I was getting my business up and running.

Redstone
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